The threat against me..

That is your husbands way of having control over you, because he knows it scares you. If you have done nothing wrong than there is nothing to be afraid of. They will not just take your husbands word on what he says, he must prove it, and if they find that he has lied, they may send him to jail. I feel sorry for your son as he may be starting to become like his father, and if he is gining you problems and not respecting you, this may be carried over to other girls and woman in his life, and this is not a good thing. Possibly counsling will help your son.

Hi Sweets I would contact someone from their school or your doctor. Tell him your concerns about your son. I would also get in touch with domestic abuse. They will help you get away fro this man before he really hurts you. Mentally hurting you is not ok! xoxoxoxoxo

And if that's true, that you've done nothing, then a children's aid investigation would work in your favor. They don't just walk in and take children. A phonecall made to them has to be checked up on, and then investigated. They'll come to your home to see if there's any merit to the complaints. Then they'll investigate it. If they see something that is harmful to the kids, THEN they act, but not before. If you're honestly not doing anything to harm them, then his threat is just that ... a threat, and you can quit letting it loom over you, since it has no validity. You might want to call them yourself. Get them involved, tell them your husband is threatening to call them if he leaves with some interesting stories, and invite them over to see your children and your home. Get to them before he does. And boot him, please. I could spend a lot of time writing why you should, but you already know why ... so just do it, before your children are emotionally damaged in ways you can't ever fix.

That is a terroristic threat. I think your husband is doing this to control you. I think you need to let him know you are not going to tolerate that abuse, I would take steps to get support for yourself and your children and make plans to leave if you have to. If he wont go to counseling go yourself and with the counselors help try to plan out the best course of action for yourself and your family.

Ciniful has given you some great advice. If it was me I would follow it. But I would add some twist to it. If you have a tape recorder, record how your husband speaks to you and the kids. Then turn around and tape your son. That way hey can see where you son gets it from. That way you can show them proof of who the abusive parent really is. He might have to go to therapy and hopefully it will work, But I'm not betting on it. Thanks.

Cream..... I really don't know that anyone here can convince you. You ask, we answer. You come back with another thread about another threat and you get more answers. But yet you don't seem to be grasping the whole picture here. If your husband has nothing "on you" then whats the problem? I am truely sorry you are living this way. But what I am sorriest for is that your poor children are living this way. Your husband is abusing all of you and YOU are allowing it to continue by staying there. I know that this is the fourth thread I've responded to on this subject for you and I know from reading all of them and the responses you've gotten that you've been given great advice. But, we can't make you take it. I'm sorry, but I won't answer another one of these posts, because I'm beginning to believe you are posting multiple threads just for the attention you receive. I sincerely hope you seek help soon.

Hi cream. Your husband has no right to take your kids away without your authority. If you have problems with your relationship I think the child shouldn't be affected. I hope your husband is not shouting you or yelling you in front of your children cause this can be imitate bu your children. You said that your son is being disrespectful, and why all of the sudden your children are being affected or changed for what reason?I think you should talk to your husband personally and talk about your situation and your children's attitude. I think you should priority with your kids maybe someday they will be affected without your knowledge. I hope everything will be okay my friend. Take care.

Exactly as I said in one of your other discussions. Your kids will mimic their dad's behavour if you don't put a stop to this. Do you want you son to grow up like his dad, mean and violent? Of course not, so leave when he is at work and take the kids with you. Go to a shelter so you have proof when it comes to court, that he is abusive and you had to leave. All I can say is, get out now with the kids. If your husband doesn't get professional help I am afraid for your life. He sounds like he could easily kill you, and what good would that be for your kids. Get out now.

Oh poor you, your husband sounds very controlling and your son is picking up on his attitude towards you and women and if this is not curbed will end up treating his women in this way too. If there is no reason for him to take the kids from you he is just bullying to make you stay. I suggest you go to talk someone about this and if you want to leave him have someone to help get him out so you and the children still have a roof or if not get them to take you to a safe house away from him. If you want to stay boy does he need some help with his insecurities which he is now using to be mentally abusive to you in this. Good luck. Really don't know what to advice here. Ellie :D

cream what the hell are you waiting for, he has made it plain that he does not love you , and the threats are to stop you, to 'cower you,so leave, get the hell out of there now before he does more than call someone, get your pa rents to help or a friend but get your kids and yourself away from this man'now, why are you waiting,you know whats going on and its getting' worse, so make up your mind to get out while you can, with your kids, get police help if necessary but get away from him.Now your kids are reactingfrom his bullying and it will get worse, please we are allbegging you to be brave and do what you need to do,if I lived close to you I would help you myself. get a friend or neighbor or someone you trust to help you move you and your kids now. dont wait.

