would you consider this?
By fulghum16
@fulghum16 (90)
Japan
July 20, 2008 6:51am CST
men: would you consider dating older women?
women: would you consider younger men?
let's say, ages ranging from 5 to 10 years older or younger.
if so, why?
8 responses
@michele_villasenor (624)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
I don't think it's really the age that matters. As long as we get along well and there's chemistry and 'magic', why not?
@michele_villasenor (624)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
I guess I'm just blessed. It's been 13 years since I got together with my husband and it just keeps getting better everyday. It's not always bliss but facing life's difficulties together brings out the 'magic' in our relationship. As we grow together and discover more about each other everyday, we just keep challenging ourselves to love each other better by accepting the little truths that reveals itself everyday.
@fulghum16 (90)
• Japan
21 Jul 08
i think, in reality, magic is absence of underlying truths of something. you'll realize it as you move forward on your relationship.
@fulghum16 (90)
• Japan
28 Jul 08
but maturity does not just go with age alone. i think emotional capacity of a person in dealing with things. EQ it is.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
[b]Me, as a woman i will not date younger men.
i just don't like the notion of it.
There would be a problem with some things
because of age differences. I want my date
to be older than me. Not too old, maybe two
or three years like that.[/b]
@fulghum16 (90)
• Japan
21 Jul 08
yeah same here. age differences somewhat affects more aspects in our lives than we thought. perspective in life, financial and emotional capability,experiences and etc. considering someone in your life, i think should not be 'regardless of his/her age' bec ideally, men should be older than women or the same age with women.
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
20 Jul 08
Your question was consider dating. My response have passed dating.
My God children's mother is 45 her husband is 71. WOW........she has 2 children by him, one is 9 the other just turned 6. I do not think this was a good choice for her, because she started cheating on him with a younger man closer to her age. She left her husband, and moved into her own apartment. The relationship with the younger man failed, she got sick, lost her apartment, then had to go back to her 71 year old husband, who gladly took her back.
She says as soon as she gets back on her feet, she is going to leave him again.
So my answer is depending on where you think the relationship is going, it is wise to consider the age gap. If you marry, think about how things will be if you are for example 45 and the spouse is 71.
Personally, I would probably go 5 years either way.
I have another friend, who is 54, her husband is 39, he is very immature compared to her. So I think you should think long range, what if we were to get married.
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My God children's mother is 45 her husband is 71. WOW........she has 2 children by him, one is 9 the other just turned 6. I do not think this was a good choice for her, because she started cheating on him with a younger man closer to her age. She left her husband, and moved into her own apartment. The relationship with the younger man failed, she got sick, lost her apartment, then had to go back to her 71 year old husband, who gladly took her back.
She says as soon as she gets back on her feet, she is going to leave him again.
So my answer is depending on where you think the relationship is going, it is wise to consider the age gap. If you marry, think about how things will be if you are for example 45 and the spouse is 71.
Personally, I would probably go 5 years either way.
I have another friend, who is 54, her husband is 39, he is very immature compared to her. So I think you should think long range, what if we were to get married.@fulghum16 (90)
• Japan
21 Jul 08
wow! a trend she keeps on doing. i wonder how your siblings doing...hmmm...this can be tough for them, the cheating and all. to consider dating or to marry someone beyond 20 yrs off your age can be like doing it with your son or daughter?!?
and by the way, cheating is another thing.
@relundad (2310)
• United States
20 Jul 08
First depending on your age whether this would be an option or not. If you are 25 10 years younger is not an option, while 10 years older is.
For me at my age, well over 25...lol...I would be looking for similiarities in our personalities, things we have in common, attraction etc. And I know that this is gonna cause some uplifted brows but on the same economic and financial level. If these factors are in place then I would not be so concerned with the age factor.
@fulghum16 (90)
• Japan
21 Jul 08
yes of course, 15? what would you be thinking. there are lots of things to consider beyond age preference. but i think age sets the boundaries.
@dpennington (16)
• United States
20 Jul 08
I have dated someone OLDER (i'm female) he was 20 some years older...to possessive....(he was) and since I'm only 27, 10 years younger would get me into alot of trouble that wouldn't be worth it. 5 years younger the men seem so young acting, they don't want to act like an adult. (most cases) So no I personally wouldn't date anyone that much younger.
