Grounded

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I am quite confused, lost, and honestly also very fustrated. His birthday is next month. But he got his present sooner, well the item was on sale. So he came home and tested it out. Then after dinner, I walked into his room and checked out the game. Then mentioned that he only gets one hour of play time which includes computer and game time. He complained and and said "I am not a little kid anymore" I reminded him that his grades were dropping because he was abusing the computer and game time. He was permitted to be on the computer anytime granted he has the grades to back it up. He was online chatting pass 11at night, when it was a school night. So when I realized that I locked it during certain hours. So he abused the freedom he had right? So I apply the parental control and set the timer to turn off when it was time for bed. He also played with that and manage to figure out his dad's password and continue to stay online after 11pm. I told him I would not limit his play time if his grades did not drop from 3.27 to 2.0 in less than 3 months. I am starting to feel that his friends, once good friends are now rubbing some of the bad habits to him. He compares himself to them and expect to be the same. For example, his friend's parents don't speak english much so they can get away with bad report cards. Their parents don't care what time they sleep, don't care if they are not doing their homework. So now he feels when we tell him he needs to do homework first, then play time. He says "gee, you are a control freak". Anways, back to the last incident. My son gives me an angry look when I tell him the reason why his computer and game time is limited. He then puts his new guitar down, walks away. Then returns a few minutes later on to play. he walked away because he is upset. I told him, as long as you living here, and I am responsible for you financially you will need to go by my rules. I don't know what to do with this child anymore. He is my first child and now he is really becoming an angry child. he complained that I control his time on the computer, but how can I not? He gets on the computer all day and does not do his homework. He even goes on after midnight when it is a school night. Did anybody have this problem and what did you do? I need some tips from other parents.