how would you feel if your kids call you by your name instead of MOMMY??

I think it's disrespectful too. My husband and I call each other by our names....and our kids call us the respective term for mother and father in our language. It's not even 'mummy' and 'daddy'. My now 19 month old son would call me by name a few months back....I think it's because he would hear his father call me by name. But I would give him a look of mock anger and ask him 'Who do you think is your ____?' and tell him the term for mother. Now he calls me 'amma' (mother). But I teach kindergarten and I have a few kids in my class who call me by name...no..Miss or Mrs. attached...just the name. I was quite surprised because it is very uncommon in the Indian setup to find a child calling an adult by name...kids are taught to refer to strangers as 'uncle' or 'aunty' because it's disrespectful for a child to call an adult by name. I repeat the sentence the kids at class tell me and then add 'Maam' to it. After I am sure they know what to call me, I ignore them when they talk to me referring to me by my first name. The get the message pretty quickly.

Hello jHoEn16, I don't like it when my son calls me by my name. If he just follow or imitate others, I can forgive him. Once awhile, maybe it won't affect my feelings. But, if all the times my son calls me by my name, I will be truly sad. People will think that I don't know how to teach my son. My son is just 22 months old. He always call me 'Mommy' but sometimes when he hears how my sister calls me, he will start to imitate. Normally, I will slap his face softly and correct him. One time, I called my husband in front of him and he followed me, calling his father 'Dear'.

I feel very annoyed when my kids call me with my name. My elder daughter is just 18 months old but I teach her good discipline she knows very well what she has to do when some body gives her something she says sorry and thanks now then. She also understands when mom gets angry and she will move accordingly she is also very close to me and plays with me very well so what I mean to say is , it is important to teach the discipline to children from the beginning itself , we can actually mold them properly make them good children.

My daughter calls me Mom, Mommy, Mama, etc. She also calls me by my nickname which is short version of my first name. It makes us best friends. I'm her mom, but in ten years when she's a teen, I'm going to be the person she turns to when she has problems. She won't need some young guy's attentions to make her feel worthwhile or special, cause she will be my best friend as she is now. I don't mind if she uses my name. I'm not so hung up on proper place nouns or things. It's just a title. Some people are called Mom and they're not really moms. Some people who are called Mom are not good moms. Others are. It's just a title. I would prefer for her to call me whatever helps her think of me as a friend. I am not willing to separate myself from her on such a tiny point. If the name MOM stands in the way of her thinking of me as a friend and confidant then I will abolish that word from my house. She started calling me by my nickname when she was around 18 months old cause she couldn't pronounce Mom. And later called me Mommy when she could pronounce the word. Some kids have learning disabilities that prevent them from using certain sound/phonics combination as my daughter did. By the time she turned three years old and had developed her speech enough to call me Mom on a regular basis, she was in the habit of using my first name/ nickname. So the name stuck. I'm fine with it. Doesn't bother me. She loves me. And I love her. Nothing's going to change that. She has respect for me, cause I'm a good person and a good mom. Not simply cause of a title. The title is worthless. Respect has nothing to do with a title. But I do respect differing opinions and understand that other mothers do things their own way. I'm sure other mothers won't agree with me and that's fine. I'm not asking anyone for their version of things. This is how I do things. I'd never ask another Mom to raise her child in any way that conflicted with her own beliefs or opinion. But for me, this is my opinion and the way I'm raising my child! Works for us. And that is all that is important.

