His girlfriend called me AGAIN!
By raydene
@raydene (9871)
United States
July 19, 2008 8:11am CST
This woman has mush for brains!
She is the woman that he was having an affair with
and the reason I kicked his cheating butt out but
she feels like she can call me with her problems!
She has called me a number of times since last Sept.
when this all happened.
This last call she says" Raydene, I tested posative .."
I said" Stop right there..This is your problem and his"
She tells me he called her yelling at her and...
I said" Kathy, this has to stop. I have tried to be polite to you and behind my
back your were screwing my husband..you should be ashamed of yourself.." She said
she was..I told her if she had any conscience at all she would not be calling
me..that I am not her friend and I do not appreciate her intrusion in my life. I
then told her to never call me again and said good bye and hung up!
I'm so tired of being 'nice' to people that do not deserve it!
What do you think?
Thanks Friends
xoxoxoxoxo
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43 responses
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
19 Jul 08
I'm thinking I would have had that conversation with her the first time she called me. What does she think this is the 'Reba' show? If she was the one my husband had been cheating with and went to be with......not a good idea to call me with her issues. And you are right, she must have mush for brains, if she thinks calling you as a 'friend' is okay. It never ceases to amaze me how stupid some people are.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
19 Jul 08
She has some nerve. I am tired of being nice to people also because they do nothing but stab me in the back every time also raydene. I have tried several times to have friends in my real life and it never works out. You did the right thing here. Him and her need to figure their problems out by themsleves. they didn't ask you if they could cheat with each other.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
20 Jul 08
Seems to me that she wants to compare notes with you. Tell her that chapter in your life is over and you tossed the book out. Sounds like this woman is a real winner.
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@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
Well I think I will do the same as you do. Who is she anyway, she was the one who screwed up but then still calling me for her own reason? ahh, I will kick her too. Its really hard to be nice particularly for people who do not want to be nice.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
[b]She is simply pathetic.
She stole something important from you.
How dare she called you again for help.
If the situation is reverse would she like
your intrusion in her life. Probably not.
Just serve her right that you hung up on her.[/b]
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
20 Jul 08
Wow she has a nerve Sweetie, I can't believe she is calling you
And why did she tell you that anyway as you say you do not want to know
It has nothing to do with you that is their Business
I am glad that you did what you did I would have done the same and I really hope she gets the message this time
Hugs xxxxxx
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
19 Jul 08
I think you handled that BEAUTIFULLY...and IMO the way you've been handling it all this time (since Sept) just shows what a woman you really are ya know...Kudos to you raydene
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
19 Jul 08
Raydene, I think you handled this situation in a mature and diplomatic way. You were firm and straight forward. If you have caller Id, then I would start screening my calls. If she calls, she will only get the answering machine and the message would be promptly deleted. Or you could use the recorded messages as evidence for a restraining order against her.
You do not need to tolerate her intrusion into your life. She made her bed and now she has to live with the concequences of her actions. Her problems are not your problems.
Stay Safe, Stand Strong (hugs)
Royal Mom
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@LadyT1208 (181)
• United States
20 Jul 08
I wonder what in her mind would make her think it was ok to call you and that you would want to hear about the problems she's now having with him?
But I would want to know what she tested positive to in case it's something that may affect you!
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
Hi raydene! Oh my goodness! I think it is just right that you are being true to yourself and being honest with what you are feeling. I think that woman should have the decency and leave you in peace. You did the right thing my friend, let her handle her own problem with your X and they should not bother you anymore. She has to respect you and your feelings. You can't heal if you will be accommodating her still. Sometimes, you have to put your foot down and be firm.
Take care and God Bless!
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@Hatley (163773)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Jul 08
hi raydene I agree, the woman is what my hubbyused to
call a featherhead, meaning she was not at all brightl
The idea of her calling you to tell you she tested
'positive.what did she think you weresupposed to do
about it? wow. the nerve.I am glad you finally set her
straight. After cheating with your husband, she had
no rights at all to bother you about anything. she must
fight her own battles. she brought it on herself so
let her live with it. I think you went further than you had
to in being nice to that cretin.
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@ShealM (388)
• Canada
19 Jul 08
Time for a restraining order. You can go to your local police and get the papers to file in a court for a restraining order yourself. No lawyer needed for that, file for both a phone and physical restraining order. She violates it, you can call the police and have her charged for violation of the order and charge her with harassment. That's what I would do personally. You are not obligated to be nice to her, she is obligated to leave you alone. Make it a legal obligation now.
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@cottonm (753)
• Malaysia
19 Jul 08
my friend hav this kinda problem too, his bf ex wife often called her which make her feel very frustrated...sometimes, that crazy women will just called and shout at her or scold her, when a relationship is end, it is end, no point & no rights to interfere other ppl's life, coz nobody is responsible for your failure, u r the one who have to take it & leave it...
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@GardenGerty (161881)
• United States
19 Jul 08
I would spend the $5.00 per month and have her phone number blocked from my phone. She has no reason to call you. I do not know what else to say. I would do whatever it takes to get that point across.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
19 Jul 08
My first reaction was to ask what in the hell did she test positive for???? Not a STD I hope. If so you better get yourself tested.
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@dantakum (404)
• Nigeria
19 Jul 08
you are great and brive,i like the way you acted towards her you really did great.she's not to call you cos you have nothing to do with her it's her problem not yours so she should go else where are find a solution to her problems.i wish you all the bex.
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@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
19 Jul 08
Wow, that woman has some nerves! Next time tell her, since the calls don't stop you will get a restraining order against her and have her wh$re butt moved off to jail if she keeps harrassing and stalking you.
This is not the time to be 'nice' to people. Was this woman nice to you? Far from!
Although the tested positive part got me worried about you. I don't know enough about your situation, but since her affair with your husband seemed to have been behind your back, he may have gotten it from her and passed it on to you, if you still had relations. For your sake, get tested! Even if she just wanted to scare you, it's better to be on the safe side.
Take care!
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@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
Im quite amazed at your kindness because if it was me in your shoes, i dont know what i would have done. Really the nerve of this woman to call you and ask advice for her problems. I think she needs professional help. I was cheated on by my bf just recently and thank god i havent been contacted by the other woman. I just broke it off with him. I think that woman is full of guilt that's why she's calling you. I also think that your husband doesnt love her and she can sense it that's why she's bugging you.
@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
I am sorry for you. So you shouldn't be sorry for her. That woman was too much. Having an affair with your husband is one thing but using you as wind shield wiper to wipe her tears is over the limit. I say just hung up to this kind of people and stand up to her. Just don't say any words to her because she seems to just not listen to you.
