What is the "Age of consent" where you live?

Wow that is insane! They don't even ask that until college here.

She was in 7th grade at the time. It just makes you wonder doesn't it? I think part of it has to do with the fact that we live near a naval base. A lot of these girls think they can get preg by a navy guy and will be taken care of. There were 3 preg girls in her 8th grade class.

I didn't think it could even be 16 here so finding out that it was 14till not that long ago blew my mind. I guess it shouldn't have since when i moved here and enrolled her in middle school it asked on the enrollment forms if she was married, single or divorced.

I think so too, but what do I know? According to my 15 yo I know nothing!! From what I have gathered form others here 18 is the age of consent in Ca.

There are a lot of states here that the age of consent is 18. I just recently found out it isn't like that everywhere. It would make sense for it to be 18 since they are not considered adults until then.

Well hun I think you can see how I have been lately lol. It's definatly been a trial for me lately. Iam thankful for my friends and am glad to include you as one of them :). Don't worry about not catching up with me, I know we will get back to it! I am thankful for your friendship! I have been trying and trying to get her on the right path but I don't think there is much hope anymore. I hope that the court system will be able to find a solution with her.

I know now! I responded to this and then next minute I am reading the latest news, I can honestly say that I am still shocked and it takes a lot to shock me. You can certainly count on me being a friend, I am not full of words of wisdom, I am not full of useful advice, mainly because I dont take advice myself, but if you need to unload your troubles I have 2 ears to listen to you with. All I do know, is that you can only try your best, and if that is not enough or good enough then she has to be left to get on with it on her own. Shes at that age now where she thinks she knows it all and that no one should be able to tell her what to do. Fair enough, as soon as she is old enough,if she has not changed put her out in the big world ALONE. See how far she gets before she realises how much her Mum loved her. I remember it well, it was scary, cold and lonely.

It sacry isn't it? I already planned on when she turned 17 letting her find out what the world is really like. Not that it will do a lot of good at this point, but maybe she will finally see what it is that I have been trying to protect her from. I won't let her come crawling back after all of this though I will tell you that much.

Nope I still have to deal with her until she is at least 17. She can legally move out of the house at 17. But when she turns 16 I still have to deal with her crap for another year and I can't really do anything about it. Thats really sad isn't it? I can be held responsible for her behavior yet I can't do anything to stop it.

You would think so. I can't legally throw her out of my house till she is 17, but she can go out and do whatever she wants to and i have no real recourse. Its really sad the way things have gotten for parents.

That makes no sense at all! If they are of the age of consent you should be able to let them go live as "adults" then.

I Sweetheart, some People just do not appreciate their Children, then there is People like you that have to deal with a situation like that I really wish I could help you Sweetie, but i do not know what to suggest at all But please remember I am always here for you, I know that does not sort your Problem and fear but I am really stuck on what to suggest Big Hugs

I wish I had the normal teenage problems. It took all I could do the other day when there was a woman in the store that was complaining about the terrible twos not to walk over to her and say enjoy it while you can. She was saying she wished she never had kids if she knew it was going to be like that. And here I am dealing with all of this. I wanted to slap the woman.

Thank you hun for the hugs and support, thats really honestly all I need right now just to know that I have my friends I can talk to even if we can't find a solution to the problem at hand. You have no idea how much it has comforted me knowing that I have my friends here for me.

Long time no see eskarena! And it was 14 here till recently. I guess that they think that by making it 16 there would be less problems, but how as a parent can we try to control our kids if we have no rights? Sorry going a bit off topic there.

When I spoke to the police officers the other night I was told that once my daughter turns 16 she could sleep with a 27 year old if she wanted to and I could do nothing about it. The rate she is going she will be preg soon. Iam WAY too young to be a grandmother or to have to deal with my daughter having something that she can't get rid of.

I agree with you there too! Stepson got kicked out of high school because he would rarely attend. The first year he pulled that, it was his dad on the line because of his age. It never got to the point of the school going after his dad but it was close and stepson didn't care. This past school year he was 17 so the school could only "punish" him for not going...yeah well they "punished" him by telling him not to bother coming at all. Sure that's serious in the big picture since you can't get far in life without a diploma but to a 17 year old who hates school, getting kicked out is like Christmas and birthdays rolled into one. It seems pretty unfair that s/o could have faced fines and jail time because his kid refused to go but then the same kid pretty much gets let off the hook entirely.

Yeah I know that one as well. I had been threatened with jail time for my kid skipping school. The sad part is that as a parent you can only do so much. You can't walk around the school holding their hand to every class esp if you have to work. Its just really sad that they have more rights than we do. Here she can withdraw herself from school at the age of 16 without parental consent.

That it does. I am glad that your stepson isn't going to have problems due to turning 18. I just think that if they forced teenagers to take responsiblity for their actions instead of the parents then they wouldn't be as free as they are with their actions. Thats my opinion anyway.

Thanks for the best response mark...

It is but unfortunatly thats the way people are. Being a parent is not at all easy anymore these days. I wish it were more like where you are in terms that it seems that most people do wait till their wedding night.

I have tried all of that but she doesn't listen! I think the age of 14 is way to young. I think if they made teenagers have to be responsible for their actions instead of the parents, then it would happen WAY less often!

Oh, I have made some online searches to find out what was it about. Here in Brazil the law does not care about age of consent. It exists, but the law is not enforced. The age here is 14, and I find it too soon, don't you? Respectfully, Munhozmib.

I have already had her tested for bi polar disorder. I had to take her again to yet ANOTHER counselor (makes 10 so far on the list) yesterday and was told that she is not bi polar, that she is most probably sociopathic. I can either put her on traqulizers till she is 18 and have to deal with a drooling child that I can't do anything with, and have to care for 24/7 or let her see the concequences for her actions and maybe she will see what she is doing is wrong, wither way it comes down to her deciding she doesn't want to treat people the way she does and stand up for her actions and take responsiblity for them.

I can only wish at this point that I don't have to worry about it. Unfortuantly I do have to worry about it and after finding out about her "activity" it is a great concern for me. I am WAY too young to be a grandmother.

On that, I can only agree and you have my sympathies. There really should be some sort of written test you have to pass to become pregnant, instead of just the practical.

I would agree with that wholeheartedly, I wish there was something like that, unfortuantly most of these girls want to get preg to get out of the house at an earlier and earlier age. Its really sad that it has come down to that in this day and age.

Thank you and yeah I can't believe it either!! Its crazy that I cna be held responsible for her actions, yet I can't dicipline her. I have no recourse in what she does but I am responsible for her behavior. Makes you wonder whats going on in this country doens't it?