Pee time??

Id say dont rush it, im all for letting them lead the way with potty training, even if that takes a while. Our first daughter wasnt ready until well over 2 and half years old but our second is just turned two and starting to use the potty they are all different, if she is really un happy about it let it go and allow her to have a nappy try again in a few weeks.

Oh potty training. The first one is the hardest. The others learn because they imitate big sister or big brother. 21 months is not too bad for pampers. Most kids don't start until they are about two. My first was dry at 30 months, my last at 24. I would be concerned if she is three and still running around in diapers. I think that let them do it at their own pace thing where some kids were still in diapers when they were almost five... well, I think that experiment didn't quite work out, lol. Anyhow, at 21 months you have to take a slow approach but she might learn it by the time she'll be two. First just show her the potty. Explain that that is where the pee and poop goes. Then have her sit down with clothes on. Read a book to her. Make it a special time between you and her. I know it's difficult with another little one around but she needs to realize this is her alone time with you. Do this regularly. By now you should have an idea when she normally feels the urge to pee, and especially, poop, usually after meals or naps. That's the best time to put them on there. They need to associate sitting on there with peeing or pooping. Anyhow, make sure she is comfortable sitting down for a while before you slowly start sitting her down with pants off, and then eventually the diaper off. Once they actually pee or poop in the potty, make a big fuss about it, do a dance and song thing, show her how you put it in the big potty and wave bye-bye when you flush it away. I know it sounds like much, but all this additional fuss makes them want to do it again. My youngest loved the bye-bye part so much, he would sit and try and squeeze out a drip of pee just so he could flush the toilet and wave bye-bye, lol. That of course is not healthy and put a stop to the bye-bye in our house... Anyhow, once they use the potty regularly, you can slowly reduce the fuss;) Those pull-ups where they feel the wetness are a good help, too. Mine absolutely hated the wet feeling. Having the success in the potty and not the nasty feeling they experience when peeing in the pull-up helped a lot.