Why is everyone against the single parent?

Probably out of jealousy :) I know, I've been a single parent myself and it's not easy. I have the utmost respect for the person who can carry off that role successfully. BTW, how was your daughter's birthday?

Wow. I'm sorry you've felt that way. I certainly don't see it that way. I have a huge healthy respect for those of you who have been single parents. I don't know how you manage other than I know God gives you the grace to do so. I have a problem with deadbeat parents. They were an equal partner in creating the child so they need to have an equal part in caring for the child. If he owes you $27K, it's a shame that they can't garnish his pay again, find him & land him in jail, or something. It might be different if he was really trying and just couldn't find a job, or whatever, but if he's just a deadbeat, that's a shame.

People who are against single parents don't know were there talking about. I rather have a happy single mother ore father than a unhappy couple off parents. The best way to grow up for a child is in a happy home. It should mather if it;s with one ore two parents. Isn't there a way for you to get your supportmoney? Have you tried going to court? I hope you will get the money very soon.

I respect a single parent that does what they need to. I definitely do think that they should get support to help. I do not think that the other parent should have to work for nothing because they have to pay support. I think it should be reasonable. I was a single parent, and it is hard.

I think that i read this discussion. and even posted in it. i was not one of the ones you were talking about here though Haha forsire. i am single parent currently not recieving child support. but this wont be the first time and im defiantly sure that it wont be the last time either. the onylt hing hard about being a single parent is monetary. other then that. i love being a single mom. my daughter father now owes 6,850 dollars and some change for back child support. im all for the single parent. i understand that non custodial parent needs money to live... but so does the daughter/son he made... so i dont think they should take all of the money. but atleast 45& of what he makes.... my orderd support is 310, when he does pay child support he usually pays alittle more then that. to work on arrears. but like yours. hes never paid support on his won. only when his employers takes it out of his check before he gets it...

I am a father who pays child support to a woman who doesnt have my child. My ex wife doesnt even have custody of my daughter yet I am ordered to pay her child support. So I do. I tried to give it to her sister who has my child and who desprately needs it. I was rewarded by my drivers licences being taken away. My ex wife continues to get the money and not my daughter. So I end up giving an extra 200 a month to make sure my daughter is taken care of. My daughter is a teenager now. I see her all the time and we have always been close. The reason I dont have custody is because she has always live with her aunt and I wouldnt take her away from the ony mother she knows. I know this really doesnt have much to do with your story I just wanted you to know that there are some good dads out here that get the same run around. I hope it gets better for you. There are a few good ones left.

i'm not!...instead i salute them for being strong and brave in taking care of their child sometimes they really sacrifice their lives just for their children. i think there's nothing wrong with that...but ofcourse that will depend on the situation.if the partner is being irresponsible...i think they do not deserve to be parent. i'd rather become single parent than having a partner who are irresponsible. great day!

i am a single parent too and i don't think everyone againts with it.,maybe some but don't bother by them.,as long as your doing good with your life and your not messing it.,your supporting your kids with their stuff then i guess you shouldn't be bother by them., just let them think whatever they want to think.,remember you can't please anyone here.,

thats a toughie. first i dont think its a good idea to taint your working relationship with them so youve got to tread carefully. you mentioned 3 ways they could contribute that would help you out. i think youd have your best luck with handmedowns and tuition. why should they pay for your child care? it brings up lots of you chose to have children now you want me to pay for it? feelings. with handmedowns they were going to get rid of them anyway and with tuition they could feel like they were contributing to you bettering yourself. i think id go slowly on this one if i were you. write an open letter and put it on the bulletin board. be specific about what you need. explain why and be sure to explain that you are going to school in an effort to improve your economic situation. then set up a time and place they can leave the stuff. and it should be somewhere private where they wont see you and you wont see them....is there a storage room you could get the use of for a day? see how that goes. if your coworkers are sensitive and generous they may even ask if they can help you out in other ways. you sound like youre trying hard to make yourself better. good luck

I have nothing but the upmost respect for single parents. I have stated that it would be preferable for a child to have both parents in the house but I also relize thats not always posible. Heck, I was raised by a single parent and I think I turned out okay and I dont even know who my dad is. I'm not sure who is against a single parent, I must have missed hose discussions. Hugs, Tianna

