Should I propose her...
@fulllydisturbed (122)
India
July 20, 2008 6:01pm CST
Guys i am in love with a girl though i dont know whether she is interested in me... she is a very beautiful girl and she has a strong financial background.. I am fair enough but i dont have much strong financial background... so is it right from my part that i should propose her... please help me with your advices as i am feeling like i shouldnt, becos till now we are very good friends and so if i propose wont it affect our relationship later...? if she rejects my proposal how should i aproach her...?pls help me with this..
3 responses
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Are you really sure you are in love with her or could it be you are infatuated? Are you just impressed because you are friends with a beautiful girl that is financially stable? I would definitely not propose to her till you have dated her and see how she feels. You need to take your time on this. Do not rush into this. You need to officially ask her out on a date and then take it from there. One date at a time. You may be sorry if you rush into this and she doesn't feel like you do. Do you have things in common? Do both of you enjoy being together? There are a lot of factors to think of before marriage is proposed. Good luck and best wishes.
@fulllydisturbed (122)
• India
21 Jul 08
even though our relationship is not that strong but she is always happy with my presence and why i dont know she has got every quality that i see in my kind of girl... but as you said it would be better take this to the point till she feels that she needs me... thank you
@kbjunior15 (1309)
• United States
21 Jul 08
If you do all of this and end up at the engagement stage, do the right thing and ask her father's permission. I did that when I got engaged and her father respected me so much for doing so. I know that is something that does not happen much these days anymore but I still think that it is the right and respectable thing to do. She was his little girl for so many years and he should know where you stand as you begin taking care of her:)
@kbjunior15 (1309)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Don't you think you guys might want to date before you propose? You've been very good friends, the is very different than being boyfriend/girlfriend. I had many great female friends that once we dated we decided we were better off friends
@fulllydisturbed (122)
• India
21 Jul 08
so you say that i should not propose her as she is my friend...
@kbjunior15 (1309)
• United States
21 Jul 08
I am not saying that you should not propose to her, I just think that you should wait to propose to her. Take her on some dates, hold hands, kiss, enjoy each other in a romantic type of relationship. After that, you best friend might just become your best friend for life. Or, you may find out that you two are better suited being just friends. I had one particular female who i was very, very good friends with in high school. We were very, very close and did all kinds of things together. I really wanted to date her but never wanted to ruin that friendship. Well, in college we decided that we needed to try the dating thing out since we were always together anyway. We dated for a few months and decided mutually that "just friends" was a better way to go. I am happily married and so is she now, however, we are still friends to this day. So go the dating route first. Don't rush into anything, especially engagement. If you do that now without having even dated, you might scare here away and not have her around at all.
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@intimate36 (1415)
• Pakistan
21 Jul 08
most of it depends on her nature..what kind of relations do you have with her? how mature is she..? Fear of loosing friend ship is always there, specially when you are not sure about her reaction.... so better propose her , when you find a proper situation...Best of luck
@fulllydisturbed (122)
• India
21 Jul 08
ya .. it will be better first to build a strong bond with her...then look for proposing her... thank you
