How to help

You should choose the person you picture to be with you for life, somebody who loves you and accepts the real you.

No one can help you with that decision really, it is something you have to do yourself. I guess the best thing to do is to write down all the good and bad things about the two guys and your feelings for them both and then go from that. You should follow your heart on your decision and decide for yourself, good luck xx

It's all up to you to decide which one. It's a delema! If I were you in the end you will just choose one. You have to think and know really what you feel. Know your feelings first. Try to waigh everything. Take time to be alone. Think wisely and follow your heart. What will make you happy. Ask your self what's the reason why? What's your reason to split up with your ex? If he hurt you before why do you want him still? You can't expect yourself to move on still loving your ex. Ask your self if your just lonely and really liking this new guy. Have a nice day!

If you are in love with your ex and he loves you, the relationship wasn't abusive in any way and you have another chance, why not go for the ex? Give the new guy a chance but don't burn any bridges behind you. When you imagine your future, who do you see with you? Can you imagine a good life without them? That's who to choose.

if you love your ex and he still loves you then go for ex (simply ask him ) on the other hand do what your heart tells you.

It would probably help if you explained what you mean by a guy you're "meant to be going out with." Meant by whom? God? your parents? your friends? the universe? See, it's a little murky. As to the ex, you might consider why he's an ex in the first place. Did he treat you badly the first time? If so, I do not recommend going back to him. Did you treat him badly? Then there might be some residual resentment there you'd have to work through. And if it was a mutual decision, then are you sure you want to disregard all the reasons you two broke up in the first place? What I'm saying here is that this is hardly a simple cut & dried issue and you're going to have to look a lot more deeply into your feelings regarding the two guys, as well as the external circumstances. Best of luck with your dilemma.