Is MyLot too polite for its own good?

I'm sure that there are people here that take a stance as you say. And they may do so with passion. But, from what I have seen here so far, if people get too gung ho, those discussions end up being deleted, which means that the people that did reply only end up losing both points and earnings. There is no winning here, people just give their opinion and move on with Life If I may offer a bit of advice to you, it will be that scanning and not actually reading the posts and the replies therein may give you an abnormal view of the site.

Nobody really takes a stance because they just want to earn money. Im not talking about everybody, but some people dont really care about what they post as long as they get paid.

Actually I also see that, not many people now are making a real debate or some argument that will make your mind stumble. When I was new here and that was one and a half a year ago, you can see how the new topics were flowing, lots of ideas are and topics are running, the number of responses can come up to hundreds maybe thousands and the number one factor that keeps this lively community back then are the members who really dares to start a topic that will make you think, that will make you say what is your principle about the subject...members who really have a strong point of view. And yeah, debate, principle, mind blowing topics could mean to some unwanted words and unwanted community atmosphere... so what did mylot did? they made a bunch of notification or some kind of a rule that if saying this saying that could mean to eliminating your discussion which could sum up to deducting some of your earnings. With that reason many users became to neutral with what they are saying and became too cautious. And because of that many user became bored and left the forum. I too, made a long hiatus from this site after that cause most of my favorite user left that left the discussion empty.

after 1 year of mylot i camed to a conclusion that u don't have to put much passion arround here because no one care. U'r just loosing energy. There are "communities" that answer to eachother disscusion and that's all.

I don't think you have come across the right topics or the right people yet! There are definitely some very opinionated people as members here with some very strong views on a number of topics. From a usage policy perspective though I guess we all have to be mindful of what we can and cannot say as well which by default can soften things a little. I don't feel that I censor myself as such; by nature I am a pretty open minded guy and have had some very interesting exchanges on this site in the past! You like every other member here will eventually find your niche and once you do uncover those members that are a little more "controversial" than the mainstream I am sure you will have a blast! One things is for certain though..... I am certainly not a member of this site for the cash!

Hehehehe, I might challenge you elsewhere but it won't be on this topic! Not only do I consider MyLot to polite for it's own good, I think it is too polite for anybody's good! Even in the 'heated' religious debates everybody is still so polite it turns my stomach. Call me a jerk if you like... better that than apathetic a$$ kissing politically correct unable to think for myself moron!

I'd have to disagree. I know that at least in the computer/technology fields, I can be pretty polarized when people try to sound like they know what they're talking about but really have no idea. Even with that being said, I know I can be very middle-of-the-road or even to the point of evading the true question at hand if it forces me to take a stance on an issue because in general, I'm a peacemaker. I don't like to offend others, even with the guise of anonymity that the Internet offers. Plus, I've been raised to be polite to others, and this usually carries over onto my posts here on myLot.

I think that sometimes we like to be safe, not start fights--and that is a good thing. But I am a believer in saying what I think in the nicest way possible. That is just my nature, I hate conflict, so I try my best to stay away from areas that breed conflict. But I have posted in discussions that were more sensitive areas, and I have been so relieved to find that everyone seems to respect other people here. That is not always the case, but most the time it it. Have I ever disagreed with something I read here? Of course, but I don't directly disagree with a person or tell them they are wrong, because I don't think anyone is wrong. I may think to myself "that is so dumb" from time to time, but when I really think about it I realize that these are just opinions, not facts. We all have our own opinions and that is a great thing. At times I actually take a little too much stock in other people's opinions, but I really try not to, because if I did, well, I would probably feel offended sometimes. I definitely think that there is a lot of holding back from time to time. But for me, when I really get into the swing of things and I am posting about something that I really care about or something I believe strongly in, I tend to put all my opinions out there on the topic, but put it in words that I hope will not offend, because I don't think anything has to be offensive, it's just the way some people phrase things. Especially since this is the internet and we can't hear tone of voice. Anyway, you are definitely not wrong, that is what you have seen in the time you have been here. Once you've been here a while and have written more and seen more responses, you may see it differently, but you definitely aren't wrong. I know when I first got active here a few weeks ago I felt a bit nervous about being open and sharing my opinions, because I was afraid people would trip out on me or something, but really I have learned that people are fairly accepting, they may not agree, but most the time they are very respectful about it.

You are so correct! I am so tired of reading .... " ohhh *****, you are right, the rest of the world is wrong.. hugs and kisses"... I just want to scream - look nut job, get a clue. Reality and your perception do not match! - and why on earth is everyone so damn afraid to tell you this.... Do you think by sucking up that you will earn more money? As long as you are posting and commenting I think that you will earn the same... so find some tack and be honest You should be my friend... I always have an opinion.

