My ex took his life

Leeesa, I am so sorry for your loss. It is good to see you back here because you can talk to many people and possibly receive some comfort. This is so sad and again I am sorry.

Hi leeesa, I'm sorry to hear about it and glad to know that you came back and share that to us..This site can be a great place to vent and express one's feelings! I am wondering if he tried to seek for any doctor's help for that problem or just live life having it! If he has no one to talk with and interact with, and with the difficult time he's been going through, For sure it was difficult for him to live a life... that is so sad that no one in the family were able to feel it..but, everything has a reason, so, all you can do is to pray for his peace!

Hard luck! Start a new lease of life!!

I do empathise. I think I know this because I once decided to take my own life except I was stopped by someone I have come to know well. Your dear husband must have thought that his life of suffering was just so endless that he couldn't take anymore. Lots of people face this problem and its not everyone who can succeed with it. My deareast empathies.

I am so sorry for your loss. It is tragic that mental illness can grip a person like that. Just don't let yourself feel any sort of guilt over it. You can never predict the behavior of someone who suffers from bipolar and is normally so full of life. I hope you will find the support you need to get through this terribly difficult time.

My condolence Leeesa.. I feel so sorry for the loss. To be honest, none of my beloved ones who are very dear to me has passed away yet. But by just thinking the will no longer be by my side is enough for me to feel so bad. A depressed person can swing from one mode to another depending on how he deals with it. I just feel bad that this went this way for your ex husband. As for you, I can imagine how long you've known each other and it's really understandable for you to say that a part of you seemed to die too. It's pretty hard to cope when things we hold and dear and people we grow up with suddenly leaves. Expect to cry and get down a lot. Expect to miss him and always think of him. Expect to grieve and grieve but you'll soon be over it once you've gone to the acceptance stage. I pray you happiness and peace of mind that you deserve. Just hold on and things will turn out fine. Cheers!

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it has to be difficult especially when there are children involved. It's my understand that someone who wants to take his/her life will do it without warning. They do plan how and what to do and nobody knows. This makes it difficult to see anything out of the ordinary that would throw up a red flag. Again, I am so sorry you had to experience this situation. Take care and hugs, carolbee

I can't imagine how you are feeling. I suffer with rapid cycling bipolar. I had to retire from my job because of it. The last 2 months haven't been too bad. One thing people don't realize is that the manic side of bipolar is the most dangerous side. I have attempted sucide 4 times and have been hospitalized 5. You don't realize what you are leaving behind. I think it is important to realize that it was the illness that caused him to lose his life, just like if he had cancer. Mental illness is real and a terrible thing to battle. Seek counselling and contact your local mental health society.

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your ex. I know you guys had your reasons for departing and it's hard to have seen him the way he was when he was alive. I know you probably were the only one to notice this and stuck by his side because of it. For his family they should have all been seeing it as well for maybe he wouldn't have gotten to this point. My family is like this noone talks to eachother they all fight everyone just basically does his or her own thing and it really bothers me. I am the baby of of 6 in my family I'm 34 and here I was like 8 years ago trying to get the family to reunite with one another and they all shot me down claiming that noone get's along it wouldn't work. That tore me up more than anything for family is the biggest thing that should matter most to anyone. I bet his family is now feeling really bad they never took a better look at what was really wrong with him and to help him in anyway that they could. What he had was very serious and one like that has to be kept an eye on at all times not knowing what they are capable of doing like he did. People like him have their own ways of reaching out for help and he saw none of that and probably wondered if anyone cared at all. I pray that god may give you and his family the hope and peice of mind that your ex is now in god's hand and can give him the better care than anyone could have given him. Know that he is with you in spirit always and he still loves you no matter what or where you are for ever and always. Take care and god bless you.

I felt such sadness when I read your story. Not only because your ex felt that he needed to go to that extreme but for the sadness and loss that you now feel. Losing a loved one is never easy and I am sure in a situation like this it is even more difficult. I am glad to see you posted because that is going to be healing for you to hear stories and suggestions from people that might be in the same situation. I would suggest counseling and even journaling. Talking with people that will help you understand what your feeling will really help.

Are you OK? I know this is soooo hard to deal with. Remember what hindsight is, if we knew back then... I have known several people that left this life that way. Your post proves how very important it is for us to stay in touch with people. Right now my younger brother is dealing with some things that have him in a bind. I have sisters that profess to be good Christians that run their mouth about him with gossip and never call him to even pass the time of day. When people are depressed, they need others even if they don't admit it. I am sorry for you loss. If I were you I would remind his family of what they missed by not being there for him. But, do it with grace.