You can not allow a man to do this to you. I am with everyone here who says that you need to contact children services. Contact them, the police... do something to get him out of your life and your children's. He's corrupting your children, and I know that you wouldn't want them to grow up to be just like your husband. Please get him help, and yourself help. If you love him and your children you will do this. I can't begin to imagine how hard it is, but I can begin to imagine the relief you will feel once you make those phone calls. Have a Wonderful Day And Good Luck To You! I hope that this gets sorted out!

What a story, you could sue him, you have your right.

I think you need to settle one thing a time. Firstly you have to think seriously ending your marriage. Get it done officially. And then let the court decide who should have the right over the children. If you are not working and do not have a steady income this might be difficult. The court will find you unfit to take care of your children. So think carefully of what you should do. As far as I am concerned this tug-of-war with your husband will go on and on. So you need a brave heart to straighten up your life. Get help from relatives and friends or a marriage caunselor near you place.

You are in a bad situation. Your husband i think has a mental problem. Why can't he leave you alone with your kids. Go on with his life and makes things easier for you. There are just other person that is hard to understand. To make matter worst your son is being disrectful. The sign of your husbands behavior is in him. I think it's about time to end your messeries. Call the authorities and tell them everything that your husband is doing to you. You shouldn't let yourselves be a prisoner in this horrible situation. You have the power to stop it, used it. Please, do it now.

You husband is absolutely terrified of going back to jail. He knows you hold all the power in your hand by making a simple phone call. He is trying so very hard to get your head all twisted up. He wants you to be afraid of him. Don't but into his abusive game. If he still has a probation officer that he has to report to, call that officer and report what has been going on. If there is no probation officer, call the police. Either way,,,,,,,,Ask that you and the children be put into protective services such as a Women's Shelter. Let the officer know that you no longer feel safe around him. Let them know that the son is repeating the father's behavior and that you need help getting him into some counseling right away. Stay Safe and Stay Strong.

Hi cream, I'm sorry to hear about your problem..Maybe you just need to talk to your son calmly..I know kids have a soft heart but when the environment is like that, like your husband will shout and talk to you bad words in front of the kids, they will imitate that...Try to talk to your son heart to heart that you do love and are for them and you'll in pain when he will do that to you as a mother! About your husband, he is really controlling to you..I don't think so he has the right to take your kids away but hopefully, there is a solution to that aside of ending the relationship...Evaluate what's the cause of the problem and think of different ways to solve it!

Does anyone know where cream lives or has anyone here heard or talked to her in the past 3 days? I'm really praying that she is ok but would like to hear it from her or someone that has talked to her.

hey cream, i dont know much more about yo life, i think you should consult someone with whome you can share every thing, from A to z, I have one question why this is happning. This might hurt you but was their your fault? its getting serious, get help now. please, pray for youself and your family. I pray that, God, please bless this woman and guide her, forgive her and her family, send peace and your blessing to this family,"

Yes, let's all hope that Cream has taken her children and gone to get shelter away from her husband. I've looked at Cream's other two discussions and she's not responded there, either. If she has gone to a shelter, it seems as though it took a long time to decide to finally do that. To do that, it has to be the "right time". I know, because when I left my ex, it had to be the "right time" in order for me to do so. Cream and her children are going to need all the help they can get. If the shelter is able to get the resources for her, hopefully she'll stick with it for along time. Let's hope she'll let us know soon how things are going with her and her children. If they are at a shelter, there may not be internet access for the clients. It's one less way in order for the abuser to track them down.

Sounds to me like your husband is setting a terrible example for your son. The threat he made is controlling and nonsense. Nobody will take your children away unless there is substantial evidence. Your husband is using this as a threat to keep you in the marriage. Have you recently found some self-esteem and have been less controllable by him? Just a thought. He definitely seems to have some control issues and seems to think the marriage and his control over you is deteriorating. Mothers want to protect their children and be with them. The threat to lose them is a great tool to maintain control and obedience. It's a pity, because deep down those guys are major league insecure. Unfortunately, only professional therapy would be able to treat the abusive behavior they exhibit. I don't know much about your situation. But it seems your husband is at least a bit abusive towards you. Your son will copy that. He will think that's how things are and that's how he has to behave towards females. You seem to have already grasped that danger. If you feel like you need to end the marriage, fear not, courts favor the moms in custody cases as they are still usually the primary caregiver, especially if the mom is SAHM. Your husband knows that. But he may try to fabricate evidence. If push comes to fall, maybe you should start keeping a record of his abusive behavior towards you and the kids. Any type of documentation is better then nothing to proof your own case. Hope your situation works out alright.