one hour before the party....

I would probably decline the invitation for the same reasons. One hour before the party would make me fell like an after-thought and not a welcome guest. Besides it is rude to expect people to have no prior plans or the ability to drop whatever they already had planned just to attend your party. I don't blame you at all for saying no to this invitation.

Could be a couple of reasons they waited to invite you. It's possible they totally forgot to - he thought she did, he thought she did, but in the end, no one did. Or, the party itself was a last minute thing and everyone got a last minute invite. If they've never done this before, I wouldn't worry about it yet. It if starts to happen regularly, then you can assume it's deliberate, but I wouldn't yet. If you really couldn't go when invited, it's no problem. They should be able to understand. But, I've known of parties thrown together on short notice and I, myself, have forgotten to contact someone when I'm trying to get everything organized - not at all intending to leave them out....just plain missed them in making the list. So, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it this time. It may well be completely innocent.

We have the same thought on this. It happened to me as well. Worse, I was invited 30 minutes before the party. I refused and said my alibis after. It's hard for me to attend such event because I am following a schedule and I don't want to ruin it. Kudos.

Hi checapricorn, I have to agree that an hour is not much notice, I probably wouldn't go either. I'm with you on this one, a notice of at least two or three days is fair. I wouldn't expect anyone to turn up if I gave them only one or two hours to prepare, it just isn't enough time. Blessings.

My kids have often been nvited to parties at like 15 minutes before it is going to start.Doesnt that just piss you off.I usually let them go but its often difficult to come up with a gift in that time frame you have to work with,lol.I try to always keep something on hand these days just in case,lol.

To me, a last minute invitation is almost rude. My sister had a party and called me to ask why I wasn't there. Well; gosh, I didn't even know it was going on until she called. There is such a thing as proper etiquette that should be followed in planning most events. Hmmmm, maybe without you there the party wasn't quite the turn-out they had expected and the people will learn from their mistake. Good friends should try to be good friends 24/7. Smile, you handled that nicely.

Being invited to a party at the last minute makes one wonder if they didn't have many guest showing up. If it were a spur of the minute party then I can see last minute invitations. But I wouldn't like to be an after thought.

You took the right decision, had I been in your place, I would have done the same thing. I also cannot go to functions, all of sudden.

That is not much notice to be given to attend a party, gosh I need more than that to get myself ready for a night out! If it was me, I would have felt that I was a last minute thought, like "Oh no we forgot to ivite such and such I will give them a ring" LOL. I do not blame you for not going, I would not have gone either, there is no way I would have been able to get ready in time to go to something that soon.

Hi che, I haven't had experienced a situation like this before. But if ever it would happen, I will not go either. I am a person who hates to go unprepared and I hate to rush things out. If I was invited at least 6 hours ago, maybe I would consider the option of going to that party. One hour is not enough. Happy postings. HUGZ!

Now, that is one thing that gets one my nerves! I can understand if it is at the last moment throw something together, but not a birthday party or other planned party. I have attended one or two just for my kids, but I usually decline because my life is so busy I need advance notice. Now, like in your case if it's someone that I used to be close to, I have mixed emotions. Let me explain: It sorta makes me feel good they thought of me, but it sorta hurts my feelings that if they took time to invite others and not me till the last minute. I would go talk to this person to try to find out how they really felt, without really letting them know why. Just to see if their intentions was good, but being absent minded or if they just didn't wont to hurt my feelings if I wasn't invited. If they was just being absent minded because life can do that to us, then I would apologize for not being able to attend. If I realize they were just trying to invite me because they knew if I found out if they didn't invite me, then I would take it as this friendship was not much of one. Then I would explain I was busy then walk away and stay away. I hope this makes since! {Hugs to you} because I know how you feel!

That is very inconsiderate to invite you at the 11th hour. Maybe it was their way of not wanting you there and knowing that if you were invited one hour before you wouldn't be able to go anyway. This never happened to me, and if it did I would not attend either. You and your husband are right in not going.

I hate to be invited that way.It seems they almost forgot you and then just a respect they invite you on the last minute.Thats very embarassing!How you wish you could say,"well looks like you can't say you dont want us to be there".

I know exactly how you feel. I got a phone call from my so called 'best friend'. (We have been friends for over 20 years.) She was wondering if I was coming to her cookout on Friday. What cookout on Friday. She said, 'the I'm having to celebrate my wedding. I got married Tuesday.' Her wedding was a no big deal thing, they got married at the court house, but still, I would have loved to have attended. Well, I didn't go to her 'no big deal' cookout. She let me know about it on Thursday. But still I was really upset. I didn't handle it very well. So, I decided that if I'm that 'not so important' than I'm not important enough to be her friend. I know that is very unchristian like, but I'm too busy to worry about stuff like that. I hope that you are able to find some type of peace with your situation.

It makes me wonder if she really would want you there, or are you a last minute invite because she had a couple chairs to fill, a couple cancellations. I would not attend either. Obviuosly it was a party that was planned in advance and so she should have invited you guys in advance. If it were me, I would feel insultated and I wouldn't attend. Sorry to say that, hope I didn't hurt your feelings, not my intentions here, my friend.

Hi Checapricorn, I had a late night phone call the evening before the morning of a Christening asking me to go and I refused as I just felt like an afterthought rather than being someone they genuinely wanted there. I bought a gift for the baby later that week and popped it round but did not attend the event. I am pleased to hear also that you had refused. It is different when my neighbour knocks the door and says we are sparking up the BBQ if you haven't eat yet would kove you to join us as it is such a lovely day as they themselves are doing on the spur of the moment but a preplanned event no. Ellie :D

hello che, maybe your friend is very busy so they forgot to tell you and invite you a day or two before the party. anyway, we had the same experience last 6th july, on our way home from DC our friend's daughter call my man and ask him what time we are coming over for her mom's bday. knowing my man's forgetful personality he didnt realize he is forgetting his friend's day and he tease our friend's daughter why only call us an hour before the dinner party. we end up not going there coz we left DC late already and we will arrive home very late and we will be very tired by then. i think in our case i have to say that it is my man's fault and not his friend coz he is supposed to remember those dates coz they are very close friend so we cannot blame them for calling us too late just to check our arrival to their home. i guess, it varies if you are very close or not. if you are not that close then it will be best that they will inform you ahead of time coz some people plan early for what they want to do in a specific day (kinda like us LOL). do you know the reason why your friend call you an hour before the party? you guys close with the celebrant? anyway, there is always next year so hopefully by then you can gate crash LOL good night!

i've been there. at my own home. i was out doing errands and i get this call from my sister. there was a christmas party at our house and a gift exchange in about an hour or so. she forgot to tell me but everyone else knew in advance. :D i scrambled to finish errands and bought a fast gift and went home to peeps and a party.

well, no one has invited me an hour before their party but in case that happens to me, it'll probably depend on where the venue is. if it's just near my place then i'll go. i don't really prepare that much when going to parties.;-)

if i were invited an hour before the party, i would consider first the venue and the people who are going before deciding whether i should go or not. if it's not that far from my place and if my close friends will be there, i'd definitely be as well.