How do I get along with my husband?

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I think I have a passive aggressive husband but correct me if I'm wrong. When I confront him with a problem that I want resolved, he makes it seem like it's my fault. I know I am not perfect but we created that problem together most of the time. Then he quarrels with me which makes me raise my voice and his voice and he ends up not talking with me and acts like everything is fine and he goes about his day while I sit there feeling sad and angry he didn't resolve these issues with me. He also doesn't want to resolve issues with me before we go to bed and then I hold resentment towards him which affected my sleeping habits. He acts like nothing is wrong and he sleeps like a baby while I can't sleep and I go to bed really late. And I already know that you have to resolve problems before going to bed with your partner, otherwise, it continues the next day but he refuses to work on us. When I talk to him, he doesn't respond right away. I have to call his name several times before he finally responds and I am even in the same room with him talking in a normal voice! He often is focused on the computer (he brings home his work often) and spaces out while I talk to him and when he watches tv he space out too and I can't even hold a conversation or get a response from him. I have to turn off the tv so I can get a response from him. However, I can't turn off his computer for a second because he's busy doing his work and it would be rude to turn off his computer while he is working. After awhile, when I give him his space, and when I confront him again, he still doesn't want to resolve issues. He resents me that I started the confrontation and he resists not holding and hugging me. And because he acts like this, it's hard to eat with him so we don't our meals together. Any advice or tips on how I can get along with my husband? I even looked for tips on the net but it still isn't good enough. And please don't tell me that we need to see a marriage counselor, I already know that. Just looking for advice here first. Thanks in advance for your opinions.