Having a Relationship with someone in Prison?

I do write to a friend that is in prison but we have been friends for many years. I know people that have had relationships with someone that is/ was incarcerated. I personally dont think I would do it just because it would be too easy for that person to lie about what they are in there for or anything else.

I have the joy of being the mother of a child of an incarcerated father. So, naturally, I feel that just because someone is incarcerated, doesn't mean that they should be entirely alone. The mail and contact with loved ones makes their time go faster. Being caged in a cell for years at a time will make a sane man crazy. So, What do i think? I say more power to them...

I have mixed feelings about this now that I have done it. I married an inmate who I met while I was working at the prison as a clerk. 6 months after he got out, he found a girl who was more into the wild life he missed, and he was gone. His problem was that he went in too young. He spent all of his 20's locked up, so when he came out at 31, he had the mentality of a 20 year old. And he felt trapped being in a relationship already. He had wanted that before, wanted the security of knowing he had a life waiting for him when he got out. But then he decided he wanted to 'Live' more, and wasn't ready to settle down yet. But everyone is different. I don't know what to say about it. I sure as hell won't do it again. I wasted 4 years of my life and have nothing to show for it.

Hi prncesfrmheaven. I think that they are doing a good thing for them cos they would get lonely and this will mean that they will have some support in there and when they come out into the world. I write to a person in Jail, they are a pen pal and an old class mate too. Catch ya later. pretty_babe

I used to work in a women's prison, so this is just another side of the story to look at. I will try to word this the best of my ability so I don't offend anyone. Most people who go to prison do so because they commited a crime. Most of the people who are in prison are not honest people. When writing to people they have never met they get to be anybody they want to be. Correctional Officers have a full time job trying to make sure that prisoners on the inside are not commiting crimes with people in the outside world. This in itself is sad because some people are so caught up in "they are innocent or not bad people" that they dont do anything to protect themself. We would have female offenders get ahold of other prisoner's pictures or pictures of family memembers. They would send or have these pictures posted online to potray themself as these other women. If the offender was overweight, she would have a picture of a skinny girl, etc. If the committed a crime against a child they would tell the person that their spouse did it and made them take the fall. They would tell these people that they were only writing to them and have them put money on their accounts, but really be writing to twenty men having them put money on their accounts. Some would tell people that they were getting out in five years and in reality they are their for life. I could go on and on with the stories...but I wont. You may hear alot of stories where people communicate and all goes well and they live happily ever after. I am not trying to say don't communicate with them, but use some judgement. Remember alot of these people are con artist and they know how to play you and you not even know it. Please anyone who is thinking about it, be sooooo careful!!

I've had a relationship with someone who got a 14 year prison term for domestic assault. We knew each other before he was arrested. It made things very difficult and the relationship didn't last for a multitude of reasons... we're still close friends however and it's probably better that we remain so.