Fear of being alone
By Richard
@rbailey83 (1428)
Canada
7 responses
@anawar (2404)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Good question and not an easy one to answer if I go off topic.
Sometimes you look at other's relationships and wonder what keeps them together. Fear of being alone is one possibility of many.
I'm not afraid to be alone, but after a break-up of a relationship, I find I am lonely.
I never wondered why I stayed in the relationship (it wasn't a good one) until I had to answer your question. I think part of it was fear that I wouldn't find another partner.
I lived alone for four years, and although at times I was lonely, I preferred to live alone.
Now, I wish I had a partner and the chances of finding one are very limited.
I thank you for starting this discussion because you helped me learn more about who I am.
@rbailey83 (1428)
• Canada
16 Jul 08
well i am glad it helped you. And even though it is hard to believe sometimes you will find someone, things always seem to work out in the end, but it just doesn't feel like it
@krayzietam (832)
• United States
16 Jul 08
I have never felt like staying in a relationship for fear of being alone. Actually I never had that problem now that I think about it. I'm perfectly fine being by myself if I have to. Sometimes a break or space is good.
@rbailey83 (1428)
• Canada
16 Jul 08
yeah sometimes being out of a relationship can do you a lot of good, there are both pro's and con's, good for you for not haveing that problem
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
I don't think it's fair for the other party to keep them just because of the fear of being alone. I do not think that it would be just for both parties to stay in a relationship simply because they don't want to be alone or that they are afraid that they won't be able to find someone else. However, this is how a lot of people feel. It's sad that a lot of people have to go through such. It never happened to me personally and I don't think it will ever happen to me. I don't fear being alone because I know that my family and friends will always be around no matter what.
@rbailey83 (1428)
• Canada
16 Jul 08
i think your right that is seems to be getting more common that it used to, wonder if maybe it is just because more and more people are starting to have less self-confidence.
@mialei23 (2385)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
Hi rbailey83.I tried to be in relationship before just to cope up with a break up. But it doesn't work, and I will not be happy for it. I tried to push myself to be happy but I wont find happiness in other people but on my self. And a right person will come right away on the right time. Thanks for the post!
@rbailey83 (1428)
• Canada
16 Jul 08
you have a good way of thinking there, im glad to see you are still thinking on the upside, many people loose that, especially after a breakup
@pravinahMC (11)
• Mauritius
17 Jul 08
ya long ago i used to feel like zat..but no more!! its ok..now i feel..if sm1 will leave me..zer will b someelse much btr after!!
@lcorillia (10)
• Canada
18 Jul 08
i have never stay'd in a relationship for that reason, i have the mindset that there will always be someone else, sometimes it may take a while, but there is always someone else out there. However, i do sometimes worry about being alone when i loose sight of that.
@baileycows (3665)
• United States
16 Jul 08
No I have never really had that problem. I do it more out of financial fears.