Well if you're going to stick around on here and you're someone that likes to take a stance and actually (heaven forbid) discuss things ... i'll keep an eye out for your posts. I understand where you're coming from. I can't help but notice the vast amount of 'discussions' (term used loosely) seem to be a veritable bunch of mundane "what is your favourite X" or "what should i have for dinner". Now i'm pretty sure that MyLot don't consider those to match any of their criteria for a credit-worthy post and yet they sprout up all over the place ;) I'm reminded of the Monty Python sketch about "is this the right room for an argument". Not suggesting arguments are necessary, but debate breeds discussion and vice-versa. I generally go for topics that i understand and can tell they would have some kind of depth so most of my responses are lengthy and thought out. One of my friends posted a serious discussion about the cost of pertrol and got 3 responses (1 being a person saying "i dont really know, have a nice day" ... what a waste). Yet there are 67 responses to "what colour are your shoes?". I sense alot of people are just trying to get in as many responses as possible, but as far as i can understand that remiss tactic is hardly productive either monetary or mentally. All the best Matt

Yea, if you say things that cause everyone to dislike you, then you won't have the friends you need to respond to your discussions. You need friends to converse with to make money. You can still say what you think, but you can learn how to say it in a nice enough way....tactfully.

I will take a stand and have done so on several posts but I pick and choose what discussions I wish to do this with. The reason is not so much about the making of the money, but not wanting to create a battleground. There have been several discussions I started to respond to and thought better of it because it would only stir the pot and I do not believe that taking a stand means stirring up more trouble. I want to use good sense and tact as well as take a stand. If I cannot do it without causing dissention, I will. If I think it will cause more trouble than my post was worth, I won't. I don't post just to be saying something or just to make my voice heard. There is no wisdom in that. I haven't been here very long myself, but I have watched some of the discussions and how people can get nasty with each other, start rating people's topics negatively so that they lose their numbers in their stars, get discussions deleted which affects everyone who posted a response in a negative way point and money wise. Everything you do here seems to touch someone else. Taking a stand needs to be tempered with self-control.

I do try to turn down my disagreements to keep them appropriate but I don't agree with things I don't believe in.

I'm new here too. This seems alright, I guess. I've seen some interesting views and some comical posts. I think people need to let it all hang out on here. If you can't say what you mean behind a computer when can you say it. I speak my mind no matter where I am if I feel the need.

There are several things that impact a person's posts. First and foremost are the terms of agreement which strictly prohibit any name calling, member bashing, etc. Although I do see it go on here, it is in poor form. The other factors are earnings and ratings. Since you wanted honest answers, the fact is that most, if not all, people are here to earn money. The more popular a person is here, the more likely they will be successful. Anything other than that takes a person outside the box. Besides all that, specific topics are hot buttons for many people. Religion, sexuality and politics will all generate a strong stance. People however, need to walk a fine line when stating an opinion objectively. Finally, I disagree with you that there is no one that is taking any kind of a stance on any of the other topics. I've been here over a year and I can see that many members put a great deal of thought into their threads and posts and their opinions are not only strong, but well validated by their points. I find Mylot fascinating. I certainly hope, over time, you will too.

Well you asked, so I hope you can live with some answers. MYLOT offers us the chance to have discussions or conversations, and of course they try to make sure that we don't actually get into slanging matches. That immediately creates a conflict of interests, because many people think debate has to be all fire and brimstone, while others take the view that we should be able to have conversation without perpetual conflict. Next point? how absolutely boring is it to call yourself SOOOOBORED? Are you trying to present a face that is so bored or boring that nobody will take you seriously enough to have a conversation? or is it that you're using reverse psychology so that we all feel so sorry for you that we rush in....as in the old song about fools rush in? If you really want debate and to find people taking a stance, rush over to politics....make it one of your interests, and I'm sure you will find enough people and topics to keep you happy. You could also give us a list of the things that you feel passionate about, even if only to check whether that may inspire some replies to stir your interest.

You are wrong =) I have some pretty passionate responses which may have even earned me negatives from people who disagree with me. This isn't of course an acceptable reason for rating people negatively but there are trolls here that do things like that just to be jerks. I don't agree with censorship, not from one person to another based on opinions. People have the CHOICE to filter in or filter out things they do or do not want, and that is always a choice. By the way, I have found this to be a super site, full of engaging, friendly, quirky people and fantastic discussions. Some of the ones I have gotten more testy have been in the field of religion because I am a firm advocate of 'freedom FROM religion' as well as 'freedom OF religion' which are of course two different things yet integrated. Enjoy mylot, I am glad I was referred here!

you should check out my post on people going to hell. LMAO now that's a heated discussion.

Hey, soooobored You are right! We need to stand up for what we believe in or we all fall. Debating issues and not ending up arguing is often hard for some. In my local newspaper forums there is a Bush fan who gets all out of hand if anyone makes a negative comment about Bush. Aren't we all entitled to an opinion? Can't we agree to disagree and banter back and forth like adults? Sound off and just word it the right way! Cool post!

I think You should tell people when there is a subject that needs to be addressed. You souldnt be weak about your remarks, and if you have to be a jerk then so be it. Sometimes that may be the only way you can help people, or get through to them. But you can still have tact. I'm new here also. I think if your response is not from the heart, and not what you truly feel, then why even take the time. Its not all about the money. Is it?