Getting married at 19 to young?

July 10, 2008 7:58am CST
Hi there, first of all i would like to say thanks for reading. I am 19 and so is my Girlfriend, we have been together 4 years now. We are considering getting married but our parents think we should wait. We truly love each other and we want to be together forever. Our parents got married at 18, i dont really se the problem but they say we should wait and they are not happy with it. What is the best thing to do?
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8 responses
• United States
14 Jul 08
It has little to do with age. You are both still living at home, and neither one of you is in the position to be self-sufficient. Get into a position where you can support both yourself and her, and it will be a different situation.
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@fjgamer (543)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Good advice.
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14 Jul 08
Hi there, Ok i get what you mean. Thank you for your opinion guys.
@fjgamer (543)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Welcome to MyLot, Dhicks2008. To answer your question, the best thing to do is wait until you have a home of your own and are out of school. Afterward, it's up to you. In my opinion, marriage doesn't prove your love or anything, so it shouldn't be something you two care about. Just wait a while and make sure you are ready. Dip your toe in the water before you decide to jump into the pool.
• United States
14 Jul 08
I'm sorry, but I don't see what owning a home or going to school has to do with it.
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14 Jul 08
Hi and thank you, ok i shall do that. Thanks for your comment
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
Well I really think you should follow your parent's advice at this moment. I can sense that they have concerns about your future. Love can wait right, what i would advice you two is to strengthen the foundation of you relationship like looking for a job and securing your future together. Marriage is a great thing that could happen for a couple that love each other but that can be strengthened further by securing your love with practicality. Secure a job, save for your wedding and everything you think might need in the future. You will realized the true value of marriage if you go there prepared emotionally, physically and financially.
14 Jul 08
Thank you for your comment, good advice.
• United States
12 Jul 08
I personally think you should wait a couple years. While you have been together for a while, the time you've been together was your young, teen years. Give yourselves some more time to develop into the adults you will become before you make a commitment like marriage. Maybe you could get engaged and move in together for a while. See if you can live with one another. You learn a lot more about your partner when you live with them and you learn a lot about yourself when you don't live with your parents.
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14 Jul 08
hi there thanks for commenting on my post.
• United States
14 Jul 08
Normally I would say it's too young but I've changed my opinion lately. You've been dating for 4 years so I'm sure your ready. I'm not sure if you do or not but it's also important have a steady source of income too. If you don't want to wait try your best to convince them that your ready by finding ways of showing them and proving it to them. Good luck!
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14 Jul 08
Thank you for your comment, appreciate it . cheers
@sujal4 (1)
• India
11 Jul 08
Listen 2 your parents ,just do as they say.noo father or mother will want any harm be done to their children.There must be some reason 4 saying no 2 u at this time.Remember , the longer u wait the better u get.Learn 2 be patient.
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14 Jul 08
hi there, thanks very much for your comment
@baileycows (3665)
• United States
10 Jul 08
well i got married at 18 and had dated my husband for 4 years. We were married 5 when I realized that I had just not had time to leave. If you are wanting to spend your life together you can wait. Just hold out there is no reason to get married so soon.
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10 Jul 08
Ok thank you for your comment. The reason i want to get married and move out is simple. I love her , our parents are not allowing us to sleep togethers, or watch tv in our rooms, we have to sit in the conservatory afters 4 years :(
@humra7 (178)
• United States
10 Jul 08
This isn't problem. Just yesterday i proposed my girlfriend and she said yes. We're getting married in about month or two. Our parents don't like it but we don't care.
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10 Jul 08
Hi there, Congrats to you both, if you dont mind me asking how old are you both? so the best thing to do is just get married and disregard my parents views?