Have we gotten so busy that we cna't be friends anymore?

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I am one of those people who treasures my friends. (normally I prefer to have few of them so that I can lavish each with the attention that they and the relationship deserve.) However I am confounded quite often with how unfriendly peoples old good friends can be. Case in point: I am helping a friend of my man move. They have been friends for a number of years however I just met her last year. I like her, she is a really cool lady. Anyway she is moving out of her house that she has lived in for years and all of her long time so called "friends" tell her. Oh K I don't know how you are managing to do it, in this 114 degree heat. i would help you with it all but...." Many put the blame on the heat out here which is indeed 114 and higher in the day time. However if K is surviving it, and lugging all of the stuff around on her own with awful arthritis pain and no help then why do these able bodied friends think that they too can't brave the heat for a little while and support one of their old dear friends? I like her, I had offered to help and offered to help but because we are just beginning our friendship she felt awkward because she cannot afford to pay me. Yet when my computer went down last year and I needed one desperately and could not afford one, with my online education hanging in the balance, she not only gave me one computer she gave me both of her old computers so I could cobble together a working system and get back on track. And when we were in desperate need of $3000 to pay a traffic ticket the boyfriend "forgot" about until 20 days before they were going to suspend his driving licence, she happened to have it and she lent it to him to pay it. We paid it, but still have not paid her back any of it in the three months since. So I feel like as she has been a friend to us, even though she is technically the boyfriend's old friend, I feel like it would be unkind and remiss of me to keep letting her do it all by herself, so I am helping her. But her friends call to interrupt the process constantly and see how it is coming along. I wonder, if they have the time to sit around and call, why not stop by and see for themselves. Maybe make themselves useful while they are there. Why does it seem we have all kinds of friends who want to come to parties at our homes, events large and small with us, and we with them, and they certainly want invitations to her housewarming party, because this chick knows how to throw a party! but it is normally your newer friends, people who have no reason truly to be the only one to set their things aside and offer a hand when someone really needs it for the hard stuff instead of just the easy stuff all of the time. Not that many of my old dear friends are any better, or any more helpful. Suddenly when this dire need that you have for just a couple extra pairs of hands comes along, all the sudden everyone who comes by and hangs out in fair weather, all the time, are all suddenly "busy" when the weather gets a little cloudier or in our case cloudless and hotter!