jHoEn16, Hi mother of five here and you know what the kid is 20 months old. Not 2 and a half. Tha baby hears her husband call her by that name. The baby calling her by her name is mimicking. She's too young to understand she is wrong. But bottom line is she a baby it happens wether you have your other half call you mommy or daddy. When my kids were little and the heard my family call me by my name they went through a small period of calling me by my name but when they got older and understood they called me mommy again or mom. They now say mom your name is _______ right? And I say yes but you call me mom. That way when they introduce me to their friends they can call me by my name because Ms so and so seems a little old and I'm more informal and my last name is hard to pronounce. So I like to keep it simple. Sometmes it's not always feasible to change things to daddy in the home yep but out with family and friends and shopping you can't do that because you have everyone turn around when you say daddy come here. What do I do when my kids called me by my name, they were real young and explained to them when they were able to understand that to them I'm mom, mommy,and ma. That other adults and daddy can call me that. Kids are curious and they like to have knowledge it doesn't mean that they are disrespectful. Let me give you a situation, would you expect a child who never meet the father until say they were six to call him dad? I wouldn't that parent wasn't there until they were six this parent has to earn the right to be called a parent. I know that this is different in your friends situation but you also have to think that this may be the case when you see some people out in public, just like you never know when a family just got a new step parent I would never demand or expect my child to call that new step parent dad unless they wanted to. For the longest time my older three called my fiance Ryan when they were all able to speak alot they made the decision themselves to call him dad. He's been with me since my oldest was 2 going on three and my third child was 6 months old. How do I feel about it when theyme by my name? I would have to say nothing I'm not upset I'm not angry because they are not doing it vengfully as if they were a teenager and doing it to get on my nerves. I think each of my kids has called me by my name for at least a couple times each nothing long and drawn out but just because they learned it was my name through my family and it interested them. Hey mom finally is a person like me with a name. You have to look at the context and age of the kid doing it. Toddlers saying their parents name is nothing. I wouldn't discipline the kids in that trivial matter. I'm not hitler. Kids are kids and they are explorative and interested in everything they hear they mimick those around us they don't do it purposefully to be a smart a$$ at they age you are talking about with your friend. I would however explain that to them I am mom and not make a big deal about it. Now if my teenage daughter came in and decided she was ticked off and going to call me by my name I would remind her what my name is to her and see if she then does it again after that then I would do something but not for a kid below 6 yrs of age that is growing and gathering knowledge and is learning about their world and justlearned that their mom is like them with a name and they find it interesting. To assume because a parent or one parent is being called by their name in this day and age that the kid or kids are disrespectful is just wrong becuase you are not in the family you have no way of knowing if they are a step parent or a parent that recently came into the picture and if you are going to assume this about an infant through to kindergarten then that is so many shades of wrong... Things today are a lot different than 20-30 yrs ago or longer more and more people are not married or have kids while in highschool and the divorce rate lets not even get into that. So in todays world and society you have to see the interaction with the family if the kids is hey Jill isn't that a nice top? Then most likely Jill is the step mom or a parent that has been absent from the childs life. You have to be open and see everything that is going on. If the kid say Jill get the blank out of my face then wether or not what the situation is that is totally disrespectful but unless it's an obvious dig with rude or harshness or plan malice added toward it your can't be sure what the intent or situation is. I'm sorry I just happen to see things in a different light than you. If my kids call me by my name right now they are in a learning stage my kids are 4,5, 7,8, and 9. My 7,8,and 9 yr olds already went throught lets call mom by her first name when they were 3 through 5. LOL!!! But they did it once or twice. LOL!! Good luck with your first child you'll find out that parenting is a lot learning because not everything is found in a text book or explained we all make mistakes and how we learn and grow from the process is what really counts. I can say I'm a better parent now than I was when my daughter was one. Because I have learned so much and I'm still learning parenting is a journey and with this journey you gain so much knowledge if you keep your eyes, mind and heart open.

My niece called her mom by name when she was little. Now she calls her mom. It isn't that big of an issue unless you make it one. I don't see it as a reason to discipline the child. What kind of disobedience has been done to warrant it?

I think at 20 months it's not an issue. The father probably uses his wife's name. The child is at the very early stages of learning to talk so I wouldn't worry. Even a precocious 4 year old calling parents by their given names wouldn't be a problem for me as the more you correct them the worse they get. It's best ignored. Some things become exacerbated because an issue is made of them. Discipline in this situation is over the top and definitely uncalled for in my opinion.

The only time my daughters ever called me by my name was when we were joking around, and I have to add they were much older, late teens early 20's. Mainly they would do that when I was acting like I wasn't listening to them and they had called 'mom' several times, then they would figure they could get my attention by calling me by my first and middle names! lol I've never actually known anyone that had kids that called them by their names.

I am not yet a parent but I know how parents (especially in a culture like what we have in the Philippines) would feel in case their children would call them by their names. Perhaps, it has something to do with culture. I know of some people from other countries who call their parents by their first names especially after they reach the age of 18. I do not have anything against them. However, it would really be more proper for children to call their parents mom and dad rather than by their first name.

I think it is cute and not something to worry about. Once the kid is older she will call her mom, mommy again. I don't think it is a big deal at that age. I don't think people would think it disrespectful but rather cute. There are so many other worries in life, so why sweat the small stuff. If the mother doesn't mind it, than why should you. I don't think it is a big problem and if my kids had ever called me by my name instead of mommy, than I would just laugh it off and make a joke out of it. I don't think other people think anything about it.

This is a easy one. I would not answer them. I am their mother not their friend.

