fall out of love?

Philippines
July 19, 2008 6:02pm CST
do you think it's possible that even though your together for almost 4 years, there's a chance that sometimes you think your already falling out of love? and sometimes your thinking how to live without him/her on your life?
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4 responses
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
20 Jul 08
I think its possible to fall out of love at any time in a relationship. if you think you are falling out of love with your partner then talk to them. If you are already thinking about being without your partner then you are probably ready to move on. I would discuss it and see how you both feel. Just don't let the fear of change keep you there longer then you need to be. I did that with my highschool boyfriend. we both wanted to break up for awhile, but every time we went to we got scared and stayed together. eventually it fell apart, but it would have been better to end it the first time we were ready.
@mommy7 (84)
• United States
20 Jul 08
I absolutely think that it is possible to fall out of love. I know from personal experience. People change, feelings change, and people grow apart. If you feel that you are or have already fallen out of love just be honest about it and try to go on with your life. In the end, you'll be much happier.
@acmomcee (49)
21 Jul 08
I have been in that situation way back. I only had 2 boyfriends in my entire life and the last was my husband now. My 1st relationship lasted for 5 years, and without realising it, I was already falling out of love. I entertained the idea of living a life without him. Then my 2nd BF courted me, got fallen for him. While we were together, there are instances wherein I can't help but compare. Compare their attitude and the things they differently can do. There came a point when I still long for my 1st BF. 5 years is no joke. Therefore, we both can't just forget everything. When there's a chance that we can see each other, we do so. And it seems nothing changed. And I know my second BF has a knowledge about it. And we already talked about it. Until I got pregnant with my second BF. That time, my 1st BF and I talked things out. That we decided not to have any communications at all since I'll be marrying the father of my child. I do love them both. But as many people say, you can't love two persons at the same time. So, right after I got married, I promised that I will never do anything that will ruin our family. So, I tried to forget everything about the 5 year relationship. Now, I'm happy with my family, knowing that I ended the other relatonship good. My advice is that, your feelings may change. But surely, it'll come back. So do what you think is best. It's either you forget about your treasured years together or do your best to stay and be happy together. Good Luck! It's just good for me, no matter who I choose, I know I'll be better. And now, still I'm happy..Very happy!
@adoremay (2065)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
Very possible, somehow as time goes on, feelings do change and if it does as long as your willing to commit and hold on to the relationship you can still make it happen. If you are no longer happy, then follow your heart.
• United States
20 Jul 08
Hi nampootah, I definitely think it's possible to fall out of love with a person no matter how long you have been together. I think that when that happens you naturally start thinking of life without them, what it would be like, what would be different, what you would be able to do, etc. It's if thinking all of those things makes you sad that you start to realize that you are in love with them and maybe you just need to do something to get that feeling you had in the beginning. I hope everything works out for you.