Do You Have Rules on a School Day?

I hate anything negative. Instead of putting 'He is not allowed to play his game consoles' try to divert the not allow to anything that you allow. Negative feelings will bring resistance from the other person.

this is fine.but dont forget they still need rules/guidelines when they are older.my youngest is 20 soon and still has to live by the rules we set for the house and been told he has the choice to live by them of find somewhere else to live.

well... i think that is a rather good plan, but does your child go to school or is he home schooled? if he is in school he maybe too tired to do what you want at times... so i think that he may dislike the plan after some time.... maybe you can push back the rewiew to about 2 weeks later, it will gove a clearer picture...

nope. i think thats normal and you are just concerned. u just intended to keep him in tract. as for me i have my own rule. if your in school you should concentrate and do what you are told to do. then when you get out it's already up to you if you want to get back home and study or fool around with other kids.

Yes .. there are always rules here and there. But then, the proverb says "Rules are meant to be broken".. So who care about the Rules. In fact in my class, there are a society formed namely the APS "Anti Prefect Society". Haha..

Yes! you are super-mega-over strict. I am not against with your rules in school with your child because thats the way you want for your own child, but I think you are depriving your son/daughter on his/her wants. I am sure your child want to do something new (Child thing) for himself. You can balance things with your child, I mean he can study and play on any day, even on their school day. Children should enjoy their childhood times not only on his/her school things but also explore them in mental, social, physical, emotional and spiritually settings. A child should comply with all those 5 aspects in life.

I think you are pretty strict but this isn't a bad thing, as long as you are fair and loving setting rules is one of the things your kid needs. I would never allow children to do as they please, there are allways boundaries for children or at least there should be so they learn how to behave in society and in their own home. Respect and a good day rhytm are virtues.

I actually think you are too strict but if you and your son are comfortable with your parenting ways, you should continue what your doing. The good thing is that your child will benefit from your parenting by being taught discipline. My mother wasn't as strict but also had a some rules. As I gotten older and developed into my teenager years, I received less rules and more independence. Some of the rules I followed as a child were to do homework as soon as I got home so I can enjoy the rest of the day. My mom would have to review my homework with me before I could actually say I'm "finished". Also, If i had a vocabulary test, my mom would review the words with me. She would also review any other material that I had problem with in the past and if it persisted, she would encourage me to stay after school to get some extra help and she would come pick me up. I don't think you should be reviewing almost every Sunday because it's called a weekend, that's the time of the school year, most kids look forward to. You can review with him though, try reviewing when it reaches around 6-7. Also, don't let your child sleep on sunday late because it is also considered a school day once it has became the child's bed time.

I too have a 9 year old and though we have rules not to the degree that you do, but thats not an indicator that you are too strict or that I am too relaxed about rules. I am more of the mindset that he has certain obligations associated with his "job" which is school which are mandatory and non negotiable. But after his "job" as with mine, he has to organize and manage his time to do the things that he wants to do. He also participates in sports almost year round, because that is what he likes to do. Obviously these are depending on how well he performs on his "job" and if you don't meet obligations then the extracirricular activities are the first to go. So he as a result normally performs well on his "job". My rules work for us. Here they are: 1. Up at 6:30 (he pops up like a weed, at a whisper of his name) 2. Breakfast at 7:30 (this is a must, and he will remind you if we are running late) 3. School from 8 til 2:30 4. Power Hour from 2:30 to 3:30 homework 5. 3:30 to 4:30 reading (he reads 1 hour per day outside of homework) 6. Bedtime at 9 Anything that he wants to do between 4:30 and 9 is up to him, most times like I said that he has some type of practice going on, when he is not practicing he watches tv, plays outside, plays games etc. Its just me and him so we eat dinner together every night and thats when we have our one on one discussions about the day or whatever. On the weekends he has either a game or whatever he wants us to do socially. Sunday we go to church and the rest of the day we decide what we will do. Monday morning back to work!

I believe you are just doing you best to discipline your kid. He is old enough to understand so I may say you are doing okay. When hi is a little older, it will be a habit that he would thank you for someday. Our son is only 6 and we apply some of the rules you mentioned like limited tv hours in weekdays or no tv at all if there are exams. But we don't make him sleep if he is not sleepy yet. What we do is read with him until him until he feels he needs to sleep.

That is the way I was raised. It is the way I raised all of my children.

I think that your regime is strict but necessary. I have 3 young boys who try to run rings around me but manage to get away with very little. I lighten up a bit on them on weekends by allowing them to go to bed watching a dvd but never on a school night. You have to be strict in order to retain control and respect! No one said it was easy being a parent! LOL

rules lead to rebellion. understanding is key--they must understand they have to study and stuff. also, rewards work wonders