I remember a time when I was a kid I used to call my parents and grandparents by their names instead of calling them mama, papa, grandpa or grandma. It was because I always hear our visitors calling them on a first-name basis. I was too innocent to realize it wasn't proper. So my parents patiently taught me that calling them mama or papa is a sign of respect. It was only that short time in my life. Hehe.

the times I've called my parents by their first name are very few but my husband has called his parents by name since he was around 18. Oddly enough, he prefers to be called dad whereas I dont mind what my sons call me (within reason...) They're in their 20s now but i wouldn't have a problem with it anyway as I dont consider it to be a lack of repect at all.

Children today are very different,because they are exposed to many media like t.v. we can't always be by his side to watch t.v. together.They can easily adapt,whatever they heard or watch they copy it.My daughter Sakura is very fond of watching t.v. like cartoons,even dramas....she's like an adult.She like to copy statements and words she just heard.When she was 2 years old the i heard her she called me "ate aye".That's my nickname in the house,she heard her tita while calling me.I just laughed on it because i know she did'nt knew what she said she just copied.Now she's in prep. whenever she has homework and scolding her to it,she say "ang kulit mo Iris".I stared at her making my eyes big,she just get her head down.She knows that i'm angry.I use eye contact to make her feel shes did wrong.And she understands what i say.She did'nt do it again.hehehe!!!Am i that scary?

I would also not feel comfortable if my kids address me by my real name. Even my better normally does not call me by first name. (It is a general convention in India, that wives do not call their husband's name). I agree with you that children needs to be disciplined in this matter.

20 months old is still very young and she's only repeating what she hears. We had the same problem with my granddaughter. My son-in-law was always having to yell at my daughter to get up (we later found out she had diabetes). Because he was always yelling her name that was my granddaughters first word, Bobbie Jo. First she just said Bobbie and later she said both names together. Daddy has always been daddy. This name thing lasted for about 4 years or so. She needs to be told politely and non threateningly to call her mommy, Mommy or momma. You saying, "Go ask your mommy", or "Go give this to mommy" would be helpful also. My granddaughter is now 8 and she calls my daughter mom or mommy when she is sick. SHe called me by my name once that I can remember and her daddy got down to her level, looked at her and said "what did you say?". She corrected to grandma and I don't think she ever did it again. It's just a new wordfor your friend's child. If it does not bother your friend then you should not let it bother you. I agree it is a form of respect, and it lets other people know what the relationship is. I for one even as an adult could never call my mother by her given name. She is Mom to me, always.

I think you are right. It is incorrect for a child to call his/her parents by their names continuesly. Though I wont blame the girl cos she might have learnt it outside or through her parents and also, it really depends of the location. For example, here in Africa, a child won't day call their parents by their names because it is not acceptable while it is encouraged (somehow) in thhe western world. But to be honest, I won't be happy to hear my children often calling my names.

I never allowed any of my children to call me or their dad by our first names. It is totally about the respect, which seems to be lacking in many areas of our society today. Children need to be taught respect very early, and it will stick with them. With my children, I took it a step further because I am a strong believer in, "Yes ma'am" and "No sir". My parents are aged 66 and 70 and instilled in me and my sibs the essence of simple respect. To date, I still acknoledge my parents with, "Ma'am and Sir" because they are so deserving of every ounce of respect, they were and still are good parents. So naturally, I also instilled simple respect into my 4 children and each has an acceptable level of respect for my husband and I. =)

If/when I ever have children, I will teach them my first name and insist that they use it instead of "mommy" or "mom". Mostly because most children call their parents "mommy" and "daddy" and you hear it all the time; if I am ever out with my child and they need to get my attention, if they say my name (which is rather unique) I will know right away that it is MY child and they need ME. Now, the use of the middle name along with the first name is the big no-no; If your parent ever speaks your first and middle, or full name, you generally know you're in trouble ;) And that's not really respectful territory for a child to tread in. I didn't even know what my mother's middle name WAS until I was ten and my grandmother told me.

Kids learn in two ways, what they hear and what they see. Often times it is not a show of disrespect but what they hear and choose to repeat. Definitely at 20 months old I can assure you the child is not displaying disrepect. Also I have witnessed situations when there are extended family members like say in-laws or others in the household whereby a number of people refer to that person by their first name kids will pick that up because thats what they hear the most. I would not refer to my spouse as daddy for sure. As he is not my father! I can probally assure you that the child is probally more favorable to repeating the father or whoever refers to mommy by her first name than her. At 20 months all she can probally do is re-direct the child when she calls her by her first name if it bothers her or not respond to the child when she is called by her first name. The child will soon figure out that if she is to respond she will need to say mommy.