HOW AM I SUPPOSE TO TREAT A CANCER PATIENT?

He has made his mistakes and is paying for them. Please don't make him feel any worse. Try looking him in his eyes when talking to him. It works for me when I have to talk with people who have disfigurements.

This is one of the hardest thing to do is deal with someone that is deformed and try to carry on with normal daily things and talk with them. I have worked with these type of people and worse for over 15 years. At frist was hard and terrible. Till one day a patient said to me "You never look at me." Wow that took me off my feet to hear that they could see I was doing that. From that day one when I spoke to them I look them straight in the eyes and spoke. Looking beyond the deformatiy they had and found a great beautiful loving person. Till this day I will never forget that person as they had taught me alot about people with deformaties. We as humans are quick to make a judgement of a person for thier looks. But what we really need to do is look deeper inside them to find out the real beauty that lyes with in them. Take care Have a great day...

Try to remember that someday you will have medical problems and want people to help you and be your friend. You can do it! Many friends have probably abandoned him. God Bless You.

HE is your uncle and he likes you ..who come u think it is a difficult job for you to be with me.....how it came to your mind that you can unable to take care of him... brother these sort of affection and love in the family relations are very hard to find, more over he is a cancer patient yaar and that patient is nothing your uncle... try to treat him with lots of love and affection dont make him feel that he is having cancer...u dont see the people who are working in health organisations how they take care of cancer patients... even they dont have relation with them...... comfort him treat him well take good care so that GOD will give good reward from ur deeds....

All I can say is that try to be there for your uncle because this is the time he needs you.Try not to let him see your face expressions or even know how you feel.All I can say just be there for him.

Well my grandma had the same thing she used snuff in her lip. It's really hard but if your close to your uncle like I was with my grandma you can do it. I dont think the way he looks bothers you as much as what other people think.

Remember that he is still a person who you have grown up knowing. It must be very hard for you! try to ignor what you can see and love him as the person you have always know. Do not turn away from him is he needs you, he is in enough pain and sadness already. These things can be heartbreaking but keep strong, I will talk to the Angels for you. ***R

You say you cant tolerate your unlce just because you have a bad mouth. Imagine the condition of doctors who have to deal with several patients everyday that too with a greeting smile so that they dont get discourages. Try to develop this attitude in you. Shed away all such kind of thoughts that are holding you back and trust me you will definitely like doing it

Can't imagine how hard it is for you facing the situation but think what you can probably think of was just try your best to treat him well and if really can't stand then maybe walk away for a while to have some fresh air or maybe you can try to explain to him that as advise by the doctor you need to wear a mask whenever facing him so as wouldn't let any changes to infect him further and I think if he do care about you and loving you he shouldn't have object it.

I CAN JUST SAY THAT HAVE HOPE FOR UR UNCLE AND GIVE HOPE TO UR UNCLE AS WELL THAT GOD WILL SURELY CURE HIM. READ FROM THE RELIGIOUS BOOK TO HIM AND PRAY WITH HIM WITH ALL UR HEART. I HAVE SEEN MANY CASES IN WHICH PRAYERS HAVE CURED CANCER,TUMER AND MANY OTHER SERIOUS AILMENTS. U CAN EVEN MAIL ME WITH ALL THE DETAILS OF UR UNCLE IF U WANT.I CAN TELL MY AUNT WHO HAS THE SPIRIT OF GOD N ILL TELL HER TO PRAY FOR HIM. EVEN ILL PRAY THAT HE RECOVERS SOON WITH A LONG LIFE AHEAD OF HIM. DO MAIL ME.

Treat him with compassion. I know it must be very hard for you. But remember he is the same person you knew as before, and it is hard for him to. Try to get past the physical aspect of what has happened to your uncle. If it is just to hard and you can't handle it, Try calling him on the phone often, any interaction with someone you care about is allways appriciated. Good thoughts are with you, Hang in there. I'm sure you are not the only person to have had this problem.

Overcome your "uncomfort", he is blood and an uncle. He deserves a friend....sounds like you can do it. Treat him like you would have before the disfigurment.:-) Jerm