Who is more attached to parents - Girls or Boys??
By SangsTurks
@SangsTurks (1444)
India
July 17, 2008 9:04pm CST
I and my friend were just chating and she said that girls are always more caring and attached to their parents. She is married but she still likes to take care of her mother and sends her out money everymonth. And when this discussion was over, it really made me think, is it true that girls are more closer to parents than boys?? Coz i too am very attached to my mother. Although i dont send her money as she dosnt like to take it from me. I have requested my mother to come and stay with us, coz she is 66 years old now and with age comes health problems. So i just want to be ther for her when she needs me, the same way that she was always there with me. And perhaps she has missed out a lot of my childhood so i want her to revive every bit of fun and love and everything that she missed out on me, with my little son. My father used to say abroad on business most of the time so she has to take care of me and her work at the same time and that is why she didnt have that much of time with me to enjoy my childhood.
Do you think that girls are more attached and thoughtful about their parents Or are boys the same, just that they dont show it??
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24 responses
@jenalforque (151)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
It depends on how family was brought up.Like when the family values relationship they will always find time to be together so they will develop closeness to parents.Also when you have same gender you tend to understand each other. I am close to my mother. My younger brother is also close to my mother probably because he still lives in her house.
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
18 Jul 08
Hello SangsTurks,
I was very close to my mother and she was my best friend but I think boys seems always come first to mothers they like their sons more I think because my brother was always stuck to my mother and he always gets away with most things but as for careing it always the guirs that care more for their parents.
Tamarafireheart
@faln_angel1205 (1192)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Thats a tough one, i feel it has to do with how their family is though. I mean i think they both can attach to parents just as much as the other can. I feel its all in the love adn affection shown between everyone in th family. If noone in the family shows affection such as hugs and kisses on a daily basis, i dont think a girl or boy will be as attached to either paretn as if they were to ahve that everyday. I have several parts of my family where the family unit in the home barely sit in the same room together let alone give a hug or kiss to someone, and the kids are very detached to the parents,, both the girls and boys. Then in situations like mine where every day all day long i tell my son i love him and so does his dad, my son is very attached. So again i dont think one is more than the other, its all in the family unit itself and how they are taught to feel, i guess you can say.
@krayzietam (832)
• United States
18 Jul 08
I really just thinks it depends on the child and the type of parents he or she has. There is no clear cut answer. As we may think that girls are more attached to their mothers, there are some daddy's girls out there and boys who are inseparable from their mothers as well. Some guys share everything with their mothers and/or fathers as well. Therefore, it is really up to the child and how attached they feel to their parents.
@MizukiZHR (611)
• China
18 Jul 08
I think the answer is girl.Boys always like to play with their friends outside,but girls like to stay with their parents to play with toys.
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
18 Jul 08
Even i agree to the fact, that girls are more attached to their parents, but in a single child family, where the child is a male, i have seen ppl love their parents and care 4 them more than girls. But of course not the same case always...I surely think girls are more caring and attached towards their parents.
@sudhajosyula50 (3808)
• India
18 Jul 08
Hi friend,
It all depends upon the parents.If parents look properly than the children give respect to both of them,if its not the case than he/she won't care about them.So all the responsibility of respecting their own parents depends upon their parent.If parents are careful enough in bringing up their children than children will also show their respects towards us.There is no question of boys and girls.Both are equally important and both have their own lovelness towards their parent.This is what i feel.
Have a nice day.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
18 Jul 08
My boys are very attached to me. I think it depends on how you raise them, or at least a lot of it does. Boys tend to be more independent and need to prove themselves while girls are comfortable staying close to their parents. Boys love their parents but something in them demands that they be independent. My husband wasn't around much when my boys were growing up--he was there, but glued to the tv or napping when he wasn't working, so the boys aren't very close to him.
My mother lives with me 4-6 months out of the year because her house is in Florida which has a horrible hurricane season. We both enjoy her visits here. My boys insist that I'll be living with them in my old age which is rapidly approaching, faster some days than others! 
@ramhoneywell (415)
• India
18 Jul 08
As i know that, generally Girls are attached to their fathers, and Boys are attached to their mothers. although girls attached to parents, the more attachment is girl to father, son to mother.
@Kayend (5)
• China
18 Jul 08
I think you're right.Our parents has taken care of us for many years,we should do somthing.When we grow up,parents are aways eager to talk to us.It doesn't mean that you just give them money.I think they really need is love from their growing up son and daughters.
@minglinda (3)
• China
18 Jul 08
Let's talk about this issue by daily things. A girl/women missed home, then she may go back home to give mother a hug and talk a lot,ask for mother's own proffesional cooking and help mother with housework and ... A boy/man may miss home too, miss very mcuh but he may not come back, just make a call and then hang off...
Compare this two kinds of action,we my get to conclusion that, boys just don't show it. But things are not alwyas due to one factor. Look at parents, the older they became, the more they act like child, Psychologically speeking, they are old and needs relatives or friends to accompany, and at this time, most girls will do more while boys just put the complicated feelings in deep heart, they want to do, but due to busy work or due to they clealy know that nature law is nature law, no need to do more, as whey they themselves are getting old, they will face the same things.
----Personal opinion
@biggerb (2024)
• India
18 Jul 08
Generally I feel its the girls who are more attched to the parents than boys.But in some families I find the boys very attched to the parents.There are exceptions in every case.In my family we are 4 girls and one boy.We girls are more attached to the parents than my brother.Wheras in my husband's family they are 5 boys and 2 girls.The girls were never attached to the parents they were always very indifferent.So it depends we cant really generalise things.it varies from family to family.
@AshleyHasan (1024)
• India
18 Jul 08
I certainly feel that girls are more attached to parents than boys, once the boy gets married and settles he his not very much bothered about parents but girls are same always they are there for parents when ever they need them.
@ReenaDKL (206)
• Mauritius
18 Jul 08
We are 3 girls at home, am the eldest.
Actually i know am not that close to my parents. Inever was before i got married nor now that I am. On the other hand am very close to my little sister.
I think it all depends on how your parents were when you were kids. I know mine were very strict, so we had a certain between us. I do kiss them hello when we meet but it's not like am gonna hug my dad when i see him or my mum...
My husband actually is more attached to his parents. Maybe because he is the youngest of 3 sons.
I strongly feel it depends on how you were reared when a kid.
@adamturner2007 (83)
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18 Jul 08
In my experience, girls are more attached to parents. I have 2 sisters and they're definitely more attached to my parents than I am! Maybe it's something to do with age too as I am 19 and they are 6 and 15, but I never remember being really attached to my parents. Maybe as you get older you grow apart from your parents?
@tin_cierva (241)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
being attached to parents depend on how the parent nourish the little minds of their children. if you train them to be dependent to you, so as to little things with be mama's still obligation, then that's the point that a child would always be attach to a parent, neglecting the gender.. children at the same gender seems to be very loving when taken cared with love and not with much of warning or slap on the butt..many cases today about maltreatment to the child of their own parents, or being brutal, violent, not so good example, that incidents would make a traumatic experience to a child..
