Marraige probs

Hey its better to talk off the stuff rather than going to a counsler Talk about it Think why does he think that you are being a cheat Show him more importance, love him more and make him feel that you are all his , so that he can remove his doubts and clear his mind

I know this will probably be quite hard to do but you should try and sit him down and ask him why he has these issues and accuses you of cheating. I think I agree with you though, if he has suddenly started accusing you of cheating when you haven't or you haven't even given him a reason to think it then it's probably because he's cheating or at lsat thought about it. That's not necessarily true though. It could be that there is a problem with the relationship which he doesn't know how to bring up and he's accusing you of cheating to avoid the real issue. That's why you should talk to him to give him the chance to tell you the truth. It might not work and he might not want to tell you but on the other hand, he might tell you so you need to try.

I had a girlfriend that went through the same thing as you. She was constantly accused of cheating. But one day she finally caught him, he was cheating and to make himself feel like it wasn't his fault had blamed it on her. She found out that a child who lived in the home behind theirs was his. She divorced him, but never married again. She suffered so much mental abuse. If you have any love for him, get counseling for you. If it isn't there anymore, then move on. No one has to live like that.

Yes, you do have to get happy for you. I can only speak from my own experiences and not saying it's the case in all situations, but I went through the same thing with my first husband. He would check my phone, hit redial on the home phone when he'd come in, check the history on the computer to see what I'd been up to, even sick stuff like checking my clothing when I'd come back from being out of the house 10 minutes at the grocery store. I knew in my heart he was up to no good and I was being the good wife doing nothing, but getting put through the wringer for his guilty conscience. I agree with what another said, marriage counseling, IF he'll go, otherwise, maybe it's time to get out and get yourself some counseling, to find the happy within YOU. Hugs to you!!

If you love a person set him/her free.. if he/she comes back to you then she/he is really for you... its the least i can post..

I would also suggust you see councling

Im sorry to hear that you and your hubby are having problems. Have you guys try to go to marriage counseling? Sometime going to counseling and letting out what your thought without your partner getting mad, screaming is a good way to solve some problems, because you will have someone there with you and both of you will have a chance to say something to each other. Im not sure how long you guys being married but if you still love him, and want to stay together, dont give up! You can get help and maybe it will work out. Wish you the best.

may be you saying too many "no's " to him....may be...

I'm sorry to say this and hopefully it's not the same inyour situation,but Ihad a fling while still with my husband, and I would always think he was cheating, even though I knew it was immpossible with his schedule, and my Bes friend would assure me it was MY guilty concience making me think that way, and he even told me that once also; so I suggest counseling, cuz that's what we did, and it been a lot less fighting since, and this was a lil over 4 yrs ago.

Whoa! That was a hefty leap in logic hun! I mean, at first you're saying it's hard for you because he's been suspicious and a bit controlling. Then you say MAYBE that means he's projecting (i.e. he's the one with something to feel guilty about). Then all of a sudden you guys are done?? If both of you are just looking for real life excuses to get out of a marriage that you just no longer "feel" then... maybe getting honest rather than pointing fingers and making stories would be better (and less painful). But otherwise, definitely try the counselling! There could be a million reasons for his actions. Maybe he's trying to get a little attention (you've been preoccupied, or he's getting insecure, etc). Maybe he has pent-up resentment about other issues. Regardless... I think there's a lot more that could be done!

well talk to him with cool mind and solve the problem. try to knw whether he is cheating or not

I would suggest that you seek counseling if that is at all possible for you. You could be wrong in thinking that he is cheating. It sounds like you have some major trust issues in your marriage. I'm sure you could work through this with some professional help.

Theres defenatly some trust issues in your relationship with both of you. That in itself should be a reason for counseling. You two really need to sit down and talk some things through and find out where you want to take the relationship from here. I hope there are no children involved.

well do you have any strong reason to believe that he is cheating u.dont arrive at conclusion so early.i know its very difficult to survive in this type of situation.being a woman i feel that its not easy to forget your first love. give some time to your relationship .stay separate but not legally.he may realise his mistake.if this does not happen just free yourself.all the best friend.

If you are doing nothing wrong...then it is his problem. He has serious issues. I think he should be the one getting councelling....but that is up to you....? If you have talked to him and he still doesn't believe you ..then there is nothing you can do. Maybe...you do need some time apart....?

I think you both need help, get counselling is my advise. It is easy to break up a marriage, but life may not be so good and pleasent later. All the best!

Why dont you try asking him out to a favourite romantic restaurant so that both of you could actually have it all out in the open? Tell him what you feels about all this and encourage him to share too. It takes a long journey for both of you to find each other, and leads to marriage, dont throw it all away. Try salvaging. I guess he may be feeling insecure to be so possesive and suspicious. Is he having problems with his work? there are guys that tends to be very pessisimist when things go wrong in their work, they tend to feel insecure and lonely. Good Luck, my friend!