Is three a crowd?....

I think it is possible you just have to remember to be open and honest with all involved.

its possible you just have to make sure all partys involved will deal with it well afterwards and doesnt turn into this weird thing where everything is awkward after

It is possible. You just have to be careful. Talk to your husband. I can't say this enough times to people thinking about swinging or opening their marriage. Tell him about what you're worried about. Explain to him that you would be afraid that he might fall in love with this other person. Even if your husband loves you more than the sun, it doesn't mean you can't be insecure sometimes. Trust me, I know. Talk about what you would allow and would not allow. For example, is kissing allowed? Is it okay for him to play with the other woman when you're not around? Get everything out in the open so can be no misunderstandings. People are less likely to get hurt this way. When or if you do find a girl that you would be interested in playing with, sit down with her and get to know her. Explain your situation and tell her what the limitations are. Let her know that you and your husband are not looking for love. A seasoned swinger will already know this, but again it's best to get everything out on the table. Make sure you explore all the facets of the situation and, most importantly, continue to communicate with your husband and have him do the same with you. If at any time you're uncomfortable, say something. You have to take responsibility for your feelings in a situation like this. It doesn't help to not say anything and just have a fight with your husband later when the girlfriend has gone home. I hope this helps you out. My husband and I have been swinging for several years, so I know the ins and outs of what works and what doesn't. Good luck to you both...or all three of you if that's what you decide. :)

first you should check it out once to see how it goes over. very few couples can actually pull this off and be happy about it continuing or later, etc. this is from someone that really really knows. one hubby i was with, it broke us up and not because i had the problem with it. i later found a man/hubby that we "swung" quite a lot and it only made us love and appreciate each other more. like i said, not everyone can be the way they think they will be with it. so take it slow and dont continue if either felt uncomfortable

I would say that is but it isn't... My hubby will not at all have another girl in the bedroom maybe it because we have only been married for 3 months.. and plus he knows i'm a jealous type and he know that i will get mad if i even caught him looking at another female. But for me i would say three is a crowd... I'm not interested in having a threesome with my hubby i wouldn't wanna get mad at him for it expestionly if it was my idea. I love my huby but i will leave that up to a later date once i get mature enough and out of the jealous stage... I wouldn't mind trying it but right now isn't the time for it.. I would wanna set my husband up to get in trouble like that... I have asked him but he has said that he wouldn't want another women in the room at all..

Hey fafinette! I think it's possible just depends on the people involved. If you and your husband love each other, and trust each other then I do believe that it would be possible. If there is any type of mistrust it would be difficult. I also think that it would need to be a threesome always, no one doing their own thing on the side, that could end badly. I personally couldn't do it, I'm way too jealous and my partner is very needy. She flirts and has cheated before so I would be scared that something would go on when I wasn't around. I'm a little insecure I guess. But for you the way it sounds you guys could do it and it would spice it up a little. Good Luck!Let me know if you do and how it goes.

Although it may be a thrill for your husband and you to try this threesome thing are you ready to face what may happen as a result? One must remember once something is done it is most likely impossible to turn back the clocks. Personally, I would think it would rather sweet to have my wife talk about bringing in a nother women but then again it is a guy thing. Most likely I would refuse the situation and direct us both to marriage couseling.

I'm not sure there is a way for the third person not to feel like an extra but she has to understand that coming in. You two are married and she's just coming by to join you, as long as everyone understands that and doesnt have a problem with it you all should be fine. I know, I've been the third wheel a couple of times and it was fun but it was understood that I wasnt part of their relationship and I was fine with that. Most important... Have Fun!! Hugs, Tianna

I would bring in a girl that neither of you are interested except for some financial relief! In otherwords a roommate that could share the expenses. If you guys are already having hard times financially that could get worse at anytime, I would not risk another situation that could also create addtional stress. Its too risky. If that is a want or desire for either you or your husband I would wait until I had the problem at hand resolved. Even though you both love each other very much you never know which straw will break the camel's back!

I think that as long as both people are being honest with one another and they both want to introduce a third person into the bedroom then it is ok. if one person just says it is ok but is not being honest then there could be some serious issues later on down the road I knew a couple who introduced a third into their bed even though they had talked about it for a while- the lady was not completely honest with herself and ended up being jealous of the new lady the three people were friends and they thought it would be ok- once it happened the guy started paying special attention to the new lady and the current girlfriend got very upset and jealous- she ended up driving away the other lady who used to be her friend and eventually ended up driving away the boyfriend as well

I personally believe that three is a crowd, especially in a marriage. Since you are having reservations, that shows that you aren't really sure about this. Why exactly do you want to do this? Is it just for fun? To try to fix some issues? Is it more for you than for him since he says He just prefers to watch..It's basically questions you have to ask yourself if you haven't already. From what I have heard, there are a lot of issues that stem from it. Not exactly your husband falling in love with her, but also the girl not wanting to go away. Personally, I wouldn't do this because I don't want to share my husband, but if you plan on doing so, just be sure about it and make sure there are some ground rules, especially for the other girl you are bringing in.

tat doesn't sound like good understanding between each other...