Do you keep secrets from your spouse?

My husband is a spender ever since he got work.We only manage to buy thru installment basis a parcel of land for the family,hoping one day we could save some enough to build our own house.Unfortunately having that dream come true is very hazy.So might as well save something without his knowledge.That's my secret...and i don't have plans of telling him unless i see myself that he has changed when it comes to our finances.

Hi,neelygal.In fact I don't have my spouse now but I think I won't keep any secrets from her.I think the most important thing between two persons is honesty,of course a couple shouldn't keep any secrets from each other.I will treat my spouse frankly and I think she will do the same thing to me.

My husband has made fun of my crafts in the past also. I don't sell a ton of my crafts but am excited when something does sell. He thinks it's silly. I look at it this way: he's entitled to his opinion. I did open an account at the bank without telling my husband a couple of years ago. Thought it was a good idea to open an account so I could have some extra spending money and a place to save my paychecks. This is a long story and I'll try to condense it. I wrote checks from this account on a regular basis. A check cashing service, not our bank, sold the information to an outside source. I had to close the account and in the meantime the account was opened and the banker didn't make it an non-interest bearing account. So, interest was earned and the amount had to be included in our taxes. I had to tell my husband about the account. Bummer, there went my big secret!

Hi , I am an open book and if i did want to keep something from him he would find out , and then be hurt i kept something from him . I have nothing to hide from him and he has nothing to hide from me . Sure , there are little ones here and there but nothing major !!

I'm not currently married, but yes I used to keep secrets from my husband. I had to. I also taught my son how to lie when necessary. I'm sure many here will think that makes me a bad wife and mom, but you see my ex husband had a terrible temper. He was rather abusive. So son and I learned early on that if it wasn't that important then he just didn't need to know about it. I can't begin to tell you how many secrets we BOTH kept from each other. His biggest one he tried to keep was the mistress he had on the side. That one was easy to figure out. He also tried to hide money so I wouldn't know how much we had. But I figured that one out too. Some secrets are necessary I think in a relationship. But to me usually they are small ones. If you want an honest, open and loving relationship then there can't be BIG secrets.

yes It is a top secreate which we share in bed room that should not be share with other, becose she sacrifice her complete life for her husbend there for she deserve a special care so spouce should not share with other thank

Im not a married women (young women) but i'm in love and he is going to be the one whom i'm going to get married too ! The sad thing is my future life partner is very frank to others but he not to me.But i'm very much frank to him, i try to keep him informed about every silly and serious matters happens daily and definately its a human nature to expect the same from him but he never shares it with me.When at times i open his mail i find that he shares many personals with his other friends that makes me feel sad.When i asked him about this irritating behaviour of his towards me he gave an answer by telling me " honey i know you will check my mails and thought you will know from it " after hearing this i always end up with tears :( but i knew my love will understand my true love and heart one day and he would change.Like wise dont worry have a positive attitude and show your hubby more love !

I was really sad to read about you. It is really difficult to get a spouse who cares, shares and encourages a person in all things. I never hide any family matter from my husband.But I feel that even couples should have some personal space. Each and every individual has his own secrets. So if at all he wishes to share with others, he can share it with his spouse. Otherwise that should be left undisturbed. I follow the same thing in family life also. Though we share everything, we may have some matters unshared or undiscussed. BUt we never feel for it. I don't think it is necessary for the other person to know each and every thing the spouse does..Anyways, my best wishes for your craftworks...

My husband and I have been married for 35 yrs. Will be 36 in August and I have not kept a secret from him. Now you have to understand that your husband is different than mine. He would not do any of those things that you mentioned so we are talking about two different situations. If my husband was like yours I would be keeping secrets as well.

No, My husband and I are very open with each other and tell each other everything :) We dont have any secrets... We trust each other and do not have anything that needs to be kept quiet from each other.

Not really, If i couldn't trust him enough to share things with him i would be divorced.

Thats a shame that he is like that! I also used to make cards but don't really get the time! It's good that you have something that you love to do that works even though he doesn't think much of it! I don't really keep any secrets from my husband except if it's for a surprise! x

Do husbands allowed to talk in here? Well pardon me if I intrude to this wives' discussion. But I just like to share something, and I guess not only wives has rights to keep secrets. Of course everyone of us has to keep something secret to our spouses. I have lots of secrets, even those things you mentioned, like the PIN, etc. But there are more things should be kept secret forever between spouses. And those are the things that we know, as spouses, that if told about it, would ruin the relationship. I have mine and she has hers. Although we both know that we have our own secrets, we never talked about that, so as to keep the relationship in good condition. KEEP SMILING = NEIL

My husband is very particular about time, I must be home before he hits back, kids should sleep at 8 , have dinner, with him being not so flexible with time I tend to lie him about my outings, I also maintain a secret bank account, he keeps my ATM card of a joint account we hold, which makes it impossible for me to withdraw money in emergency, this helps me a lot . Not that he trust me or anything for that matter, he has grown insecure over time. he wants me to be dependent of him all the time. staying at home all the time irritates me a lot. I can only think of going out without informing him, eventhough I feel guilty at times, I see no solution. cheers, bye.

I don't know if i fit in this topic because i am not married,but I have a boyfriend for 6 years and a half now and we live together,and it is true that in time you start to realise what were the things that more often brought argues between you and you start avoiding speaking about them(not to say lying or hiding) ... I am doing it,and I think he is doing it also, so I don't think about that too much because you would go crazy to start thinking of all the little details that you know would make you angry and would bring daily conflicts.. I am sure we all have things that we don't like about our partner,and we have to learn to live with it. I don't tell him either who i talk to on yahoo or what I speak about here, or what i speak with my friends,I know there are things that bother him, but I am an open person, and I like to be close to my friends and speak about everything,he would be annoyed by that,and find most of the subjects stupid. I didn't understand what is with the crafts you mentioned but I know how it is to be made fun of your ideas, I think men can't understand women sensitivity or pragmatism, they believe they are the pragmatic ones and our ideas are not important.I know,it is sad in a way, because you grow appart as you mentioned too, and you feel you have your own little world where you hide from time to time,and he is not part of it, and on the other way he has his own little world too with his ideas and thoughts,so different than yours... maybe some relationships are not like that,i really don't know if people share everything and accept each other for everything that they are... maybe those kind of relationships exist,but I think that in the end we all need a little intimacy of thoughts,something of our own..maybe it isn't that bad anyway.