embrace instead of scolding

I think there have been many parenting books written about this, but here is my take on it. i think that toddlers are old enough to know what is right and what is wrong and we should not indulge them and give them their own way because we think that they donm't know better and would not understand discipline. i think the best way to go about discipline is to let the kid know very clearly when he's done something wrong, that it is wrong and the kid should understand through our explanation why it is wrong. after discipline, if they kid says sorry (if the kid is able to speak), then it is ok to give the kid a hug to know that he is forgiven and the parents still love him.

I never scold my children for haveing a veiw on what they do or dont like to do, they are their own people and as such have their own minds im all for them expressing that and growing in themselves, however there are ways and means of showing your feelings and some are not acceptable ie tantrums so yes that is punished. My 2 year old no though she is only little and the part of the brain which deals with frustration is not yet fully developed so they have a tantrum they know no other way to deal with their frustration scolding wont help at all it would make it worse i find ignoring it and then a cuddle when they stop works better