At what age you become a mother??
By kissie34
@kissie34 (2294)
Philippines
July 14, 2008 1:59am CST
Hi guys, I'm just wondering at what age you give birth with your first baby?? How was the feeling to have a child?? Do say to yourself that you don't want to be pregnant again?? [am]lol[/em]
I am not yet a mother... I am just wondering how is the feeling to be pregnant and give birth to your baby.. I have seen so many pregnant woman who find difficulty during their pregnant period, they becoming sensitive and easily to get sick.. Then accordingly, it is really hard to give birth.. You will really suffer pain... Then another thing is it is not easy to take care infants because it will cry anytime even at night (you cant sleep very well).. The more if the child is already toddler you really need to look for him/her every now and then since she/he is already practicing how to walk.. I have seen this from my niece because I have experience of being in charge to take care with them and that is really hard...
How about you?? How was your experienced??
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14 responses
@michele_villasenor (624)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
I got married at th age of 27 and got pregnant when I was 29. Motherhod gives me so much joy and I know I will never regret having a baby ever. I had a generally easy pregnancy, so, no, i don't say that i don't want to have another baby anymore.
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@michele_villasenor (624)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
While it's true that a baby is a precious gift and yes, it has yet been the best experience for me, I think not having one does not mean that a woman cannot be complete. She can feel completeness in other ways, such as being able to reach out and help the needy, fighting for a cause, or even adopting a baby and treating him as her own.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
Oh! It took so long before you get pregnant.. Anyway, at least you have your baby now.. I don't know how it feel to have a baby but they said that to be able to be a women and experienced the "real life" in this world you need to become a mother because that the precious gift and best experienced that you can get..
Thanks for sharing!
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@dani27 (544)
• United States
29 Jul 08
My husband and I couldn't get pregnant for about 3 1/2 years and we felt like being parents was what we wanted to do. We adopted our little girl after we had been married for over 5 years. I was 25 years old. I wouldn't say taking care of an infant is too hard but you have to be selfless and ready. Yes, they do cry and sometimes you can't figure out why. But as long as you love your child and try to meet their needs it is ok. My daughter is now 2 1/2 and has a mind of her own. It is a lot of work but I have to remember she doesn't know better and instead of getting mad at the trouble she gets into to show her the right things to do. Really when you get down to their level and realize that they are frustrated too they learn a lot and it helps. I was finally able to get pregnant and am now 26 weeks prego. I am so excited but nervous too. Throughout the 26 weeks I have gone through sickness, headaches, pains, worry, kidney issues and more. But it is all worth it. I know the end result and can't wait to be a mom again. Let me tell you it is a lot easier being a parent than an aunt. Being a parent you make the rules and they grow up to learn from you. Neices and nephews push the limit cause you aren't their parent and they try to test you.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
Well, as for my nieces I also make a rules for them to follow.. I agree with you that they sometimes take for granted with all of my rules and most of the time we always quarrel especially my first niece which is 6 years old.. Actually, my younger sister always have a difficulty in her relationship to our niece.. They always keep on quarreling with each other even our 2 years old niece.. I sometimes laugh at her because she was acting like a child too.. Well, my younger sister is still 16 years old right no...
Congratz for being a mother! At least for how many years of waiting God had finally gave you your own child.. But I hope you will be able to treat the same way with your adopted child and your own child so that there would be no jealousy will happen.. Thanks for sharing..
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@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
29 Jul 08
I got pregnant with my daughter at the age of 19, and had her when I was 20. I will be turning 21 soon. I love being a new mother! At first taking care of my daughter was overwhelming since i didn't have much help from family members, and my fiance works 12 hour shifts. But now I have the hang of it, and i enjoy every moment I get to spend with her. Don't get me wrong, there are moments I get frustrated, but i wouldn't change having my daughter for anything. In the future i would like to have more children, but for now i want to be able to enjoy my daugther.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
Oh! You got pregnant very early but at least even you got pregnant very early still you enjoyed being a mother.. I can say that your so strong because you can still do it without help from your family.. Actually, my older sister were also like you.. She got pregnant at the age of 23 and gave birth to her daughter at the age of 24.. She was pregnant that time alone without help from us (her family) and from the father of her child.. The man left him when he knew that my sister is pregnant (very irresponsible man).. But no matter how hard it is my sister still continue her pregnancy and she went home when she gave birth already.. At first my father was so mad at her but as days passed by my father began to accept her back because of her daughter which is her grand daughter.. Her daughter is my first niece..
Anyway, thanks for sharing..
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@TheManager24 (1302)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
I dont think I can carry a baby eventough there has been a couple of guys who tried.
In any case, I think the deciding factor for having a baby is not primarily dictated by the age. It is more on the holistic preparedness by the mom -
Is the mom-to-be emotionally stable?
Is the mom-to-be financially capable?
Is the mom-to-be physically sound?
Is the other parent the same?
A lot of questions that has to be answered affirmatively. Another life is a great responsibility not only for the kid, but for everyone.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
I agree with you.. Being a mother or parent isn't that easy because there's a lot of responsibility you need to take for the your entire life.. No matter how matured you are and how responsibility you are for as long as you are not ready to be a mother then I don't think that you can work it.. Anyway, thanks for sharing!
