need to be more confident of myself
By sansuchi16
@sansuchi16 (33)
Jamaica
July 14, 2008 1:06pm CST
i have a low self esteem and im not sure what to do to build it up.eveytime someone tells me something nice i deny it.i remeber the first time my boyfriend told me that i was beautiful and i told him i was not. i always find some fault with myself and hardly take the time out to look at the good stuff.i cant bother anymore im just fed up and most of all when someone else comes along and tells me that my self esteem is low.i think i doubt myself too much that im blinded to see hthe posssibilities of my life.
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3 responses
@fluffnflowers (1594)
• United States
14 Jul 08
That's very difficult, and I still struggle with it. I decided to improve on that, and it started with me simply spitting out a 'thank you' when someone told me how nice/pretty/fun I was. It was very hard, but I actually started to smile a bit every time I said 'thank you' after awhile. Self esteem isn't easy to gain, but getting fed up is a good step forward. 
Maybe you should just put your foot down and stop denying what people say, even if you don't believe it yourself. It doesn't seem like a lot, but it can really help.
Good luck! And remember, even if you don't think you're beautiful, your boyfriend probably sees you as a goddess. 
Maybe you should just put your foot down and stop denying what people say, even if you don't believe it yourself. It doesn't seem like a lot, but it can really help.
Good luck! And remember, even if you don't think you're beautiful, your boyfriend probably sees you as a goddess.
@Hakemp001 (32)
• United States
14 Jul 08
You said it better than I did, but you are right. Getting fed up was what did it for me.
@hinkerbell (522)
• United States
21 Aug 08
i think wat u should do and take time every week or day and sit down and give urself a pep talk. everyone is great in there own way. thats for sure. ur not a loser u dnt lie. give urself compliments
@Hakemp001 (32)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Sansuchi16
This one is a hard one to respond to. There are many ways to raise your self esteem, but when you feel so beaten down, it is hard to stay motivated. I have some tips for you however, it will be up to you to follow them and follow them regularly.
First, I will tell you that I myself had many self esteem issues, but I finally decided for myself that I no longer wanted to feel the way I did.
You need to understand that you were put on this earth to be just as good as anyone else!!!!!!! You are not just a face in the crowd, you are an individual with your own thoughts and feelings.
The first tip I have for you is to write down on a piece of paper, everything you wish you could be. It doesn't matter how silly it may seem, it is what you want to be and how you want your life.
Once you do that, let me know and I will send you the next step.
