Have you ever alienated a good friend?

Yes. I worry very much about sharing too much of my personal problems with friends because they wont want to be around me. It seems like we are all looking to get a way from our lives for a bit when we get together with 'friends' and I worry about being too much of a downer. Some of my friends tell me that I don't open up enough. It is a fine line and I'm never really sure where it is drawn.

As you change your life the people in your life will change too - don't fear this, it is about growing and finding people that are your 'life philosophy matches' for eg. if you were overweight and had a dramatic loss of weight you should expect that you will loose some of your negative overwieght friends but gain some healthy, slim and fit friends who share your new philosophy on life. In saying this though, there are soulmates, which are different from just friends and they stay with you for life no matter what you do because their soul deep down is the same as yours so all the 'surface' changes you make won't change the way that they view you or you view them. Yeah, this is a bit out there, but do you get what I mean?

It seems that way with me. Not because of kids but because of my disability. It is like they are to scared to come around as much or they just don't understand things.I tire out pretty easy if I go anywhere and in the sun I can forget that. my body gets tired and shaky sometimes.Then again my friends are married so that is understandable also.

yea,i have.i offered a sympathetic ear to their problems,but when the shoe was on the other foot, they didn't wanna hear it.even though some of the things were the same for both sides. those aren't true friends.

hibeautyqueen oh I have worried a time or two lately as I have these shingles that are hanging on forever. I went out last night with my best Friend Nelda, and she was not feeling well andI had some itchy spots still. well I guess it was not the most fun evening for either of us although for me it was a thrill to get out once again from being cooped up for so long but I sensed she really was not feeling like eating out at all. we did talk but there was a sort of pall over everything.Maybe next time we will both feel better and it will be fun again.

I have and it was awfull. I can't really remember the exact circumstances but that and the end of the world I really abhor. Sometimes you can't help it or sometimes it happens without you being responsible. It is, however, awfull when it happens. I know the feeling well.

Actually I've seen both the extremes, i.e a friend who has cut himself off totally and someone who got closer and wanted to help. I would not distance myself from a friend but try and help them. If there are instances when they wanted to deal with the situation on thier own , I would respect thier wishes.

Oh no beauty none of those things have ever really happened to me thankfully! I think that friends should be there for each other no matter what - to listen to their problems, give them love and support, share the joy and the good times and to give each other a kick up the backside when we need to! i think if someone abandoned me for telling the truth or not being fun then they weren't a friend in the first place! xxx

We human are not robot. We have feelings and moods that is unpredictable. like you I do sometimes have this 'off season'mood. I try to isolate myself from my good friend. I refuse to answer phones and would not go out for a length of period until I cooled down. Sometimes I feel weird myself as I can't understand what devilish being I am for ignoring a well meaning friend.

I have lost friends before because they did not like the way I handled things at home. I feel if they do not like the way I handled things at home and dumped me then they where not my friend in the first place.

Hello beautyqueen26, Sometimes, I feel worry to share my personal problems with my friend. I am afraid to be labeled as a problematic friend. I know it is good to share with others as they can help you to solve your problem sometimes but I don't like the idea of my friend knowing almost every problem that I am facing. Maybe, they will just keep their distant from me or maybe not...

A really real friend won't abandon you when times are tough. Like you, I have worried about that too. I have been thru some very trying times throughout my life and not felt that I have been much of a good friend. I work hard to improve my life and learn as I go. I have found that my true friends while maybe did feel a bit neglected are still there for me and we talk thru the tough times. I have friends that i have been friends with for over 30 years...thick and thin. I have ex-boyfriends and even husbands ...we still are on friendly terms even after the worst of things. Communication is key...it is actually everything. If you value that friendship enough and they value it as well....yes it will survive.

hi dear i have many friends but true friends are those who accept you as you are and always help u when u need their help and support...least a friend can do is give moral support and stand by u to lift your spirits and give you the confidence in facing your problems...those who desert are not your friends anyways..so be yourself and all will be good..have a nice day..

Hello beauty queen, hope you are doing well. Well i was very close to my co-sister, i don't know she only was attached to me very much. But we are living in joint family , differences of opinion come , she has twins and i don't have child and she was not all that good natured./ Now we don't even talk to eachother, it hurts badly. And i have one childhood friend and we are friends till now. Take care , bleeisngs!

Yes, I suppose most of us have lost a friend over something in our private lives before. I lost a dear, dear friend over a very personal matter. My mistake was being honest enough to tell her about it before the rumor mill could reach her. She cut off our friendship; I am sad about the loss even to this day. This happened 17 years ago and it still hurts but I am glad I found the strength to be honest with her.

Two women I was sure would remain my closest friend forever, after all we'd been through together, won't talk to me now. It's been more than a year. I guess they wouldn't pick up their phones when my name was on caller ID, so I left each of them voice-mail asking what happened, as I have not a clue! Neither responded. I asked some other mutual friends if they knew, and they had no idea either. I must have done something really horrible, but I trly have no idea what it could have been. After about a month, I left voice-mails again, asking each of them to reconsider at least telling me what was wrong; maybe I could "fix" it. No response =(