Are you a good judge of character? Can you spot a fake friend?

Very nice topic. I dont have a lot of friends because I dont want a lot of friends. However a good friend is someone who will be with you through good and bad times. Someone who doest trust you. Someone who will always be honest with you. My best friend is great, heck there are times we dont talk for 6 months but we both know that we would always be there. It really is easy to spot a fake friend. They are the people who are about themselves, the ones who quiver and run at the first thought of tension. I do have to say in this world though my ultimate best friend is my wife. This August we will be married 20 years and we still have fun just like day one. I couldnt have aske for a better relationship. I do consider myself very lucky thanks again for a great subject to comment on Dale

I'm not a good judge of character but my mom and hubby are very good at it. I take after my dad for he's not a good one either. My way of thinking is this, it doesn't matter what level the person is, if they want to be a friend to me, I'll give them the benefit of the doubt until they do me wrong. All it takes is one time but I do believe everyone has to have a chance to prove themselves one way or the other.

I am better at discerning falsehood now than I was when I was your age. I like how you said they set up camp in your heart. I have had a couple of people really use me in the course of the relationships, and it actually took my kids to point out to me that it was not friendship. I have really smart kids. I have more online friends than off line friends. They do not seem to hurt or deceive me as often, possibly because they just are not as close.

Usually. I'm often analyzing them, in my head, as I spend time with them. I'm good at 'reading' people, but that's mostly because I rely heavily on my intuition. People say I'm usually pretty smart, but my head often misses things my intuition doesn't. The people who most often turn out to be fakes, cons, cads to my surprise...are usually people I can't read. Unfortunately, I'm drawn to mysteries alot...so I don't stay away from them as much as I should.

No, I can not. I thought that I had friends that were very nice and really out and loving me, but in all honesty, I didn't. My friends changed as soon as I did, and they really made those colors shine. I thought I was a great judge of character but indefinitely I was not.

I am pretty good at juding a charater of a person and of a friends . I have met too many people who were fake in my life , and I can now spot them out . Its sad that you gotta get hurt sometimes to get smart .

I am very good at this sort of thing. I tend not to make friends with people like that in the first place and I usually end up finding out why later on. For a while I was trying to make new friends as I only had my best friend who was "missing" at the time. As there were so few options, I just let anyone be my friend. I ended up getting to know one person who turned out to be a fake friend. It was obvious from the start and this friend has continued to prove what sort of "friend" she is. Unfortunately, there are too many people like that so I now choose my friends very carefully and selectively.

My jusgement of character has blown my husband away o numerous occasions. I'm able to spot a phony from twenty-five hundred miles away. I did once, when I heard the guy's voice in the background. I was later proved right when the person turned out to be a complete loser. Now when I say that I can tell someone's a certain way because of their oice (I hae eer bee wrong) my husand listen to me.

I have a real hard time with this. I am just to excepting and take people in. But I have found who my true friends are. In 1999 I became very ill and as a result of the illness I became disabled. I am not capable of doing a lot of things I was able to do before and because of this most of my friends just disappeared. I only have two friends who stuck with me through every thing I went through. I lost the people who I thought were my best friends. I have made new friends her online. Some who, even though they might live on the other side of the world show the care and concern. Something that people that I personally know do not show.

No not always. I am very kind hearted in here in mylot I have met quite a few nice friends you included. On the other hand people I have met in person have used me quite a few times. Like some friends that I use to live with years ago they really took advantage of me. With my money and also a few other things that I owned.So I can understand slipping up.

beauty queen yes I think I am a fair judge of character as I have just a few real friend but the kind who are always there for you as Iam always there for them, my son, my sons friend MIke, Nelda Rivers and her son Mike, those are my real true friends and they have proved that over and over. I also am blesses with some dear mylotfriends whom I care for very much. I can spot fake friends from the way they gush over you. real friends dont need to gush they know who you are. so gushing p eople are fake friendsw.

Hi Beauty..I always thought i was pretty good at knowing who was real and phoney until recently when a so called friend of 20 yrs pulled some bad stuff on me and took advantage..so if you would have asked me a couple of months ago i would have said yes..but now i'm going to ask them 20 questions..friends or not and if anything is amiss then BOOTED out the door..no more friend..LOL

I'm like you. In my younger years I had some not so good friends, because I really just needed someone to hang out with. Now I'm better and surround myself with better people. However I was recently hurt by some people I thought were my friends. I've learned that regardless of character, and how good of a friend a person may seem, they will always show their true colors when the going gets tough.

[b]That's my problem I'm always betrayed by my so called faithful friends. I'm not a good judge of character. I always end up in the company of wrong person. It's really unfair when all i ever done is to be good and kind to them. I'm so feed up with my failures that i no longer trust a person easily.[/b]

I am now, I did not use to be.

wow that is a really tough one. i've always been bad at spotting fakes. i believe in the goodness of human beings. so usually when people treat me well, i'll treat them as a genuine friend. however, experience has shown me that i'm wrong. i've been betrayed countless times and it really hurts. but i guess i will always be trusting. like a friend once told me, trust until cannot be trusted. i always give the benefit of doubt to a person until proven otherwise. cheers ;p

Hello beautyqueen26, I am not a good judge. I experienced quite a few times befriending someone whom I think will be a good friend later but it turned out to be a fake friend. It is alright with me as friend may comes and goes in your entire life. But, of course when it happens, I do feel hurt sometimes. That is the reason I don't like to share my problem with others. It is just hard sometimes to pour out whatever is inside your heart to someone that you call a friend.

Yeah, i can. My spider sense always knows the truth, lol. I look at mannerisms and eye contact and I can get a lot from a person just by being with them for under 1 minute. And I don't do this by judging them. I just observe and perceive and most people tell me all I need to know without saying a word.

Yes, I have definitely learned how to spot fake people due to all the situations I have experienced in the past. I have gone through so much drama in the name of "friendship" its not even funny. Therefore, I had no choice but to become smarter and wiser when it comes to people that are involved in my life. I just don't open up my heart like that anymore and I deal with people accordingly.

That's a good question beauty. I too usually can spot someone who is a "fake" but on some occasions I am fooled. Recently, in fact I got friendly with someone who my first instinct was that I didn't really like her. I felt that she was cold and aloof and moody and not the type of person I would want as a friend. Well, things changed and we became "friends" or so I thought. Then I got sick and went into the hospital and didn't see her for a few weeks. She stopped calling and her whole attitude changed. She left me a rather nasty voice mail message as if to pick a fight for no reason other than to end the "friendship". It turns out that she is the type that doesn't like to get close to anyone and when she does she sabotages it. She did the same thing to a mutual friend. So I try to stick with my first impression because I'm usually right.