When enough is enough

United States
July 12, 2008 6:13am CST
I,have lived with a man for 5 years and with that I brought two sons from previous relationships. They are 10 and 16. They are BOTH the love of my life. I,have been very blessed by both of them and feel that they both good kids. The man that I am with says that he loves both but seems to care the 10year old more. I am tired and have tried to play the middle man for a long time now. I,now feel that even though I love the man I am with that I am being made to make a choice and that I have put my kids second for this man long enough. What to do? My finiacial situation is NOT good at all but I think it is time that I make the right choices and put MY KIDS FIRST.
2 responses
kezabelle
@kezabelle (2974)
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12 Jul 08
Simple my children ALWAYS come first over anyone else, even my partner I love him I dont want anyone else but him but my children are young and vunderable and come first id hate to hurt my children by not putting their emotional needs first. Do what you know you need to do and put them first for a change, ok money might be tight for a while but things generally work out in the end, I could never ever love any man so much that they could emotionally hurt my children and get away with it not a chance!
spalladino
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
12 Jul 08
Your primary responsibility is to your children and, if your current boyfriend doesn't have their wellbeing as his primary responsibility also then your boys re being emotionally negelected. Favortism from any parent or parental figure can have long reaching effects on a child and I'm sure that being forced into the position of playing the middle man is a difficult burdeon for you to carry. If talking to your partner doesn't help him to change how he interacts with both of your children I see no other choice for you as far as this relationship goes. If he hasn't done so already, the neglected child will start to act out which can cause all kinds of problems for him that could have been avoided. Whatever your financial situation is at the time, it can be improved if you take the right steps, so you really need to look at what is in the best interest of your children and do what is right for them. Your responsibilty to them does not change simply because you met someone along the way.