Doesn't it seem strange?
By jillhill
@jillhill (37354)
United States
July 9, 2008 5:59pm CST
My daughter and granddaughter have been staying for a few days as they will soon be moving from Lincoln NE to Rome NY....so they wanted to spend some time here and with my ex. Well they went out to my ex's.....and his new girlfriend offered to take my granddaughter with her on a museum tour..and drop her off here. My daughter and I were standing outside when they got home. I admit I felt a bit uneasy as I was married to her boyfriend...we talked a while and I decided to go back into the house thinking she would leave...so my daughter and I started back to the house and she followed. I didn't invite her in...she just followed us and came in and made herself comfortable and stayed for an hour and a half. She is very nice and was easy to talk to but I felt a little uncomfortable....it will probably not happen again for a very long time but don't you think it was a little strange she followed me and sat and visited?
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13 responses
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Jul 08
Jillhill I got lost with all the xes here, you mean your present husband was your ex's girlfriend's boyfriend? My head is swimming. this does seem strange that she would go out of
her way to entertain your granddaughter then just walkinto
your house uninvited and make herself at home, bet she was
checking you out to see what you had that she didnt that appealed so to her ex boyfriend and your current husband. hopeI have got
this right now. I would have been very uncomfortable too. when I went with my husband to wa state to visit his family he took me with him to vist his first wife, now that made me most uncomfortable and I refused to go to the door with him. I did'
not want to meet his exwife at all. I thought this really rather insensitive of him.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I truly did feel like I was getting too many questions...she even wanted me to dig out some of my craft projects etc.....I had one of my painted windows in the dining room so I pointed to that...it was odd....we have been divorced for 30 years...so it's not like I am any kind of threat! LOL
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Strange? No A little awkward but not strange. It is good that you can be friendly with your ex's girlfriend. That's great.
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@wrdsofwisdm (1069)
• United States
10 Jul 08
She was probably nervous and made the snap decision to get to know you better. That had to be hard for her to risk making you upset with her, so I guess she was thinking "It's now or never" so she just went for it.
She made her move and now she's probably thinking the ball is in your court.
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@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
10 Jul 08
i guess it's a tad strange, but perhaps she was really trying to be friendly and to get to know you guys better. i guess it would be stranger for you than for your daughter.
it was good that she was easy to talk to, adn i guess that she was nice enough. so if she makes the effort then perhaps if you don't feel too uncomfortable you could just be friends with her.
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I wouldn't like it if she followed me in uninvited and I wouldn't do that to anyone else either.
On the other hand, my ex-husband's wife and I are very close friends. We hang out and talk all the time. 
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
• United States
10 Jul 08
You would think she would have felt uncomfortable as well, if you didn't invite her in. I would have. I don't really know though, I have never had to deal with this either...at least not at this point in my life yet...lol
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@jvyyuie (83)
• China
15 Jul 08
w our whole life doesnt mean theyre necessarily true...our societys opinions are controlled by these paradimes that simply act as walls that we bounce off of until we end up chasing conformity without even knowing it. for me that is: thinking that there are 3 different candidates in play when its simply drama as you said. we are the fools.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
10 Jul 08
i wouldnt want to hang out with the ex of whomever i am with.. thats creepy!!
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@thestar (304)
• Egypt
26 Jul 08
i think she just tried to know about his bf wife to know how to satisfy him or to figer out if you don't have something she already has anyway i think that she tried to compare her self with you to know some information and avoid to do the same thing that could be the reason of your divorce . anyway i think it is a good thing that you tread here very nice and i believe you are very nice person to do that have a nice time my friend.
