does your honestly come and bite you in the butt?

Hi,I feel the same way. I consider myself an honest person and try not to lie even if it will "make the other person feel better". This is because even the little white lies I have told in the past (no, your butt doesn't look big in that outfit..) has indeed come back to bite ME in the butt! I want people to always be 100% honest with me, even if it hurts my feelings. If someone is willing to lie to me about the little stuff then when I NEED to hear the truth.. will I get it? I'm sometimes brutally honest with people when they ask me a direct question and have been told I was being rude. It's never my intention to hurt people either but I feel that dishonesty is even more hurtful. . Sometimes people have a hard time facing the truth and would rather hear a lie just to make themselves feel better. It's like that saying "what you don't know can't hurt you". I think it's better to know now then to find out later!

Yes. People do tell me about me being too honest and I should not be so in today's world. They say that one should be practical enough and be a little selfish too. I think Honesty is a virtue and if it bites you in your butt, it is just a test for you. A test to see if you are honest enough not to give up that virtue. Every good thing to do is not so easy and anything that is bad is too easy and you won't even have to try for it. Honesty is an Precious Ornament for your Personality and your Identity. Preserve it!

i wrote my first novel with honesty, blunt and sarcasm...and i call it honest fiction.

You too huh? Yea I'm one to tell it like it is. I often forget that people don't know me well enough to read the concern between the lines. I guess I can sometimes come off a bit harsh, but unless the person is a total jerk and deserves it, I really don't mean to be. I just prefer honesty without all the pretenses.

Most of the time my honesty doesn't because it's either cold hard fact or I add a little humor in the mix. I hate telling lies and hate when people tell me lies, I can usually tell when they do. I don't really have anything to lie about in my life and try to tell the truth always.

I think ,in this world, only few have the guts to swallow the truth.Truth is always bitter.One should not be blamed, when he has been asked for ...

yes..defntly, that is one of the main reasons i dont have many friends, people say i hurt others very easily, that i am too straight-forward, but i feel thats because i speak the truth and they are just not ready to accept the truth, they want you to speak something to flatter them provided they very well know that its not true..and finally, i become the bad person among those people...anyways, i am least bothered

Yes many times people would rather hear lies

It used to happen to me all the time. Then one day I decided I'm not going to be entirely honest anymore and if I feel what I'm going to say will offend someone I just don't say it and keep it to myself. Even if sometimes I want to slap some sense into someone- I keep my trap shut and smile.

You are right! People really do not want to know the truth most of the time. They are only hoping that you will say what they want to hear. If someone asks my opinion, honey I give it. I don't like to lie. I have learned to shut my mouth unless I am askeed. Have you ever tried to tell someone that their significant other is cheating on them? Don't ! In my younger years there were cases in which I found myself in that position and even asked if I knew a time or two. Never in that situation do you come out a winner. Most of the time you will be alienated or somehow "to blame" just for being the one that told. More times than not, they will make up with the each other making you the "trouble maker" for telling. I still would not lie if I were asked staight out, but aI am not sure I would bring it to anyones attention again. Not because I condon it!! Because I have learned my lesson. Do people want to know the truth? If someone is talking about you behind your back.. Do you really want to know that? If they are that kind of person--chances are you know that. Why bother with them to begin with? Usually it only hurts feelings to tell someone what is being said behind their back in idle chit chat. Besides, if the freind telling you were really a friend,,,why were they open to listen to it to begin with? No, it is not worth telling. People say things that they may not really mean anyway. If you really care about what is being said about your friend, tell the person who is saying it where to get off.