Unfriened and Outraged!
By wallstreet
@wallstreet (341)
United States
July 11, 2008 11:38pm CST
I noticed today that a nameless member unfriended me....(sniff) Wow! What a painful experiance...(sob... boo hoo hooo.....)
But then, as I was continuing to read other blogs, I notice that this member defriended others as well.. (sniff, snort..at least I am not alone).....
I know that because in a post a my lotter actually apologized, ask for forgiveness and to be reinstated as a friend ...(huh???) Begging, Really?
What is the purpose of my lot friends if friendship is used to devalue another? This seems sooooo mean and childish!
Why do you accept friends if this is the way that you are going to treat them. I personally think that mean people like that should be banned.
What do you think about this? Have you seen this happen here - is this limited to a few mylottors or is a the control of friend nothing more than a power trip?
Oh, and to my defriender, you can rate me - no bother....
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8 responses
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jul 08
sometimes I do not accept a mylotter who has absolutely no points as that makes me leery of you. get a few points, respond to my discussions and I will glady accept you as a friend, I willnot accept someone whose only goal is to get a zillion friends and does no posting atall.mylotters should not be banned for picking and choosing friends otherwise why is there two choices? who wants a bunch of friends who do not evenlike you enough to post to your discussions"? it works both ways wallstreet be friendly to me, and I will accept you.
@wallstreet (341)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I think that I am friendly to everyone - I might not always agree with you(you being anyone)... and If I dont agree with you and can't show you a different view then what kind of friend am I?
Friendships should not be a oneway highway... (agree with me or else).
Why would you be leery of a no pointer... that makes no sence to me. We all were no pointers at onetime. (See, there I am disagreeing with you... :) )
And finaly the amount of time that you spend on mylot is subjective... there are those that spend hours - because they can, and there are those like me who can only spend a few hours a week. (I work full time, am Involved in extra cirricular activities, and have a family with two children in school who have busy schedules)... My lot for me is a break from the rat race that I live in. It is a time to learn about the way others think and view life. It is a time where I can have an opinion.
I do not need to beg for friends,In life I have plenty.
I was just shocked to see that someone defriended someone as part of a powertrip. I was also shocked to see someone feel so devalued for being defriended, and feel that they had to beg for forgiveness... Really, Now! What kind of friendship is that?
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@wallstreet (341)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Sorry, don't mean to be tooo persistent, but what does having a friend do that doesn't post allot, but has allot of friends. How does that affect you? Why are you uncomfortable with that?
What am I missing?
To me that says this person might just enjoy reading the conversations of others, and perhaps lacks the confidence to post. If you are his friend then he sees the conversations that you are in and can follow along.... ho harm, no foul....
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Jul 08
why am I leery of a no pointer, well now I had a nopointer who had a ton of friends but had yet to respond to my discussions or anone elses which to me is indicative of someone who does not
really want to participate here at all. Now if a p erson with no points and no friends asks to be my friend of course I will accept as I too was once in the s ame position.
@younggun (4)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I dont really understand this friend thing. I have only a couple of friends and I am okay with that. I mean if other people want to be my friend the great the more the merrier. But if you dont want to be my friend after awhlie the thats okay too. I wont hold it against anyone. Its like giving someone power to tell you that you are important or not.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Personally, sometimes I think people tend to go a little overboard on here with the friends issue, and should just concentrate on finding people they can relate with and agree with without stirring up any other problems in the process. I have seen many people come and go in the time I have been a member here, and have had many people add and remove me a lot of the time as well. For me, unless you become quite unactive in here, or just become totally negative, SPAM in my Message box without asking, or just totally are requesting more than I feel I can deliver, anyone is Welcome in my friends list. Why anyone here would expect anything really different, is beyond me as well.
@wallstreet (341)
• United States
14 Jul 08
You sound like a very kind person.... thanks for your comment
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
13 Jul 08
HmMMMMmm, i didnt even know you could tell if someone took you off their friends list. i dont pay that much attention.. i dont reallt talk to anyone behind discussions or inbetween at all really. i always thought people stayed to themselves actually Lmao..
but,if someone wants to defriends me. hey thats there problem. i probally wouldnt notice anyways.lol not to be mean but its the truth HHAHA.i dont really need firends to be happy... it is just a virtual world,not my reality.
dont get me wrong i really love friends, everyone hates me thats all it is
haha kidding.. well sorry to hear someone defriended you... i actually have defriended a few people so i wont say ive never. i do clean ups.on mylot. if you are not active i take u off my friends list.and if again i dont notice ur actuve. of course you stay cause i never noticed lmao.
haha kidding.. well sorry to hear someone defriended you... i actually have defriended a few people so i wont say ive never. i do clean ups.on mylot. if you are not active i take u off my friends list.and if again i dont notice ur actuve. of course you stay cause i never noticed lmao.@wallstreet (341)
• United States
13 Jul 08
The only reason I noticed was because this my lottors posting would overwhelm my friends discussions. I would rarely see anyone's discussions but theirs. All of a sudden I didn't see them anymore. I just presumed that my other friends had started post more zealously.
Then I read about someone being banned and first thought it was them - and I started to looks around. It to took awhile, but I finally figured it out. It was then that I saw the posts from a couple other users begging to be reinstated and apologizing.
To me it was shocking to see people value in the 'friend' status rather then the conversation. I think that the conversation is where the friendship is, not in the title friend.
@wallstreet (341)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I no Idea what you are refuring to, and dont know anything about an argument. Also the person that I was refurring to did not appear to delete all his or her friends... hope this helps you clear thing up....
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
12 Jul 08
HA!HA! welcome to internet socializing. this happens all the time. you just have to develope a thicker skon and realise a lot of times it may not be a put down to you. its just that many people except friends then sometimes come to the conclusion they dont need that many, or else they have nothing in common. or they have a different opinion on to many levels.
@pukaprat2 (442)
• United States
13 Jul 08
wow i wish i could blow off some people like that in real life- oh wait i do. lol/ this whole 'friends' thing doesn't really matter. i mean if you like what someone has to say and you comment, then that is your view of it. and if they say 'hey lets be friends' its not like they are coming over later that night to have a drink or two and dinner. online socializing just doesnt work that way. wish it did, could have real company instead of this computer late at night- but that is not the point the point here is simply take all realtionships here on the net with a grain of salt and a shot of whiskey.
after all i noticed i get a bit trigger happy on here when i have had a few in me. but since i think this topic is sort of funny i desided to comment. so what do you say want to go a round - this one is on me.
@wallstreet (341)
• United States
13 Jul 08
a round?? absolutly - vodka on the rocks straight up please :)
@wallstreet (341)
• United States
13 Jul 08
ohh and just for that you have to be my friend (if not, no bother I just show up at the local watering hole to stalk you !!! ) :)
@ying_johnny (123)
• China
13 Jul 08
I am a newbie here though I know here long time ago. I had never met your experience before and I would like to be your friend
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
13 Jul 08
Hello wallstreet,
When I have friend I never do that I keep all my friends here but I got upset when I lost two stars.
Tamarafireheart.
@wallstreet (341)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I am sorry to hear that you lost your stars... that is a bummer. It is also nice to know that you value your friends...
