Why do guys fall for the mean girls?
By alori61
@alori61 (344)
United States
July 15, 2008 6:22am CST
Is it just my life or has anyone else noticed that the people that get the parner they want always seems to treat them like dirt? I got involved with a guy a couple years ago, fell head over heals in love, but then he met someone else and got married. She is extremely demanding, and does nothing to make the marriage work, they fight all the time and he calls me he's miserable with her, and she really does treat him like a slave or something. I have always treated him like gold, help him in any way I can, I've helped him pay bills, I'm raising his daughter (not bio mine) I'm his best friend, (not friends with benefits either) . Two weeks ago he threw her out, we hooked up and was very close in every way, he told me how great it was to be with someone who let him just be himself instead of controling his every move. Then out of the blue he let her move back in, and I'm back to best friend, while he gives this nasty hateful woman one more chance.
I got to looking around at the people I know and I've noticed it's not just this relationship that appears to be that way it seems the ones that treat the partner like dogs are the ones that get the love. I can honestly identify at least 6 other people that have this going on in thier relationships. I even have a daughter that treats her guys like dirt, I've even gone so far as to seriously warn guys she'll eat them for breakfast and spit them out at lunch but every guy she meets falls head over heals in love with her.
So I'm wondering is it me or do other people see this trend in their lives? Any one got any theory on why they always want the one that treats them like dogs?
2 responses
@mariechin (426)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
Because Men re very egoistic and women are very understanding..
@mariechin (426)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
Because man loves chasing ans romantic. Women who look like and act like b-tch is quite challenging, showing their bad attitudes at first make men think wha'ts good about this girl, and eventually ending up falling in love with that girl..
@chej18 (915)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I dont think they see it that why.When people fall inlove you dont love her/him in his/her bad or good things that she/he have.There is no such perfect person or perfect couple at all.They becoming perfect to you or loving them because you decided to accept all the bad and good things that what she/he have.
I agree w/ you that some other person treated thier husband/wife or partner as nothing
.Honestly speaking because they let them to do that to him.Mybe becouse he love that person very much so what ever she do its ok w/ him.He need to respect himself so other people respect him.He should not let his wife to do that to her.
And the wife i guess she got strong personality that wants to come out but she doesnt know or recogniced that she is doing so mean already to her husband.If the husband let her know that she is doing that kind of things to him mybe she can open her eyes.
But yah this things happened and it has to be that guy need to be a guy not the woman who wants to be a guy.He should let the wife know that he is still the man in the house
.Its so nice of you to help him that way..Its very nice that he have you..Atleast he can talk to somebody else about it.
Have a nice day..TC
Greetings from Che!
.Honestly speaking because they let them to do that to him.Mybe becouse he love that person very much so what ever she do its ok w/ him.He need to respect himself so other people respect him.He should not let his wife to do that to her.
And the wife i guess she got strong personality that wants to come out but she doesnt know or recogniced that she is doing so mean already to her husband.If the husband let her know that she is doing that kind of things to him mybe she can open her eyes.
But yah this things happened and it has to be that guy need to be a guy not the woman who wants to be a guy.He should let the wife know that he is still the man in the house.Its so nice of you to help him that way..Its very nice that he have you..Atleast he can talk to somebody else about it.
Have a nice day..TC
Greetings from Che!@alori61 (344)
• United States
15 Jul 08
In the case of my daughter I've asked many of her road kill why they let her treat them like dogs and they all say they don't know theirs just something about her they can't resist. I've asked her why she treats boys the way she does and she says cause she can. She's 19 and I can name at least 6 boys that would give anything to be with her, and that's besides the one she's engaged to right now.
In the case of my ex boyfriend they got married two weeks after they met, I know for a fact he is not happy with her and for the most part has never been, but he says he didn't get married to get divorced and he has to give it every chance to before he gives up, he don't want anyone to say it's his fault and doesn't even see that the people around him think he's a moron for staying with her.
I don't know I think I need to learn to be a mean girl sometimes they sure seem to get their way more often then I do.
@chej18 (915)
• United States
28 Aug 08
Well how could people get married in two weeks that they meet each other that is really insane. I dont think i can do things like that. Mybe if i am drunk (LOL).But i guess his life is miserable, but what he is thingking is wrong.When the people fall inlove and they cant live w/out each other then the marriage thing come-up.I am not really good about relationship but i can just give some words.People just dont get married to devorce he is right w/ that but people dont get married also to treat each other like a sh*t, or a dog.They must have care,love,most of all respect and trust.But if she is treating her like that what is the used of staying w/ that marriage.Its not acceptable atleast for me..
And i think your daughter it will stop if she find the real one for her.I been also pain in the *ss for some ex of mine but because they cant handle me.If the people is a mean person they cant really noticed that w/ thier own.It has to be that someone is going to let them know that they are so mean already, mean person used to it to be mean they doesnt know sometimes that they can hurt somebody already.TC ur self..Thanks for br..
Che
