My son graduated high school. Does he still need me?

Well as you have said it right you let him commit mistakes so that he'll learn. Unfortunately we parents will be right there when things are out of control. I think your son is already learning the independence he is experiencing these tremendous freedom and maybe its just right that you leave him to decide on his own. But as parent you should always welcome him back whenever he asks for help from you. I think this is our only role now that they are becoming a mature and responsible adults like we are.

of course, he needs you. even if he already graduated college, or even if he has his own family. as a mom, you should always give the best guidance to your son. it doesn't matter on how old he is now, what's important is that you are doing your responsibilities as his mom. base on what you've wrote in there, your son is not mature enough to handle things. he's still trying to learn on his own, and I think, that not taking your pieces of advice is the best way for him to show you that he's matured enough to make his own decisions. I think that's part of being a teenager. I remember way back then when I was still with my mom, I am trying to do things on my own even if she's offering some help. well, the reason was, how can I actually learn, if from the beginning, she doesn't want me to experience some things?.. so whenever I fall, there, I will tell my mom that even though I made mistakes, or if ever I stumble, what's important is that I've learned from it. at least, whatever I do, my mom where always there to back me up, whatever decisions I make. with regards to his girlfriend, your son is so much in love with the girl that he's willing to do anything for her even if he'll sacrifice everything for the sake of the girl. well, I guess, you should talk not just to your son, but to the both of them. you should help them to realize and to think how will the relationship work base from your experiences.. let your son feel how important he is to you, and that you love him so much and will do everything for him, and give the best guidance that you can give.. if your son is really not that narrow minded, I believe that he'll understand whatever you wanted to tell him. I hope that all I've wrote in there makes sense..

I think a relationship between mother and a child never ends.I am from India and here family relationship is very strong.It is the duty of a son to look after their parents when they grown up and listen to what their parents telling.Our culture is totally different from the western culture.

I think you should talk to the son and explain him the consequencies and ask him to concentrate on his studies.dont try any bossing and avoide harsh words and explain him the drawback of the girl freind.

Yeah why not why do you think he doesnt need you come on its not that!