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@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
hi kissie!
well i am pregnant now, and i am 33. i will be giving birth in march next year so that will still make me 33. :) i am so excited because it has been awhile since we have been trying to have one. :)
good day and God bless you all mothers! :)
take care all!
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@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 08
I'm now 7 month pregnant, and I'll be 30 years old next year when I give birth. Well, it's really more difficult than I thought, but all these really worth it, as it's really great and joyful to have a baby. I'm really glad to be a mother, it's a really great experience that I can't explain. Sometimes I do feel the suffering and sickness, and I always tell myself, it's because my body is preparing a good bed for my baby, so I should be glad about all these.
I'm really looking forward to see my baby, though I'm a bit scare about the pain during delivery.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
Congrats for having a baby.. Well, they said that all the pain you've felt when were pregnant and when you delivered the child will be gone when you see and hold your baby already.. Try to be relax and just keep on praying that you will be able to deliver your baby very healthy and same with you..
Wish you all the best.. thanks for sharing!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
4 Dec 08
I was not quite 22 years old when I gave birth to my first child. He was born 10 days before my 22nd birthday. A couple of weeks before I gave birth to him my OBGYN told me that if he wasn't born on such and such date she would induce the labor...on my birthday! The last thing I wanted was my baby to be born on my birthday (though at the same time it would have been cool) and I was glad I didn't have to be induced. My water broke on it's own and my husband and I rushed off to the hospital.
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@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
14 Jul 08
I'm 30 when I have my first baby and I think its a little too late. I don't have any difficulty during pregnant period. Its not easy to take care of infants as I can say and you are right about it can't sleep well at night as the infants will cry anytime. For toddler I think its much easier though they are just praticing to walk. When they are about 4 is harder for me because they already have their own thinking and they were start to talk back.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
Based on my experienced to my nieces, its really hard to take good care especially when the child is in the toddler ages because they begin to walk and you really need to watched them carefully especially when they were walking since their knees are not yet that strong and they might fell anytime.. Well, I think age 30 isn't that late to be mother.. Actually, my aunt (sister of my father) get pregnant at the age of 32 for her first baby then at the age of 35 for her second baby.. What do you think is the best age to be a mother??
Anyway, thanks for sharing!
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@sharay (2769)
• India
1 Aug 08
I had my daughter when i was 26...she is a blessing to me, well...yes just after the pregnancy, i swore to myself that i am never going to give birth to another child since mine was a normal delivery and many pains involved,,,but then that thought would stay only until you get cured of the stitches, not after that.
After the birth of my daughter, i am leading an entirely different life now full of love and care....she has given a new lovely meaning to my life, the purpose of me being born...and i am so very fortunate that she reciprocates my love so much so that she loves me more than i love her...there are just no words to explain these feelings you know, you have to defntly experience it in your life kissie to know what life is and how beautiful life is after giving birth to a baby, i sincerely wish that you be blessed with a child (if possible, i would say a girl like mine)
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
Thanks for that but maybe in the future not now.. I have a lot of things need to do in my life especially now that I'm confused with what life do i want and I still don't know what I want to happen in my life.. I'm still finding my self since I'm so lost.. I want to be a mother if I am already very ready since I know that being a parent isn't that easy a lot of responsibility will be in my hand and for now I don't think that I can still handle those responsibility... I need to find good job to be able to support my family and to be able to save for my future life.. For now, I'm still enjoying myself being a single with a boyfriend and being an aunt of my two nieces.. And besides I am having fun with my nieces..
thanks for sharing..
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@naseeha (1382)
• India
17 Jul 08
HI
i had my son when i was 26. It was a bit difficult during the first few months of my pregnancy. But when i got my son in my hands all the trouble vanished. I love my son and never regret having him.I never knew i had such motherly love in me until i had my son. The only thing is i cannot sleep whenever i want to like how i used to do before he came along lol..
But the joy and the happiness and the hope he gives me means much much more. It is wonderful to be a mom. Watching him take his first step, listening to him as he develops his vocabulary and admiring him whenever he does something new......
the list is endless.
My son has given me happiness which i never dreamed possible.
One more thing is that looking after others children is not the same as raising ones own. Even though it has some problems it is a rewarding job
Cheers and happy mylotting..
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@albertlher (115)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
i was 32 when i gave birth. and the feeling is amazing,and there is no words to explain this feelings, especially when i hold my baby,i want to hug her, kiss her,all the time, all the pain i felt during my labor, are all vanished.and she is a blessing to me. i couldn't ask for more i am now complete as woman.
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@LuvBr0wn13s (765)
• United States
4 Dec 08
I had my first child at 20. His father left me about 1 month later. I now have 4 beautiful children at the age of 33 and I cannot even imagine my life without them. The best thing about raising them is that I don't have to do it alone. between my mother, my brother and his wife, my sister and her husband, and my own husband we have enough people in our little "village" to ensure that all of the children get the love, care and support that they need. i have found that the easiest part of caring for a child is when it is an infant. Once they get older and they encounter outside influences is when you have the headaches.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
Oh! why did your husband left you?? Well, at least theres a lot of people will going to help you.. I guess your right.. When a child were influences outside your home that isn't good then its hard for you to changed them.. You will really suffer a lot since they will be very hard headed.. But kids can be taught easier than adults.. Wish you the best and your children.. Thanks for sharing..