Is Marriage Important?
By sweethopia
@sweethopia (65)
Philippines
July 18, 2008 5:48am CST
I have been with the same guy for 12 years and we have a 3 year old daughter. We keep talking about getting married SOMEDAY but I'm not really sure it's going to ever happen for us. We have a comfortable set-up and we love each other deeply. I see people separating/ divorcing all the time and I'm almost certain that when they got married they really thought they were going to be together FOREVER. Is marriage really all that important? Right now it's not our priority but in a couple of years we could change our minds. I feel we have a successful relationship and ours is just like the relationship married couples have without a piece of document saying so. But is there any other benefit to getting married aside from I get to be covered under his HMO as dependent? LOL.
2 responses
@mialei23 (2385)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
sweethopia, marriage is important. This is special bond between a couple. You were blessed to have a child, so I guess this is the time for you to bless your relationship together. Your perfect together and you have a strong relationship. Why not getting to marriage. Take care, and wish you luck!
@sweethopia (65)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
Hi Mialei, that's the thing- right now our relationship is strong and we're perfect together so sometimes I get a little paranoid that marriage might change things :p I don't know. But we are happy and have been together a long time. Maybe someday we will get married. Thank you and take care :)
@bdugas (3578)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Yes the benefits like being covered under his insurance, getting his retirement or social securtiy for you and your child if something happen to him, thise kinds of things are the benefits of marriage. Some states reconize common law if you have lived with him for a certain period of time. As for marriage sometime I think that piece of paper does something to a perfect relationship. It seems like ownership all of a sudden. I lived 9 years with a man I truely loved, and over something so stupid we split. I have been married 14 years now and it has been horrible most of the time, so that paper didn't do a thing as I see it. If you are confortable in the way things are going, then don't worry about it for now. If later you feel the need to get married then it will be the right time. Or if you decide you want to have more kids sometimes it is better to get married for the benefits of the kids. I guess it all depends on how the 2 of you look at it.
@sweethopia (65)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
Hello bdugas. Thank you for your response. Right now, we really see no point in getting married as we have been together a long time and things right now are just perfect. I think right now we're going by the saying- "If it ain't broke, don't fix it". A lot of times I even forget we're not married. I only remember when people ask why we aren't married or when I see wedding scenes in movies :) I guess, we'ss just see if someday we do decide to really give it a go and if it will change anything in our lives.
