Ending Friendship Because You Feel Left Out

Well, I think ending friendship that way isn't going to solve anything. I agree with your last sentence there. It is how we handle it that counts. Yes of course, we could always be with our friends but we can't get their attention every time. They have their own matters to attend to and some times, all we have to do is be there. Most of the friendships that I've seen that ended, if not all, are usually because of loss of trust, betrayal, disloyalty, and so on. I do understand her feeling as well. I've been in that situation. Before, I'd just separate myself from them and not talk to them anymore. Now, I just let them be. It's not that they won't talk to me anymore, unless they explicitly informs me which very very rarely happens and usually because of the one I mentioned above. Hey, I can see you've been a good friend. Continue to support her. Maybe she needed you. Take care!

Hi, Being left out w/ your friends is giving you bad feelings that happened to me.But i never thought of ending the friendship because of that.Infact i will try to understand my friend why i am being left out.I will look what is the possibility problem.This situation happened many time.Coz my friends got also friends that its not my friends and i got the same i have friends who is not friend of her too. So if there is a party that we attend too and i invite my other friends and she too.Then the problem start becaouse of jealousy.I admit i feel jelous if she dont give time w/ me or she is not inviting me to go somewhere and if i invite her to come over and she cannot because she is in her other friends house.I feel really jelous but that doesnt mean that i have to get mad and acting crazy about it. But i told her what i feel but she said she know that i can understand her that i am open minded that her other friend.She know that i can handle things like this..Thats what she said. Friendship is about understanding each other not only giving comfort and be there if you need someone. have a nice day..Enjoy your day.. Take care.. Greetings from Che!

i had a friend do that to me once. my husband got this great paying job out of state. she was upset that i was leaving. she wrote me this letter and at the end put "have a nice life". i was so upset that just because i was moving she was acting like we couldn't be friends anymore. i ended up writing her a pretty mean letter that i later regretted. i have since wrote her a letter appologizing and explained that my feelings were hurt so i acted out and said things in the letter that i should have.

that was very kind of you, you savede a friendship that will stay longer than it could. maybe your friend was going through a hard time and the others did not respon da as she expected. low self esteem does make someone feel left out or if the group interest differs from her interests. since you talked to her, guess she is ok and just encourage her that quiting is not the solution.

one should not take such drastic decision.it is purely materialistic and unwise to break your relationship only because you think that you have been left out.it only proves that your friendship / relations were based on flimsy foundation.as you found your friend leaving you out so you left him/her.no never must it be done . first of all you should find out the circumstances or situations under which you have been left out, whether he/she left you out intentionally or it was his / her compulsion.if you want to save your friendship you will have to be understanding and considerate and think over the circumstances sincerely and sympathetically you also have to find out whether your friend has really left out or you are concluding it on some hypothetical basis.

I think she went about it the wrong way. What she should of done was just ask them out bluntly how she feels about the situation at hand. (= Losing friends because they leave you out of things is silly, though you can just drift apart eventually, doesnt mean your not still friends. I am sure she will ok, but maybe she needs to talk to them rather than talk to you about them. Maybe if she talked to them about the whole thing, she might actually find out why they are acting like this. (=

Sometimes people do things with good reason. If she felt left out chances are that she was actually shunned in a way. However, I think it may not have been intentional, but it obviously was hurting her enough to want to take a step back. I've have definitely been in her shoes before.

That is really something immature to do and I was happy that your friend just realize that. I myself have even think of doing the same cause there are times that I also felt that they left me out but whenever I try to weigh things and try to figure it out I always found that I only felt that way when I have problems that I can't able to share to my friends. So maybe your friend felt that way too cause something is troubling her.

I don't think people should do something like that quickly. A lot of times, they're too close to the situation to really know what's going on from a neutral standpoint. They should talk to other friends that they're not mad at, and just ask about how they see it before they do anything they'll regret.

I'm glad they worked it out and are still friends. I've had so many friendships go wrong for one reason or another, and it just leaves you feeling so bad. Hopefully now that the others know how she feels, it wont happen again. You were smart to step in and let her know how you felt.