What should I say?? or should i say anything?

United States
July 10, 2008 3:13pm CST
My father recently came to visit me and meet his new granddaughter. We dont get along too great but i made the best of a weird situation. Anyways to make a long story short, my grandmother called me yesterday and was complaining and being mean basically saying 'how much weight' ive put on. My father whom is just about 450 lbs told her that not much has changed i just got fat. LOL.. usually i don't let things bother me. When i lived with my dad he used to say the same thing and i weighed 130 lbs. So instead of having image issues with myself because of TV i have it due to my family. Anyways she didnt say anything about the baby, on how gorgeous she heard she was or anything. She just basically called to down me. I cried but didnt tell her what i would have liked to, because shes my grandma and it would have been wrong i guess. But my boyfriend told me i should have said something to her. I just dont feel what was on my mind was appropriate to say to an nearly 80 y/o woman, whom i love so much. So my question is mylotters...Should i have told her how i feel?? Or did i do the right thing and hold it in?? Im wondering also because that day i went out n bought diet pills which are makin me have mood swings, and i hate them, but im a new mom i feel or shall i say FELT comfortable with myself, i enjoy playing with my daughter and spending time with my family. Well let me know! Thanks
2 responses
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Because she is so old, and probably would only make the situation worse for you, I think it is better you held things in. As you say, your family has been on your case before about your weight, so why let it get to you now? Enjoy your life and your new baby and just ignore the bad things that may come from family. Life is too short to worry about these things
• United States
10 Jul 08
They were on my case when i was 5'7 and 130.. but i didnt care so much i just thought they were nuts. but now i did gain like i said having the baby and all. I just dont know why especially my father is so hypacritical. I guess now because i know i did it bothers me more..ya kno?1 thanx 4 ur response =]
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Because you had a baby is why it now matters to you. You should be thinking that they are still nuts Don't let them get you down!
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
10 Jul 08
If it was my Grandma i probably wouldn't have said anything,except If you are finished insulting me would you like to hear about your Great-Granddaughter? If diet pills are making you have mood swings you need to quit taking them! You just had a baby and it may take awhile for the weight to come off but as long as you eat sensibly and stay active it will come off.