Isn’t it odd?

Thanks, Mimpi. You’re such an inspiration to me, and what a beautiful response! I can understand why your shy personality and other things about would cause others to judge you wrongly, but I believe everyone should be given a chance. I’ve mentioned it before, but what a shame it’d be for someone to judge someone else who could’ve been their best friend someday. From now on, I’ll always give people the benefit of the doubt. If I think they’re stuck up, so be it until I can meet them personally and prove they really are that way. At that point, after I’ve met them and know what they’re like, it’s at that time I have a right to say whether or not I’d pursue a friendship. I wish we weren’t like this, but all of us have admitted to doing this at one point. It was really heavy on my heart the day I posted this discussion because of how many times I’ve been wrong. I didn’t post this to make myself feel better, but it really does help knowing there are others out there who have judged and been judged. I really appreciate how you included your personal experiences as well. No one deserves to be stereotyped like that. I’m also glad my sister-in-law-to-be ended up being such a sweet person! I’m very excited to be related to her soon. However, I don’t want to be guilty of doing this stuff anymore! Who knows how many possible friendship I could’ve had if I’d stopped this early on in life. Thanks again for your encouragement and inspiration. It’s great to hear from you and to receive your outlook on this topic. Take care and keep up the good work, my friend!

It definitely is odd or if it’s common nature to someone to judge people at first appearances, it’s not a good start to a possible friendship they could have with that person. It’d be a shame for them to ruin their chances by steering clear of someone just because of how they act, dress, talk, or whatever. I like your attitude toward the subject and wish more people were like you because I know it’s easy to look at someone and wonder why they do what they do. However, your perspective is to look at them with a compassionate heart to think deeper as to what would cause them to do such things. Of course, there are also people out there who we’d consider “normal” as well. There are such a variety of people out there, which causes this world to be such an interesting and diverse place. We ruin it when we assume everyone should act, dress, talk, and think alike all the time. I speak of society in general because I know so many people who would rather die than be friends with someone they didn’t have a good first impression of. I’ve been there and done it; I won’t deny that fact, but your response has really encouraged all of us, I believe, to no longer be guilty of falling into this rut. Thanks for your inspiration. I don’t think people should judge or stereotype others either. How would we feel when other people would judge us? I like your thinking. Keep up the good work, my friend.

Wow, great response! Thanks a bunch. Reading your post makes me feel so much better because of how many times I’ve mistakenly done this. I agree that it’s a relief when our first impressions are wrong, and the particular person we’ve misjudged is really very kind. Now that you mention it, I also told my sister-in-law-to-be what I thought of her in the beginning (once I knew her a little better, of course!), and she laughed because so many people have said the same thing. She’s just extremely outgoing and very confident with herself and really has no reason not to be. I feel very lucky now that she’s going to marry my brother! (LOL) So yes, I definitely like it when we’re wrong, but at the same time I’d rather not be so bad about judging people! I know it’s only human nature, but it still bothers me that so many people I’ve wrongly judged (in my mind without voicing my opinion, thankfully) have become such good friends of mine. Of course, you have the other end of the spectrum, too, which is thinking someone is sweet and kind, and they’re really just a jerk who mooches off you! I don’t like that either. A happy medium is nice. For instance, I guess I think I’m a pretty easy person to understand because I’m more of a “what you see is what you get” individual. I enjoy getting to know others like that because there’s a lot less to figure out about them! Of course, if you like the mysteriousness about figuring someone out, then that might not be so good! (LOL) You’re right – first impressions are awful most of the time! Thanks for your genuine response. I really enjoyed reading because your experiences are very similar to mine! Take care and have a great day.