do you keep secrets to your partner?
By pinks17
@pinks17 (2192)
Philippines
July 11, 2008 3:43am CST
I never keep a secret to my baby (that's how we call each other)...Even if it's going to be a white lie...I can't help it and I still tell him about the "supposed to be a white lie"..I don't know..I just want to be an open book to my baby.Even if I know it will hurt his feelings...I'll still tell him about it.
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10 responses
@xJonox (222)
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11 Jul 08
There's nothing wrong with being completly truthwil with one-another..,. I'm pretty much the same with my girlfriend (unless like the other week, we was trying to get her to go to her own suprise birthday party - and she was having none of it! haha) She doesn't lie to me and I don't lie to hear... sounds fair to me =)
We have a good relationship and I'm sure that your's is amazing too =)
@mEisky (824)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
yea,.its d best thing in a relationship!!with this you could get to so close to each other..There's nothing more than trust..Keeping secrets doesnt even bring happiness to us..It only gets too much headaches thinking how could we keep it without him knowing.:) naah..its not fair to keep secret,wht's d point of having him/her .? For me,i never had any secrets to keep from him..he's soo open to all the matters i want to shareand soo me as well.:) the more you get closer the more happy moments you could have.:)
@xJonox (222)
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11 Jul 08
I've got a bit of a personal question - Do you as a couple argue alot or a little? Because my girlfriend have i, have no screts or lies between us and share everything with eachother... And since i've been with her (over a year( i've only ever had literally like Half of an argument with her... it's pretty cool =)
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@pinks17 (2192)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
Hi xJonox...well it's really cool in a relationship if you are open to each other.And we never fight.It's almost 2 years when my boyfriend decided to move in with me and we seldom fight..actually I can't remember a thing..oh there's one but it's a petty quarrel only but nothing serious.Some says it's boring if you don't fight...for me its good...nothing beats a relationship which is smooth sailing and we laugh all the time..I guess that's the best part of it...if the two of you are happy.
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
11 Jul 08
I dont keep secrets from my guys but I dont necessarily share every single thing either..Simply because there is no need ya know...HOWEVER if they were to ask I'd tell...its just that i dont up the info if I dont see its needed to..
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@fwangaa (3057)
• China
11 Jul 08
why you do that? are you exhibit your truth to your baby.and you want he or she like you from the truth of you.
why you exhibit your truth to your baby? are you have somewhere not well and you want someone to help you find where is your pain? and is it apparent?
@amrishkj (297)
• India
11 Jul 08
Even I tell my wife everything and never keep any secrets from her. I had a G/F when I was in college and she calls up once in a while to talk to me and I tell my wife all the things that we discussed. I also tell her whenever I flirt with a lady on a street or in a restaurant. And that is why she trusts me a lot.
@pinks17 (2192)
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
Me too.Once I had a chance to see my ex boyfriend accidentally in a mall..I told my present boyfriend that I saw my ex and we talked for awhile.It would be better that way than somebody might see you with that person and make up stories that could be the problem with your partner.So I told him right away that my ex and I talked.
@KittenKitten (71)
• China
11 Jul 08
Oh, keep completely no secret is diffcult for me. Secret doesn't mean cheating or betray. That just something i wonnt share with my boyfriend. If my friend hope i can keep a secret for her/him.That i will not told my parter.I think i needn't to say.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
12 Jul 08
The only secrets that I keep from my husband are surprises that I am planning for him such as birthday and christmas presents, and the dres that I had made for the wedding ceremony we are goig to have, next month. I don't want him to see that until the day of the celebration.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Every relationship has it's rocks. Being truthful is the best thing to be and I hope that he is appreciating you being honest with him. It is good to come clean, even if it is difficult to do so. I admire you for your honesty.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Oh yes and guilt. Guilt can make you feel even worse.
@pinks17 (2192)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
thank you so much somecowgirl.I want to be honest not because I want him to be honest as well.I don't want regrets at the end.Lies normally surface when you least expect it and by the time its out in the open..who knows the problem is already worst.It will be difficult for you to defend yourself.
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@misty99 (736)
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13 Jul 08
I usually don't keep secrets to my partner,not a single secret was kept.I know this is not good for the relationship.Things has changed-yes i am keeping secrets to my partner-no third party involve,but other secrets.What causes me to keep secrets now is the truth that he has kept secrets.And i can feel that he has some secrets-still unknown.Don't you think it's unfair to be open with your partner when your partner does not do the same?Just asking.
@pinks17 (2192)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
Yeah I think that's unfair.But there are times that we shouldn't compare ourselves to our partner.Once you made a deal with your partner to be honest at all times..he should do that.If he chose not to tell the truth..it's gonna be unfair.But "we" women know if the guy is lying..
@lovvyrules (8)
• Mauritius
17 Jul 08
lies are sins,whatever you hide from anyone and you tell it the other,it is lie..Every relationship must be based on strong bond and trust. The trust must be 100% on both sides. Then no one can interfere between this relation. It becomes so perfect and there is also a mutual understanding.
Don't lie to your loved ones.
But i admire and respect your relationship, wow...infact i also can't help to lie to my gfrnd..i lov her too much..
@pinks17 (2192)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
thanks for posting lovvyrules.being honest is good..that only means you love your partner.i know there are some lies that are worth keeping but soon it will come out and it would cause a lot problem that could lead to a break-up..so if you want to keep the relationship..show transparency to your partner.have a good day.
