love advice anyone?!!
By heart4u
@heart4u (409)
Philippines
July 12, 2008 11:11pm CST
i am a psychology major and i know lots of people have queries regarding relationships..
feel free to share and ask advice from me..
i will do my best to give you an advice or give a solution to your possible problems
2 responses
@chej18 (915)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I have this feelings and it kind of bothering me a lot.Since my partner betrayed me i've changed into different person anymore,i am so unhappy,depress and upset.I decided to forgive him and give him a chance after all what he did to me.I cant forget what happened what ever i tried to forget things and move on but its too difficult.I tried not to blame him but sometimes because of my feelings i do blame him for turning me into unhappy person,i cant handle jokes anymore,and the slightly things can irritate me.I have doubts w/ my feelings right now,I love him but i got the feelings that i dont wanna be w/ him anymore and i want to have time for my self.But i dont know where to start.I been so hurt so badly when he cheated on me and that changed my life, and personality.I was inspired and happy person,i have a lot of trust on my self,but right now i am completely diffirent.
I am trying to solve this thing or finding some solution how i can make my self calm and just dont look back for what happened.But i cant, but if i go i will hurt a lot of people who love us together.Like his parents and my parent.And i am not sure if i can make it w/ out him.BUt if i am going to tell him to give me some space mybe it will be more worst.I asked him to understand me right now.i told him everything that i am unhappy,but sometimes i can see in his face that he is afraid that one day i am going to tell him that he need to let me go.
Should i stop trying to work things out?I dont want this relation end,When were apart for one year i tried to have some other relationship but all i can think is him,comparing everybody to him,on what he was.And i was so afraid to open my heart again to someone else.
So i am not sure if i can have any relationship anymore if i stop this relationship...I hope you can give me some advice..Thanks a lot..have a nice day..
Greetings from Che!
@heart4u (409)
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
hi che..
you know what forgiving a person means you will forget 100 percent all the bad things he does.
if you really love the person you must not look on the things that he does that had hurt you must not look back.
you said you forgive him then meaning your willing to start a new life with him.
i think you gave your partner forgiveness without thinking twice it would be better if you do have some space to think befroe you forgive the person.
but as you say you love the person and your willing to resolve things out.
ill advice that ..
you close your eyes.. breathe deep .. and think..
do i still love this guy? why do i love this guy? and think all the happy things he did to you.. all the good memories you shared together..
and then open your eyes ..
and you will knew what will be the ans.
because when we love we sacrifice .. we never intend if we will get hurt as long as we are happy..
or try to talk to your partner ask for some space if your are bothered about what others might say like his parents dont mind them because the issue here is YOU because you are the one who feel unhealthy about the situation which is not good better talk to your partner for sure he will understand you..
according to the way you tell your prob. i feel you really love your partner..
can i ask something..
and probably think about this
can be YOUR LOVE FOR YOR PARTNER BE THE ANSWER TO YOUR PROBLEM??because love doent keep record of wrong and its willing to forgive and forget
when you learn this for sure you will have your happiness..
one thing keep praying for god knows every solution to problems..
godbless...
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Hi heart,
Wow, this is cool..I have no problem in my relationship and just drop by to say that great to know that we have Dr. Love here! I know you will be getting a lot of people dropping here!
