My dad really hurt my feelings on Sunday.

I might yell at him and ask him why exactly he dint turn up in case if he his not well, I will say sorry to him and take him to doctor.

Neelygal - did you actually make a point of asking him to come to your daughter's birthday party? Did you give him an invitation? Did you say to him that you would be disappointed if he didn't turn up? Maybe he wanted to come but didn't know if he was really welcome. Sometimes we need to say things that otherwise we might think people should know without being told. I hope it was a good party, though.

Could you please check out the facts first? Your mom could have gotten ill or something, dont blame Dad just yet, he could be completely innocent! Are you sure he really stopped her?

I am so sorry that your dad chose to stay home and not come to your little girls first birthday party. If he didn't have a valid excuse, I would also be angry. Since I'm a grandma I wouldn't miss an important event of this kind unless I was sick or some emergency situation developed. Our grandkids live in another state so I do miss out on any party. Our grandson was born in January and the weather in Missouri is so nasty that it's not always a good time of the year to fly. I do make certain he has gifts and I call. He's only 3 but our daughter did give him a party this year. I was so sorry I couldn't make it. I am responding to this discussion two weeks after you posted it. Have you discussed this with your dad?

Maybe he had a reason,misses your Mom? But even if he doesn't you can't change someone else's actions.It's just going to make you miserable if you stay angry at him so be angry for awhile then put it behind you.

I would be upset aswell if my dad didnt show up after bing invited. But you should try not to let it get to you too much an just imbrase that your litte girl has turned one! If your father dicides not to be apart of evey special moment of her life then its his loss!! She dosent need to get use to MEN being pigs in her life and letting her down! Teach her to be strong and that people like your father dont deserve her time or energy! So dont waste yours on being mad at him eather. Im sorry to hear abotu your mother, i dont knw what i would do with out mine. hope this helps. Jess

See, I met my dad for the first time when I was 21. I'm still 21, and we haven't talked in months. He's pathetic. I often wonder what I'll tell my kids about their grandfather, if he's even going to want to be there, or if I'll let him. I'm sorry your father did this. I can only imagine how it makes you feel...but be strong. You love your daughter, protect her and love her. Sometimes we want love from people, who really may be incapable of loving. Or sometimes they just don't understand the point to it all... maybe it's better he wasn't there...as sad as that might sound. I wish you the best... Even though your mother is gone, you can still feel her love...cherish that...

I know you are hurt because your Dad didn't come. But men are so much different than women. Most of them see no reason for a card, or gifts. And they don't really get into birthday parties. Don't hold it against your Dad for not coming. That doesn't mean he doesn't love your daughter or you. Perhaps he felt like staying home because it would remind him that your Mother wasn't there to celebrate with you all, too. We never know what goes through a person's mind. Why not ask him if he forgot about the party. Don't tell him you are angry because he didn't come. Perhaps he will open up and tell you his reasons for not attending.

i have the same issue with my boyfriends mom, for my son's 4th birthday she was no where to be found and she never even called to say anything about it. my mom never forgets things that are of importance to her and she is always there for my kids. so when i confronted my boyfriends mother about she was just like well no one called me to remind me and i have other things that go on in my life tha i have to so. so i just went off and i told her that i shouldnt have to call you to remind you to call your grandson on his birthday and i told her that everyone else has things to do as well but they make time for important dates. i told her that from now on if she wants to be involved with her grandkids then she needs to call me because i am not going to force my kids on anyone. and i told her that i didnt owe her anything i am trying to help her by incuding her in things especially since her own kids dont even talk to her and she dont even know where half ofher kids are. i told her that if she doesnt call then that will be her lost, but dont try and come around later down the line and take credit for his successes.