Company; Announced or not

I have always felt this way, and I make it a point for people to know this. If someone comes over unannounced I tell them I have plans and they should have called. I love to have company over but I also believe that I should be the one deciding who I want for company. My father in law comes over every Sunday in the afternoon. I have told him he needs to call before he comes over because we might not be home. He gets mad if we arent home because he drove 20 miles. I just have to tell him oh well I had something to do and you did not call before you came. You would think after a year he would learn. Might sound a little harsh but this is real life. He expects us to stay home so he can come and have a cup of coffee and stay for 15 minutes. I also think people should think about when is the welcome mat worn out. My sister that lives in Maine came down this past week, stayed with my mom. Of course when she called I said sure come on over I would love to see the kids but 6 hours later I was like when are you going to leave lol. Not to mention I am out of work with herniated disc.

I don't usually mind, but if they come at a bad time I'm not afraid to ask them to come back later! My mother taught us that it was bad manners to just drop in on people without calling first. I do occasionally drop in on a very close friend, but don't make a habit of it. And I'm not offended she tells me she has other plans.

I am so glad you brought this up. All these years I have been made to feel that I'm putting on airs. (calling before you visit is good manners in high society). I think it's just good manners period. What if you were having a private moment with your spouse? What if you had all your furniture pulled out to clean under it? What if. . . I would also like to prepare. Maybe make a pitcher of lemonade, or tea and maybe put some munchies out if I had any. . . not to mention picking up my shoes, magazines, mail etc. out of the living room and tidying up a bit.