Have you been in love with your friend
By dorothy09
@dorothy09 (1520)
Philippines
July 15, 2008 4:09am CST
I dont know if what I felt before is love to my friend..maybe I am just in love with someone as a friend..or the other way around...
We used to see each other during highschool days until college..We became so close because we have a common sports and we used to play together on weekends..
I know he just see me as a friend and I too see him as a friend..But why?? I feel so envy if someone is behind her or she is with other women...
I just keep it with myself until we have separate lives..
But just would like to ask.Is it love what I felt for him or just a sort of longingness....
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15 responses
@sabahking (416)
•
16 Jul 08
i think love is start from friends.if start from friends so only we can know each other well !! Like that only can forever and if not it will not forever i think !! SO they not really understand then together.After that they only discover the bad things of each other and then break up! so love start from friend is the best!
@Mat_keane (236)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 08
I have already fall in love with my friend. I know she about 6month. After that we declare n in love now.
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@lloydbelleza (1227)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
I think I felt that same way too. But I think that feeling you have is caused by habit. You have been so used to being with him. You like hanging out with him. And you love just being with him. He becomes a habit that you cannot escape. You cant keep yourself from thinking about him because you trained yourself to think of him for a long time. You feel envy because you tend to become possessive of him. That's not good. I can't really tell if it is love or what. But I think you can consider him as someone you want to be with for the rest of your life.
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@excellence7 (3655)
• Mauritius
16 Jul 08
The one I love was my friend since very long time ago. We have been best friends also. And finally we fell in love.
@msedge (4011)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Maybe there was something on him that you admire.And if happens that he likes you and courted you it might develope into love.
@eastwoodw2 (4)
• China
16 Jul 08
I think it's love. you should tell him your feeling of him.
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@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
I have been in a similar situation except for a little twist, I had a crush on her before she became my friend. I saw her once at a local tv station and she was absolutely the most stunning thing I have ever seen. A few years later we became very good friends and saw each other almost everyday and sometimes she would ditch her boyfriend to be with me on some occasions. I never told her how I felt all that time until she moved away and I wrote her telling everything about my feelings for her.
@twistershot (736)
• India
15 Jul 08
If you have nice friend then you got a partner, friendship is very near to lover life, you know one things love starts from friendship, we meet boy and girl the says each other "can we are friends?" then after starts the real story, it may happen with many people who got love married, so friendship is every thing, some people keep this relation as friendship like a brother, some people convert into lovers, these 2 things are very different. I made friend but never express my words to her, because I was very much care about our good friendship relations, after that I got married and she got married with different persons. That story ends with friendship.
@nikecold (91)
• India
16 Jul 08
Thats cool dude, its really good one. For me we together being studying form our school days and not being so close to each other. I was really afraid to talk to any of the girl in my school as well as in my neighbourhood. I was a shy guy and not too talkative. But it started when our seniors have to leave the school to give the Farewell Party to them and say goodbye to them, so in those days it happened, i dare to talk to her and from that time till now we are good partners.
bye take care.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
Well there is a saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Well in my opinion from the details you have posted, what you felt was just longing. Well if you feel a little jealous with other women you might just be infatuated with him not really in love. Maybe all the times that you were close made you really feel a special bond with him and I think that you wouldn't want that other people just take away that bond between you too. Maybe if he comes back and you still feel the same way then that could be love
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
15 Jul 08
Hi, I think it's love. Yeah, I am sure it's love. Based on my life experience and dealing with guys, and also as an outsider, I can tell yr feeling is not just a commom friend.
Love makes you jealousy...
@shintongs23 (537)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
This is related to one of the discussions that I have started. I am a very loyal friend yet I always fall for a friend. I am easily fall in love, especially when I am always with him. okay, I admit that I am gay. And some of my male friends are straight! But that is not a hindrance why I have straight male friends. Some of them have been my childhood friends and they know who really I am. I know how you feel whenever you see someone is flirting with him or just being with him. You are jealous, right? But it's normal as long as you know how to place yourself. I think it's not yet love, if we are going to consider the true essence and meaning of love. A puppy love? Maybe. Or perhaps it's only a brotherly love or friendship. Love is a complicated thing. Do you want to know what is the difference of love and friendship? Just send me a message. Cheers!
@OldplaceGB (24)
• China
15 Jul 08
When I was studying in high school,I was also fell in love with someone.While I am not sure if she love me too,so I haven't told her what I thought.Some months later,she sent me a message,saying that she love me.How excided I was when I saw the message.Now,we are fell in love with each other.Having experience this,I think we shouldn't be shy,don't afraid failure.
@jakelogan103 (5)
• United States
16 Jul 08
just admit your feelings and let love take its course...
i know if I mention "Jerry Springer" no one will listen, but if you take the time and listen to his "Final Thoughts", they usually pertain to situations like or similar to this, and you might just get a laugh or two...
but seriously it sounds like love and you should go for it.