Do/did you spank your kids?

No I was never spanked but I wished I had been as my punishment was much worse than the quick spanking my brother got. I usually was not allowed to go ice skating (my passion) or had to do some awful chores.

Hi raydene! "Spare the rod but not the child". Most people in our country believe in spanking the children to discipline them but there is a difference with spanking and beating. Most of the people here spank their children but at the same time tells them why they are being spanked and rest assured that the spankings are not harsh and it is very much different with beating a child. However, I have never spanked my nieces and nephews as I do not have the heart to. haha..I guess, it is because I was never been spanked when I was a child but my brothers were spanked a few times because they were really naughty. I guess, we all have different ways or approaches in dealing with the children but what matters really is after the scolding, the children should feel love, assured and secured with their parents and elders. Just my thoughts my friend. Take care and God Bless!

I have spanked my kids before and I dont like to but sometimes they need it. Now keep in mind im a small girl with no muscles so it really doesnt hurt them its more of a scare tactic. When I spank they know im really mad.

There is a huge difference between spanking and abuse, with that said, I never believed that a spanking hurt a child in anyway, and in some instances was needed. Now I also always believed that using anything other than your hand on their bottom was not right either. But, yes I have smacked my daughters' bottoms when they were not behaving or doing something they knew they shouldn't be doing, but that only works up to a certain age, then it was time out in any other room than theirs, why send them to their room just so they can play with their toys, no big punishment there! And as they got older, restrictions were put in to play when they acted up. And both of my daughters are well adjusted, productive adults, they are none the worse for getting their bottoms spanked when they were young.

I tend to use 1,2,3 and then the naughty step and I never usually get past one but I have with all three of mine given a tap on the back of the hand or bottom if they are really bad or doing something dangerous but not hard, they usually had a nappy on anyway. I tend to talk things through with them. Afterall if they live with agression they will become aggressive themselves eh! So I give love and understanding. Ellie :D

I seriously could go both ways on this topic. I won't lie. At one point I did spank my kids. Until someone asked me one day "how's that working for ya?" ... then I realized, in all actuality, it wasn't working at all. Now we do time outs, and at first those weren't working too well either, but we just stuck with it and it definitely helps now more than spanking did. So now I don't personally do it, but it doesn't stop me from thinking that the brat in the grocery store screaming at the top of his lungs for no good reason needs a good swift kick in the butt. I know that in this day and age, spanking is considered child abuse. But I can't help but think about my own parents when they were younger. They got spanked and the respect level between parent and child was SO different back then. Kids just didn't act the way they do today.

As a child my mother hit me as punishment, it made me hate her with a passion. Beware! all the best urban

Yes. I never did want to spank my daughter but she just would not listen. timeouts or any other punishments did not work. I was spanked as a child for nothing. My child got very little spankings but she just would not do the right things and listen to me. A few spankings were just little pats to make her aware what she was doing, was wrong.

Well I was only smacked once as a child - that I remember anyway! I have smacked my children but it is only for serious things and it is a smack on the bottom nothing more! It has been made against the law to smack your children here which I don't agree with though. xxx

I was spanked as a child and I can promise you that it wasn't something that happened very often. I think that it works as long as it doesn't get abusive since that can lead to more problems. I also spanked my own children, and again it wasn't used that often and as they became older teens, I realized that a softer tone of voice worked much better with my son than yelling at him did OR he was so surprised that I wasn't yelling that he started to listen to me. In your situation, it probably would have been a good idea to discuss beforehand with your ex which kind of punishment or correction or whatever you want to call it, with him before you had children. It can be a difficult thing to figure out when we come from different backgrounds.

i did spank my kids when they were litlle. i don't think it hurts to spat tehm on their behing if they need it. i have seen alot that needed it that didn't get it. i wanted my sons to behave & act like they should. i wanted people to be glad to see them because they were well behaved not say omg here she comes w/those mean kids again.

I have been torn by the topic on many occassions. As a child I was spanked and most of my family believes in spanking. I on the other hand felt like that wasn't necessary to discipline a child. I always thought I would be different. One reason that I never wanted to use it as a means of discipline or correction is that I felt like it sent mixed messages to the child. I felt like I was gonna teach him to not respond in a violent manner, fight or argue in school. But on the other hand everytime that he did something that I did not like I would act in the same way that I had told him not to. The double edged sword. Just didn't sit right with me. However on a couple of occassions I have spanked him. Only because the normal means that I would use would not work and finally I would resort to spanking. You see my son is very non-chalant and most traditional ways of discipline that don't involve spanking don't seem to phase him. If I told him that he couldn't watch tv, he would be just as content staring at the wall. If I told him that he couldn't go outside and play he was like cool, inside it will be. But the rare times that I decided to spank him it got his attention.

I remember when I was maybe eight years old, was spanked by my father. While I was playing with my cousins, he calls me repeatedly and I ignored it until he gets mad at me and pulled me inside the house. He spanked me. So whenever I hear his voice calling me, I'll come to him immediately. Now his gone, I really missed him. He is a loving father, a good provider too. I loved my Dad. I am a granny now, and I don't really want to spanked my grandchildren. I'll let their father do it, if necessary.

Parents must spank their children if they have done something wrong, which will make them remember the mistaken,but not too often.

I have had to occasionally spank my son when he was growing up. I don't think it hurt him, I don't believe in beating a child. I was spanked a few times when I was growing up too, I don't think it hurt me neither. I have had to swat a couple of the grandkids on the butt too. I do think sometimes a swat on the butt can make a difference with some children. I just had the one son. I do have several grandchildren and only a few of them have had to get a swat. I do know some poeple never have to swat their kids, it sometimes seems like they have perfect kids. My son wasn't like that at all.

I was spanked, occasionally, and only when absolutely necessary. My kids were spanked, occasionally, but mostly not, because in the wrong situation it teaches the wrong thing. However, when something VERY important needs to be learned, like, "Do not go to stranger's houses, or do not go running through the parking lot" (both of these earned a spanking, once) A spanking was necessary to get some attention, after all else failed. I think the fact that it came to that point is what made it effective, both in my life and in my kids' lives. I felt like a spanking applied once, at the right time, kept them out of trouble later.

I spanked my son when he did things that were dangerous and he knew better. When he was 3, he decided that walking out of the house on his own was fun. The first time he did it, he got a good lecture and a time out, within a 1/2 hour he did it again, he got a very serious lecture and a time out, and then another talking too about how dangerous it was to do this. I turned my back and he was out the door. Then he got a spanking -- he looked at me with all the anger a 3 year old can have and said 'I am NOT going to cry and I am NOT going to let it hurt'. He was almost 7 before he left the house without permission again! YES, spanking can be effective in the right situation!