Can you change back?
By keasling
@keasling (723)
United States
July 20, 2008 6:17pm CST
My husband wants me to go back to how I was when we first married. He would like me to dress up more, cook more, etc. He feels like i don't show him I love him like I used to do. He may be right as it was 10 years ago. I had 2 less kids, had a great looking body and energy that never let up. Do you think this is possible to do? I am truly trying though. I want to make him happy like he makes me. Have you been able to? What is your opinion on this...
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Hi Keasling,
Here is my question, does your husband look and act the same as he did 10 years ago? Besides the part most men play in having kids, does he help you with them enough to give you time for yourself? Time to not only look good but feel good as well? Life takes its toll on everyone. Two kids did not just appear, they each spent 9 months in mommies tummy, kicking and moving at any time of the day and night. The point I'm trying to make is that life goes on and things change constantly. If your hubby wants that girl he married then he's living in a dream world. I'm sure that you are just as beautiful as you were 10 years ago. A few pounds doesn't change who you are inside.
Leenie
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@parrotheadmom (6)
• United States
21 Jul 08
People grow and mature. We should not stay the same person. If he is wanting some extra attention, that's understandable. Maybe you could plan some date nights or time together just the two of you. I find that helps my husband and I have fun like we used to.
If making dinners is tough, try one of those places like dream dinners where you can make a bunch at once and freeze them.
I know my husband misses the attention he used to get and I try to remember that. He understands how my two girls drain me most of the time!
So, do your best and work through it, together!
:)
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@Carrie26 (1587)
• United States
21 Jul 08
HI Keasling.I think he should love you the way you are.He has got to understand that when you have kids it is a little harder to dress up,cook more ,etc.You cant go back in the past as I do that all the time as I used to be slim and better looking back then but I am who I am now.Does he look the same as he did 10 years ago?I am sure he has changed some.We all do as we get older.Myabe not as much as us since we have had kids .I have hardly any energy either.And it make me wonder how my kids have so much energy and I wish I could have their energy passed on to me.LOL.I cook alot more than I used to.When I had my daughter and my son was 15 months we ate out alot as I didnt have the energy.Does he help out with the housework or with the kids so you can cook ,etc.If he doesnt then he is asking too much in my opinion.I fix myselp up when my mother -n-law takes the kids for the night or day But its not a whole lot.Maybe when thier older I will dress up more like wearing make-up which I used to wear all the time but now hardly wear at all.I think he should stop living in a dreamland.I am sure you are still beautiful as you were back then and he should be better understanding that you take care of the kids and try to do what you can do .If he wants you to cook more tell him to wathc the kids more as My kids like to get around me when I cook.I dont cook alot of homemade as it takes to long with 2 kids and I am not good at making things homemade yet.