Maybe because the society does not accept yet being a single parent.. Maybe they were thinking that the child can't get full love with only one parent not like when the child has his/her mom and dad.. Of course, it is really different feeling to have both parent.. I have a sister who is a single mom.. Her child is already 6 years old.. Actually, she never asked yet anything about her dad.. But my sister always tell her child where is her dad... Actually, my niece already saw her dad once but it seems it is nothing to my niece maybe because she is too young to think of anything.. She grew up with her grandparents (my mom and dad) and with us.. My niece always think that her father are her "Angkong" (grandfather) and her "dada" (my brother).. She never asked anything about her dad but she knew that she has its own dad.. But when someone asked him where is her dad, she definitely say/point her "angkong"... Her father didn't support her, don't even gave even one cents for her.. My sister is the only one who is supporting her child, she didn't asked anything from the father of her child.. I think there is nothing wrong to be a single parents for as long as you are giving your full support to your child and showing the love that the child needs..

I don't think very many are truly against the single parent. I'm, personally, against the parent that doesn't contribute to the child's life, monetarily or otherwise. I think a lot of people don't pay child support they owe because they're being hateful against the other parent or are too selfish to take care of what they brought into the world. The single parent that works (if they're able), raises a child as well as they can, and is making things work have my eternal admiration. Some people can't do it with a partner, even, which makes single parenthood even more amazing. You sound like you must be a good, loving parent. Many people wouldn't make the sacrifices you have for your daughter, and I hope your daughter appreciates it, if she doesn't already. Don't let people get you down. There's always going to be someone to tell you that you're doing something wrong, but I'm sure it's even more of a low blow when it's at you as a parent.

maybe because being a single parent is against the norms of society (?) but really, i don't think everybody is against the single parent. it is unfair to say that. there are people who understand. and being a single parent, as long as you and your family and friends know who you really are, what other people think should not matter. Those negative stuff should not get the best of you. Just stay positive through everything that's happening. i understand you completely.. i, myself, is raising my own daughter w/out her father, and i get little financial support from her dad too. but i'm lucky that i have everybody else's support. my family and friends are simply amazing! i suggest you to not dwell on the father of your child's flaws. it's really hard to understand men like him, why they can do such mean things to their own child. but you can do something about your attitude towards your situation. just focus on doing your part in raising your child well and giving yourselves the best future that you can give. Good luck!

not mostly... i wont think single parent is wrong... in turn i think they are quite strong...dare to make a decision for better future( divorce must being through a tough time and struggle) ... JUst some of the old way of thinking people will against the single parent, cause they think the parent divorce without thinks of the children..

I am so sorry you have been made to feel this way, sweetdesign. I have never read one of the discussions you are referring to, but I can only assume it is ignorance on the part of the person writing it. Unfortunately, it is easier for some people to put others down than to spend any time trying to put themselves in someone else's shoes.

I had someone here on myLot when I first started tell me that it was my own fault that I had a deadbeat dad not paying child support because I had my kids out of wedlock. It pissed me off at the time, but I try not to let ignorant people ruin my day. I am a single parent of 2 kids. I am getting regular support from my daughters father, but my sons father is a worthless piece of garbage who just last week told me he wanted to sign away his rights to my son so he would not have to pay child support. I told him it does not work that way.

Because you could not get full love from both parents, however, in the course of growing ,we need both love! Not just single love which is not good for our heart health!

Hello sweetdesign, I know a lot of sigle mums who had really hard to bring up their children, my sister had twins and her husband gambled he stole mone from her for the kids and eventually, she threw him out and got a divorce. She struggle for many years on her own without her ex-husband support, she never got a penny from. Then kids grew up and she met anothe man and he is an angel who loves her kids like his own and that was many years ago and thekids are now in their 30s and he is still with their. Now what people are saying about is these single mums who have just come out schools and never worked and starts having kids and don't know how to look after them and to depend on the states for money, I think you are marvolous in how you had bring your child up. I admire you and people like my dear sister. Tamarafireheart.

You need an equal balance of the man and the woman to raise a kid. The child will probably get mad at his dad/mom and seek revenge. But good luck to any single moms/dads.

I totally agree with you and am in favor of single parents. I feel that a child is the responsibility of both the parents. If one parent is not helping in the up bring of a child, at least he can give financial support.All the best.Take care.