What would you do if you found out your child is being abused at school

if its another child abusing your child then it would turn into a legal matter, but if it was a teacher well I would have to go abuse them back!

being abuse by an adult I am assuming, call the police and they better hope they beat me to the school...

That's a tough one. First of all it would depend on who was doing the abusing. If it was another student, I would start by complaining to the teacher and if that didn't work, I would go to the superintendent, and if no action there, to the school board. If everything else failed, I would do my best to get my child out of that school system, whether it be by sending him to another public school or to a private school, or even by home schooling. There is no way a child should have to put up with abuse whether it be mental or physical, but especially both!

refinery, Respectfully, I must ask, why haven't you called the police? If you know that your child is being mentally and physically abused at school by school officials there is no logical reason not to call the police. If you have proof, that's great! If not, it's up to the police to examine the evidence, and find the proof themselves. However, if other parents have also spoken up about abuse to their children, that kind of points the police in the right direction, don't you think? Please call the police. We all know that as parents it is our responsibility to protect our children. Don't let children or yourself down. You owe it to them AND to yourself. Good Luck! I hope everything works out well for your family.

i would take my kid out of that school.

I would contact police to have child give verbal and written statement. Take photos of any abuse marks, gather witnesses and get statements in writing and do a letter to school stating child not coming back until the school can guarantee their safety. Not sure if the child is special needs, but there are two sites to check out for assistance. www.reedmartin.com www.wrightslaw.com Good luck, here is my website: http://autismspectrumdisorders.bellaonline.com Bonnie Sayers

As it is clear from your other replies that you are in a difficult position and dealing with those people who are supposed to protect your child. I would suggest that you can try to gather evidence of the abuses an then call the police or even try contacting a good lawyer, who will screw them up.

I would set up a meeting between me, the teachers and the abusers parents so we can find a way to resolve the problem.

Go to the school and beat the living hell out of whoever was beating my child.

File a report with the police and ask who was doing to my child so I can sue the pants off of whoever was doing it to my child.

Well me personally I would probably go into the school fists a flying towards the people responsible for these actions but I'm overly aggressive. But I would suggest contactin not only the police but your town mayor, your governor and just keep going up the ladder. And maybe even contact a news crew, the news just loves to go public with things like that, oh maybe the news paper too. Give some of them a call and see if they will help the matter.

I will go to their school and find out what happen and if he was right i will deal with thenm

been there done that . my daughter was in grade and that was going on . i had a fit . went to the school started w the teacher didnt help moved to the principal i almost ended up in jail . i was hot . after that i started going to the school and watching recess and i seen why they didnt know it was happening cause the recess teachers werent watching . kinda hard whne ur back is turned smoking a cig . it was 2 boys picking and hitting on her . im so glad we arent in that school district anymore .

Wow.. I wud be furious and sad.. and find out who did it and take him or her to jail... where as for my kid support the kid in every way i can..

Go to jail.

My son was mentally abused by his teacher last year. He came home crying saying his teacher was making fun of him in front of the whole class and making comments like, "I could just choke you" I first confronted the teacher and asked her what she thought she was doing talking to my son like that. She got very defensive and said my son was making it up. So I went to the principal and told him what I thought of the teacher. He said he would speak to her and I guess he did because nothing else happened after that. If it is other students abusing, I would tell the teacher or the principle. If it is the teacher, tell the principal. If it is the principal I would go to the superintendant of the school. School should be a safe place for children to go. Not a place that causes fear. Teachers and other authority figures within the school should know better!

I would first pay a visit to the child's school and speak to the prinicipal and possible abuser. Then, depending on the answers I get and proof such as witnesses if there are any and pictures of bruises visit the police station or call the police down while your at the school. Even without proof you can do this I beleive. I hope everything will be okay if you or someone you know is going through this. :(

I would have to do something about it. First I would find out who was doing it. Then I would go speak to the person above the person committing the act.

First, Document. If the child is old enough to write have him write the date, his name, and what happened... even if they are not if they can write a word or to on their own it is still good. Have them write what happened, with who. Also document yourself and have another witness around that your child trusts.. listening and be careful that as your question your a not giving feeding questions... Like do you feel so and so did such and such? Instead of Who did this to you? How do you feel? What exactly was done to you? ... And write down what you ask as well... Take seperate film and camera your are not using. Take pictures of any bruises, get them developed after you have notified the police. This way if the photo place sees bruises on the children, they do not panic thinking you did it, and if they call in to the police the police will know that you are getting them developed for evidence.. so there is no can of worms floating around. Most officers do very good at investigating, but if I found enough to be true myself I would pull my child out of that school no matter the outcome and encourage everyone else to do the same.. until the abuser was either totally removed from the school system or removed from any student or child contact. Keep a file of documentation until you believe you have enough evidence and witnesses... Chances are if your son is getting abused, other students are too... I do not know how the laws work in Canada, but here in my state (Wisconsin) this is the action my Mother takes... Take Care, - DNatureofDTrain

I would call the police. It is their job to do the investigating of your charges. They don't take child abuse too lightly.