Anger vs being mean

no, i don't think that anger in one person should be directed unto others, there are constructive ways to deal with your anger, why take it out on someone else when they did nothing wrong. however, there are many people that when they get angry they treat everyone around them so differently that it can cause frustration and even anger to build up in those people

Have a right? No. But it happens when we get angry. It takes a really mature person to get angry and remain calm and rational. That is something we each have to train ourselves to do. Some are more adept at it than others. If you are one who can always manage their anger in an intelligent, rational, mature manner my hat's off to you. I'm a kind, caring person, but sometimes something catches me so off guard that the anger spews and what comes out may be some very harsh words. (No physical violence, thank goodness!)

Anger affects us in all different ways, it's the way we attack others through being anger, some of us can control anger and vent it in different ways, like through painting, art, music, going to the gym, others vent it out on others by using mean tactics, being mean like you said, attacking verbally and physically, snubbing, ignoring, being hurtful back, the list goes on. We are all in control of how we let anger dictate but sometimes it all too easy to let anger give us the few minutes of satisfaction, only to suffer deeply afterwards, it takes a strong person to forgive and direct the anger on something else.

I try to never be mean out of anger either but sometimes it happens with my words only. When people like to hurt me and make me feel bad, sad or mad, they do not care how I feel and I get tired of it at times. I really do not mean to hurt them back but sometimes it just happens, but I do feel bad about it later but I get so tired of being treated badly by others.

When I get angry, I stay mad for a long time. When I am mean, it is usually not out of anger. There is usually another reason I am mean to someone.

Yes, it's ok to be angry but it doesn't mean that when you're angry you have to be mean about it. There are a lot of things you can do to properly manage your anger. In my case, I have a housemate and I just can't explain it but she really angers me. So what I do is I ignore her.... And I pray that I won't see her....

No one has a right to be mean out of anger. I had to teach my husband not to ake anger out on people. I set a good example, and before too long he realized that anger should be used to motivate, not to offend. Defense doesn't mean offense, rather o stae a point clearly and calmly. You're not defending your point when you are offending someone else with verbal violene.

Hi raydene! Oh I do get angry and upset when things don't work out the way I want it to be, or get angry when people hurt me and things are so unfair but I have never been mean to anyone even if I am so very angry. I don't even seek revenge myself but sometimes I do think about it but never ever do it anyway. I usually shake of bad thoughts and pray that the bad things I think about will be erased from my memory and I do ask forgiveness for the bad thoughts I wish to happen to people who hurt me so much to come true. I am just human who hurts, gets angry and wants to be vindicated somehow. When I get angry, even so very angry, I just keep quiet because I never wanted to speak of words that will truly hurt people. I don't want to open my mouth unless I know that I can control myself and just focus on why I got angry and not make any mean remarks which I know I can once I started. However, that will not make it right or stop and will just make things worse. Take care and God Bless!