Managing the ex-wife?

You of course should voice your opinion, but personally I think that you need to allow him to spend time with his daughter at times like this if he really only gets to spend so very little time with her, you should be proud of him being a daddy that actually wants to see his child. Too many men could care less about their kids from past relationships and this is really sad for the children. So perhaps you should consider being supportive unless you have reason to suspect something else might be going on. Just my thoughts on the subject.

Ah yes gotta love the Ex's...lol My husband has one and I do not talk to her at all I just tell him 5 minutes in a room no one around but me and her is all I need. lol but am over that now. Use to be no matter what I said to the kids it was wrong and she would be IM'ing him or calling him to complain. But when it got to much to handle she shipped the kids to us well or should I say we drove close to 3000 miles to pick them up. she had hardly any contact with them never sent b-day cards or present or even call and christmas came and went. But guesses she got jealous when they were getting close to me because then the calls came and she would contact them when they were at school in their computer classes via e-mails so after 19 months we took em home and well lets say we are grand partents now. One of the 3 girls did stay with us she didn't wanna go back she wasn't made to but then her mom started workin on her as well....after 3 years she went back needless to say we became grandparents again. Teens and babies. shakes my head. So she really did care about em she just missed the child support. But enough of my ramblin. If you all get along and you know he doesn't care can either bite the bullet or if she shows up can casually say sorry this is a family event. Have you asked your hubby to help out in this area? I mean he doesn't go to the BBQ's and things without you does he? Thank gawd my hubbys girls are 20,21 and 16 now You have it a little easier than most you get along with her. My hubbys ex when we first went to visit after we were married she called him at his dads and wanted him to come change the light bulb and visit the kids. sighs. he went he came back and now she changes her own light bulbs and anything else she needs if it does pertain to the one daughter that still is at home she does herself or gets someone else. He doesn't go to anything where she is at and am not with him. Nor does he want to....lol Talk to your husband calmly about the way you feel and that you think she is jealous of you and the little girl getting close and that you feel she regrets walking out on him and blah blah. Ask him to deal with it or help you figure out away to deal with it. Most of all keep open CALM communications with him because you don't want to nag and him start to keep secrets. I know probably wasn't much help and if not sorry but if you got a little help awesome.

I would speak calmly to your husband about it and just tell him how you feel about it. I dealt with the ex-wife for years...until she finally moved on and got married. My husband's exes always used the kids as ammo against him and his family. I couldn't stand it. They know they would get what they wanted if they used the kids as an excuse. I am not like this with my ex and I am great friends with my ex-husband's wife. She knows that I don't want him back ever and has nothing to worry about!